Can I ask you a question? Why do you think you get to check out and the rest of us have to deal with the pieces of our so called lives, and make it through the best we know how. How come you get to decide your problems are far worse than my own? And why do you get to judge that my life is the life of “happiness” and “fancy free”???? Uh Someone tell me where that is, I’d like to go!!!

Our lives are lived out by our choices and our consequences we have to bear. Running from them doesn’t help, it’s the struggling through the hurdles that help us learn and turn from the wrong choices we made.

I suspect your identity is the main issue, and you may be thinking, I can’t help this, I was born this way… and all the other turmoil that goes along with it… you have to first start to accept yourself, and perhaps that is where the real struggle lies… you want to please everyone, and you have neglected yourself… and this isn’t a lifestyle you chose for yourself so you may feel forced into this conflict without a say.

No matter how obtuse you may think our answers are… you have to admit that the solutions are useless to you unless you try… and trying means giving it an honest effort, not just sticking the shovel in the dirt and saying there I’m done, I dug a hole… in order to plant a tree you need to get out there and dig… break a sweat… measure, and dig some more! Some times there are roots to dig through, rocks clay… and there is still work to be done after the hole is dug… you can’t expect your problems to disappear with a magic solution, and in fact there isn’t one thing that someone will tell you that will make you snap your fingers and say… ” That’s it!!!! WOW! that’s so easy.” Live isn’t easy, and you are just like the rest of us… we are someone’s daughter and someone’s son, we have children, or don’t we live in seclusion or we have a life full of friends and unwanted friends… we work, or we don’t… we are healthy, or we have illnesses, we are knowledgable or not, we are well travelled or we sit at home… we teach or we are students… the world keeps turning round and round…

It’s unfortunate that you will not be contributing more to your post… I would suspect that you are a very interesting individual underneath all the residual pain and conflict. Don’t sell us so short… help is here, but it’s up to you to take it.

grrr well all the ones i try to put on and none is working click on Original on you tube. and strip and dance throw it all in the air. njoy ur life. seriously. some things in life are ment to be taken seriously but come on don’t bring it down on your shoulders. let some one else help you with that burden. what ever is making you stressed.

I’m a functioning adult, and right now, things seem less for fulling than I thought they would be. I look at my fiance and my cat and think, it’s the small things in life I find joy in.

Maybe it’s time to focus on you, on romance, on happiness. You have your head on straight—you’re capable of being a functioning adult so, find what makes you happy. Love, hobbies…other than feeling depressed—you have other sensibilities.

As a whole when I look out on the world, I find it all very disappointing but I’m for filled as far as loved ones.

and, just so you know, no one ever said it is wrong to give up. Everything is a choice.
Good luck

There is an older dog with a big heart and a gentle disposition at the local shelter hoping against hope that you will walk through the door and take him home.

There’s a struggling college student out there who needs a tutor. And a group of lonely old folks at the nearest nursing home who would love to listen to you read to them. And a shut in who would love someone just to talk to about the every day matters outside the window.

You are here because you are wanted and needed. Please, don’t suicide. Instead, get dressed, comb your hair, and find one of those who need you. I think you’ll discover that you will gain the world.

:)

Sometimes we isolate ourselves, not realizing it is a self sabotaging way to prove to ourselves that ” see, I told you so ( yourself) that no one cares.”

Relationships take work, and they fail, and very few succeed in this day and age, and the ones that do show us that it takes hard work and effort to keep a relationship going. It goes through phases, and because of your lifestyle, you have set yourself up for much harder and more work to do.

There has to be understanding and leway in any sort of relationship and walking into one with a chip on your shoulder sends a very clear message… I hate you before you have a chance to judge me. Not everyone is that way friend, and you have to give it time, and weed out the negatives from the positives.

Your lifestyle isn’t an excuse to live the way you do, we all have some form of rejection or another… honest… but we do the best we can, and if someone can’t accept us for who we are… we move on… shake the dust from our feet, and learn to live and love anyway, regardless of what the hardened hearts suggest.

Your life is worth so much more than what you think. You are worthy and you matter in this world. You are loved and cherished, it’s just you have to stop being defined by the negatives and the mistakes made by you and by others. You have alot going for you even though YOU don’t see it. Empowering the struggles and hurdles in life are what’s bringing you down… you are not a “bad” person, and you have alot of good in you that is just overshadowed by sadness and torment.

Talk to a therapist, seek out groups who are struggling with similar issues… go enjoy you! Take up a pottery class… it’s easy and you know there’s something to be said by creating something from your own hands! Enjoy your time spent alone with yourself, get to know you… who you are , what you like and don’t like… take yourself out to a movie… or a dinner… try something new…

Go to the pet store and just look… look at the cute puppies and kittens sleeping or playing… allow your heart to open up to the possibilities around you.

look at yourself in the mirror, make a funny face… then smile… look deeply into those eyes and smile at yourself… look at the twinkle in your eye and look deep into your soul… then whisper the words… ” I am a good person. I have made mistakes but those mistakes no longer define who I am. ” then leave the mirror alone… do not go back to hand yourself a helping of woes… leave it at that… every time you pass by the mirror… oh blow yourself a kiss as if to say ” Kiss off you negative feelings…” but do not give anymore time to stare at yourself and tell all the bad things about you… we all have enough of those to carry around…

Make it a daily habit… annonymous and struggling, I have to say that you are a person who has still a wonderful future ahead but “if it’s gonna be, it’s up to me” you have to go take life… and go enjoy it… begin with the little things in life… and please check back here if and whenever you need to chat.
Glad you reached out!

But we can when we take a pause and ask ourselves what we want to do and what it is that we would like to accomplish. Giving up on life is not the answer to your wandering. But doing something out of the routine could be the worth trying.

Bex above has written good stuff for you to try. You can put something else that you would like. :)

I wish what is best for you. There is hope. There is still love.