[Help] need help helping someone Updates to this post /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone Sat, 06 Sep 2008 17:15:32 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-4191378 Problem solved. Thanks for all your help. He’s got an apartment and a job now, and is on his road towards going to college.

]]> yassengregorovich Sat, 06 Sep 2008 12:01:11 +0100 Reply from Renegade_007 /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3727449 Well would he relocate if some paid the way and learn a new skill upon arriving? Can he be trusted?

]]> Renegade_007 Mon, 12 May 2008 02:12:52 +0100 Reply from sunshinebaby /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3727191 It’s a little hard to hear this but I’ve been down this road before. The short answer is you can’t help someone who isn’t willing to help himself.

It’s not easy. The whole being cruel to be kind. Because you will always blame yourself when something goes wrong.

But you also need to be practical. There is only so much you can do. You can’t live his life for him, can’t make better choices for him and you can’t protect him from his own mistakes.

You need to let him be a man.

A part of you has to be ready to step back and say, “Hey man, I can’t do this for you. If you want to get a hold of your life then I’m happy to help you but I can’t spoon feed you”

Sometimes when we care so much we end up stifling the person when they really need to grow.

It’s the hardest thing in the world. I took me 4 years to pull myself out of the mess that I got in. 4 years to realize that I couldn’t live someone else’s life when they were dying inside. Because chances are I would have died along with them. A part of me feels like it did. But the story doesn’t end so badly. Because that person is up and living a life of their own. She was my very close friend and now we barely talk. But I’m happy because I can breathe.

Did that help at all?

]]> sunshinebaby Mon, 12 May 2008 01:01:56 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726898 Ok, he’s worked at Kings Island (amusement park), Dairy Queen, and Retail stores. He can’t really move, he has no capital except for the $22. Not even a bank account. He’s 19.

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 23:14:17 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726770 Unfortunately, I know none of the above. He just dissappeared from MSN, I don’t think he’ll be talking to me anytime soon. I’ll try to give him this site though so he can get help from you people. Thanks everyone, I would have never thought people here would seriously help someone out with a problem like this!

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 22:17:11 +0100 Reply from Renegade_007 /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726746 What Skills does he have and will he work if offered a job someplace else?

]]> Renegade_007 Sun, 11 May 2008 22:10:39 +0100 Reply from sunshinebaby /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726733 I’m sorry that picture startled me so much i forget what im supposed to be writing about!

]]> sunshinebaby Sun, 11 May 2008 22:06:52 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726729 Post later on with the things he needs and maybe a direct access address. We’ll try to help. Make sure that he gets the help and that is a legitimate need.

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 22:05:44 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726725 I’ll give you the adress by PM. Thanks a lot for the offer! I believe $$ is the primary issue here. I might send him some, but like I said, I only have a very limited budget.

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 22:04:55 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726723 What city in Ohio, might I ask?

]]> Anonymous Sun, 11 May 2008 22:04:23 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726719 What is the messaging system?

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 22:03:34 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726711 Not the site, but the messaging system. I don’t know what he needs, I’ll talk to him in 20 mins and see what’s going on. But with $22, one can’t get too far.

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 22:00:06 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726705 Well, exactly what does he need? Money, clothes, food, what? Would you trust this site with his address so maybe he’ll get those things from some of us?

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 21:58:51 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726689 Ohio, and no, I can’t mail him, it would be too expensive. I have a limited budget only.

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 21:56:45 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726681 What state?

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 21:54:34 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726679 Can you mail him things?

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 21:54:11 +0100 Reply from yassengregorovich /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726678 Yes, he just told me his adress.

]]> yassengregorovich Sun, 11 May 2008 21:53:01 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726676 Do you know exactly where he lives?

]]> littlenick Sun, 11 May 2008 21:52:30 +0100 Reply from rstarzboxer /post/159867-need-help-helping-someone#reply-3726675 western union him some money??? Find places where he is at that can help him get on his feet.

]]> rstarzboxer Sun, 11 May 2008 21:52:24 +0100