[Help] I am infatuated with another boy in my grade. Updates to this post /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:58:27 +0100 Reply from xxikinkadox /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-5364639 He might just want a friend. I had the same situation with a guy in my grade. I thought he liked me (He didn’t know I was gay), but it turns out he just really wanted to be my friend because he thought I was cool. Sometimes them boys just don’t know the things they do have great affect.

]]> xxikinkadox Mon, 23 Nov 2009 08:44:12 +0100 Reply from do /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-5079375 *****

]]> do Thu, 18 Jun 2009 01:47:06 +0100 Reply from loner65 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-4922720 I am in the same situation as you, I’m a sophomore and a closeted gay, and there is this boy I am infatuated with. I met him in sixth grade but it was in eight grade when I truly met him. We were bestfriends for a while but then got into a fight. Now I have him in one class and see him everyday. He has a girlfriend, but I always see him staring at me and giving signs, like standing next to me or complimenting my ideas when I talk in class. I remember in eight grade, when we were friends we would say I love you, but in a casual “bromance” way. I want to start talking to him again, but the school year is almost over and I’m scared he’ll leave before I get the chance to talk to him. I don’t know how to approach him.

]]> loner65 Sat, 04 Apr 2009 21:38:24 +0100 Reply from whiteyxx /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-4004460 Being gay can be embarrassing if you don’t like being humiliated by people you’ve known for a while. I say make friends with him and see how you get on. If your lucky he might make the first move. When your comfortable, try to get alone with him in a stress free and quiet area, maybe one day after school? Then, ask him the question.

If he says no, the worst outcome is that he’ll go telling everybody. If he does that I guarantee somebody will have a laugh about you, but just think, you don’t choose your sexual orientation nor who you are attracted to, so what is wrong with it. Being gay is absolutely normal, and you should be proud of being who you want to be, never let anybody else turn your life around for the worse. If it gets out of hand, just go talk to people individually and show them exactly who you are and what you are like and why being gay changed everything when it shouldn’t concern them. Courage is the best weapon you possess no matter what situation.

]]> whiteyxx Wed, 23 Jul 2008 22:56:19 +0100 Reply from prat200 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3863332 LOL my name is sam powis you should add me on myspace because i’m also gay. myspace.com/futurehunk

]]> prat200 Wed, 18 Jun 2008 10:20:55 +0100 Reply from hotcubano888 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3771580 i would like to talk to anonymous i had the same problem!!!

]]> hotcubano888 Fri, 23 May 2008 21:50:10 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3765126 [quote Anonymous]back to the original topic…

Okay, I know that it would be irresponsible for me to assume that he is gay just because I am and I find him attractive, but if he is straight, how can I explain why he keeps staring at me, among the other things I mentioned?[/quote]

That is why you have to become a male friend first not a gay friend. Make sure you both are on the same wavelength.

]]> littlenick Thu, 22 May 2008 00:29:35 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3765049 back to the original topic…

Okay, I know that it would be irresponsible for me to assume that he is gay just because I am and I find him attractive, but if he is straight, how can I explain why he keeps staring at me, among the other things I mentioned?

]]> Anonymous Thu, 22 May 2008 00:08:43 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764728 I think we need to leave gordo alone or ignore him, he’s probably used to people ignoring him anyway. Stay on point.

]]> littlenick Wed, 21 May 2008 22:42:53 +0100 Reply from johnstc /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764726 lol, y do I feel like i’ve just got caught up in a gay pride parade?

]]> johnstc Wed, 21 May 2008 22:42:06 +0100 Reply from prettypoufy_anony /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764719 hah, it’s a fair warning?

I love seeing the irony of this. You say you found jesus and are obsessed with homosexuals going to hell now? Isn’t god supposed to love everyone who cares for others? So you’re saying the fact that I don’t have love for girls but care about others, devote my life to being caring and abundantly supportful is in vain?– I do much more it seems than you ever will gordo, I love others and do no discriminate. The world will renovate people like you and move them out– your hatefulness is just a sign of hate dwindling because you’re desperate to say something. The world is changing, get out of the past.

]]> prettypoufy_anony Wed, 21 May 2008 22:40:21 +0100 Reply from johnstc /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764716 “All gays are going to hell” is not an opinion, at least not a valid one made by a sane and rational person.

]]> johnstc Wed, 21 May 2008 22:40:04 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764713 Gordo you need to go somewhere else! That is all I have to say. Help.com does not discriminate or judge.

]]> littlenick Wed, 21 May 2008 22:39:05 +0100 Reply from johnstc /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764711 If u need someone to answer that for u, u probably wont understand anything said here gordo.

]]> johnstc Wed, 21 May 2008 22:38:46 +0100 Reply from katz200 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764707 [quote gordo9]Nobody told me I couldn’t voice my opinion. Im just giving a fair warning.[/quote]

you are free to express your opinion, you just dont have to be cruel or rude either;

]]> katz200 Wed, 21 May 2008 22:38:00 +0100 Reply from gordo9 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764706 An where was the insult in my statement?

]]> gordo9 Wed, 21 May 2008 22:37:47 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764704 [quote gordo9]Nobody told me I couldn’t voice my opinion. Im just giving a fair warning.[/quote]

Sorry, I don’t believe in hell, so your warning means nothing.

]]> Anonymous Wed, 21 May 2008 22:37:41 +0100 Reply from gordo9 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764693 Nobody told me I couldn’t voice my opinion. Im just giving a fair warning.

]]> gordo9 Wed, 21 May 2008 22:36:31 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764673 He gordo, don’t insult people they are not asking about your opinion on gays or otherwise. Leave him alone.

]]> littlenick Wed, 21 May 2008 22:33:21 +0100 Reply from prettypoufy_anony /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764664 That’s fine if I’m going to hell, I get cold so often anymore. :)

]]> prettypoufy_anony Wed, 21 May 2008 22:32:13 +0100 Reply from dchiibo /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764657 [quote gordo9]Y do ppl just except gays like this? Its rediculous. Gay ppl are going to hell!![/quote]

I truly feel sorry for you.

]]> dchiibo Wed, 21 May 2008 22:31:15 +0100 Reply from gordo9 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764642 Y do ppl just except gays like this? Its rediculous. Gay ppl are going to hell!!

]]> gordo9 Wed, 21 May 2008 22:29:30 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764619 You should become friends with him first. Don’t jump to the conclusion that he is gay. Get to know him better just like one of his other male friends then you will be able to tell whether he is gay or not. If just getting to know him does not give you the feeling that he is gay, then he’s probably not.

]]> littlenick Wed, 21 May 2008 22:25:20 +0100 Reply from katz200 /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764614 I would be friends with him first, then slowly get closer… and then if someone accuses you of being gay (once your close) judge his reaction.

]]> katz200 Wed, 21 May 2008 22:24:28 +0100 Reply from prettypoufy_anony /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764591 I would say the best way to find out is to approach him and talk to him. You can tell by his body language– there are certain attributes that might be apparent such as swish, or just certain feminine movements. I’m gay and it’s tough to figure everyone out because there is no direct stereotype, but the best way to find out is to become friends, then check maybe his myspace or just simply talk to him. Do not make it apparent you’re asking because you don’t want to be rude or obtuse, so just take it gradually :)

]]> prettypoufy_anony Wed, 21 May 2008 22:21:27 +0100 Reply from johnstc /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-3764590 U should probably just get to know him first, its not like hes gonna out u if u do that? Ya know straight guys do sometimes just talk to each other as well! That way u can find out in subtle ways without riskin urself.

]]> johnstc Wed, 21 May 2008 22:21:18 +0100 The post was retagged by dchiibo /post/163102-i-am-infatuated-with-another-boy-in#reply-5405718 dchiibo Wed, 21 May 2008 21:50:09 +0100