[Help] Is lying necessary? Updates to this post /post/163854-is-lying-necessary Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:08:46 +0100 Reply from emma_020 /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-5302878 Yes, I think it’s necessary. No one always tells the truth. A lot of times, we must say some little words to make sure we can live in harmony.

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emma_020 Thu, 22 Oct 2009 12:07:47 +0100
Reply from hassan-kova /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4864461 i thinl that liying is bad and it’s not necessery at all so in my opinion i think that we must say the truth even it’s bad but we have to(sorry it’s kind of late.lol)

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hassan-kova Thu, 12 Mar 2009 13:46:16 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165772 I thought I was trying to persuade you???

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:40:19 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165766 It’s all good :-) I hope, when you do sleep you sleep well. I will say this (regarding our last few exchanges) … Through the many many conversations I’ve had on this site, I must say one of the best was with someone who actually tried to offend me. Thing is, I cannot be offended. :-) The conversation went from one of a destructive nature (on his part) to one of mutual respect, and an admitance on his part that he learned something. Turns out, was actually a pretty cool, inteligent guy. So, my reason for writing this is just to say that I feel, on this site, you never know who you may end up helping by avoiding premature judgement.

BTW… I agree with your advice - next time, unless I know the person I’m talking with pretty well, it’s probably best for me to avoid *sarcastic/joking* insults.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:37:07 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165718 I’ve been up all night too, so my judgement is impaired by now.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:23:54 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165703 No worries :-) Yeah, I was just trying to make a (bad) joke. I actually don’t have it in me to offend someone, solely for the purpose of offending them.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:21:13 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165702 I just wouldn’t say that anyone was lying, unless I could prove it, even as a joke. People base the credibility of help on this site upon whether people have been honest in other posts. If my advice was right and someone failed to follow because of a glib comment then serious harm would result. I don’t think that I’m always correct about everything, but I think people need to decide how honest I am based upon what I say and do.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:20:56 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165682 I overreacted. I’m sorry. I should have tried to understand why you said that.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:17:25 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165671 Did you really?? :-) I’m smiling, while wondering if I’m gullible, and also concerned, wondering if I actually offended you.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 09:15:02 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165626 I reported your last post saggezza for being slanderous.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:58:09 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165622 You’re lying!! lol :-)

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:57:10 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165618 Couldn’t be better since I’ve started.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:54:13 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165614 And do you feel that approach will serve you well, for the rest of your life, as well as, benefit the people are you? I understand that it might be possible to never tell a lie, but will it allow you to prosper, and will it allow your social group as a whole to prosper? I believe that such behavior would, in fact, be extremely detrimental.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:51:44 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165482 Yes. I can omit the truth without telling a lie. I just won’t anwser instead of answering with falsehood. I find it’s much more fun to tell the truth.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:14:23 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165469 Hmmm… Just found this interesting article. http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A996942

Let me ask you this. Could you go the rest of your life never telling a lie?

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 08:11:07 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165413 [quote Saggezza]The VAST majority of children grow up to be wonderfull, productive members of society. If that weren’t true, humans would have gone extinct a long time ago.[/quote]

If that were true people would be at peace.

And I’m not addressing hypotheticals. Real examples only.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:58:33 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165406 [quote uncledwayne]And how often do children grow up to become rotten adults who lie to their children?[/quote]

The VAST majority of children grow up to be wonderfull, productive members of society. If that weren’t true, humans would have gone extinct a long time ago.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:57:09 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165398 Let’s say a plague is spreading, causing death and despare. A person, who is far more enlightened than most, believes that the plague is being spread by tiny things that nobody can even see. And, that person disovers that by washing your self regularily, using a certain mixture of “stuff”, significantly decreases the risk. But, nobody will believe that tiny little things they can’t even see are floating in the air and causing all this death - so, they ignore his advice. So, instead, he says there’s something in the dirt that makes you sick if it gets into you through a cut, or whatever… So people start regularily washing.

Or, “Santa will only come if you fall asleep.” The kids get some much needed rest, there imagination runs wild, parent’s get to spend time toghether on a special night, the family wakes up and enjoys a wonderful morning.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:55:14 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165338 And how often do children grow up to become rotten adults who lie to their children?

Since when can one person lying be mutually beneficial to an entire group?

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:37:25 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165334 Consider all relevant angles. Lying’s usefullness (sp??) is not restricted to gain something by taking from others. In other words, one person telling a lie can be mutually beneficial to an entire group.

Also, you are an itenligent person who can deal with truth. You have the mental capacity to handle difficult situations. However, there are weaker people who simply cannot deal with some truths. For example, children. How often do adults lie to children in order to keep them safe?

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:36:07 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165263 Lying is also know as bluffing. Bluffing is misrepresenting facts for one’s personal benefit. We evolved bluffing to defend ourselves against greater predators. We made ourselves appear stronger than we were. Then we became stronger than greater predators. Then we killed most of the greater predators. Now we have nothing that we need to bluff against, but we bluff against each other. Since we both now that we’re stronger, we end up fighting each other and cutting each other’s throats. There. Lying is destructive because we have noone we need to lie against to survive.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:16:18 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165250 “Probably”??? :-) c’mon, you can do better. Seriously, I’m interested to hear the other side of the debate. So far, this post has, more or less, concluded that lying Is necessary. If there’s a strong argument to the contrary, I’m interested.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:13:01 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165236 Because it provably destroys.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:09:40 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165222 Tell me why. Explain why lying is not a nessesary act, or behavior, to maintain a productive society.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:07:35 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165206 Again. No, lying isn’t necessary.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:03:28 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165200 Have you read the post in its entirety? The question is not meant to be answered with a utopian perspective, but rather, from an evolutionary perspective. The answer is deeper than desire.

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Saggezza Sun, 31 Aug 2008 07:02:34 +0100
Reply from uncledwayne /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4165195 Lying isn’t necessary and it’s one of the most destructive elements in society.

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uncledwayne Sun, 31 Aug 2008 06:59:07 +0100
Reply from Anonymous /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4080403 Well, if you’re a politician, it’s as nessecity!

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Anonymous Sun, 10 Aug 2008 19:53:26 +0100
Reply from fishman65 /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-4050897 I would say yes lying is needed but you shouldn’t over do it.

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fishman65 Sun, 03 Aug 2008 10:36:53 +0100
Reply from Hybrid Theory /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3988552 Lying might be necessary, but here is another question. Should it be? Is it right that it is, or are you justifying wrongs by explaining their need.

And think about this…

If no one lied, would it still be necessary. If everyone told the truth all the time people would have to learn to handle the truth, making them stronger, thereby making lying unnecessary. Maybe lying has made people too sensitive. And if you argue that those with power must lie to retain said power, if they didn’t lie in the first place to get the power what would they have to lie about to keep it?

[quote Saggezza]is lying necessary because, otherwise, mankind would not be able to handle reality in a manner efficient enough to overcome …. something, what??[/quote]

Mankind would learn to handle it or perish. adaptation, survival of the fittest. Conveniences make people weak. Think about it. 200 years ago most people knew how to do things that few do now, because we have conveniences(technology/services) that do them for us. 200 years ago most people could sew and make their own clothes, now we have machines and companies to do that for us and most of us have lost that ability. Maybe lying has caused us to loose the ability to cope with hard truths. If we didn’t lie, would we need to?

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Hybrid Theory Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:00:19 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898229 wow, maybe i should take debate next year.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:13:49 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898227 So, lying IS necessary. Interesting. :-)

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:13:04 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898221 that sounds about right.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:11:47 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898219 [quote YeOldeBacon The Bard]each other?[/quote]

Hmmm. very interesting. Didn’t think of that. But that would imply that humans are inherintly self-destructive. So, without lying (among other behaviours) to offset mankinds destructive behaviour, humans would die off.

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:11:17 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898216 i disagree. when you come to power, there are naturally things your going to need to keep a secret in order to maintain that power.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:09:09 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898210 Efficiency=speed=power, I agree with that. I disagree with power creates secrets. Secrets are not necessary to maintain a power position.

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:07:57 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898206 [quote Saggezza]is lying necessary because, otherwise, mankind would not be able to handle reality in a manner efficient enough to overcome …. something, what??[/quote]

each other?

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:06:54 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898202 efficiency = speed, speed = power, power creates secrets, secrets need to be kept, thus lies are told to protet them.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:05:17 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898195 But, is it necessary. In other words, could mankind exist and flourish if we were incapable of lying. Like you said, lying=convenience=efficiency. So, therefore, is lying necessary because, otherwise, mankind would not be able to handle reality in a manner efficient enough to overcome …. something, what??

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 08:01:44 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898183 Sag, i misunderstood the question but the answer remains the same. in order to sustain our society, a lie here and there is unavoidable. some people are just better off not knowing certain things.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:57:28 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898180 [quote aussiepaint]Come on guy’s…..one step forward all those that havent told a little lie…..I thought so ![/quote]

Of course everyone lies. That’s the source of the original question, Is lying necessary to sustain a productive society?

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:56:09 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898179 i like how we can all come in a month after the fact and just continue the debate.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:56:03 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898178 [quote Saggezza]OK… Then, are conveniences necessary to sustain a productive society?[/quote]

in a sense, yes. conveniences = efficiency.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:55:28 +0100
Reply from aussiepaint /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898174 Come on guy’s…..one step forward all those that havent told a little lie…..I thought so !

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aussiepaint Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:54:01 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898171 OK… Then, are conveniences necessary to sustain a productive society?

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Saggezza Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:52:53 +0100
Reply from BaconByAnyOtherName /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3898146 [quote saggezza] Is lying necessary?[/quote]

no, its convinient.

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BaconByAnyOtherName Fri, 27 Jun 2008 07:23:03 +0100
Reply from Ser3nity /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3776124 i think it is necessary… like if u cant say nething nice.. dont say nething at all.. i dunno most ppl are not happy to hear the truth and being fake to each other seems to keep things at peace

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Ser3nity Sun, 25 May 2008 07:25:57 +0100
Reply from aussiepaint /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3773193 One thing I do know….if your going to lie make sure you got one hell of a memory.

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aussiepaint Sat, 24 May 2008 12:03:19 +0100
Reply from Opeth /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3773171 If people didn’t have emotions, no one would need to lie.

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Opeth Sat, 24 May 2008 11:45:50 +0100
Reply from Saggezza /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3773076 [quote spiritedsoul]well, it depends on the situation.[/quote]

Well, I’m talking about **generally**… Is lying necessary to maintain a productive society. If everyone always told the thruth, where would we be (as a society).

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Saggezza Sat, 24 May 2008 09:48:21 +0100
Reply from spiritedsoul /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3773070 well, it depends on the situation.

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spiritedsoul Sat, 24 May 2008 09:44:58 +0100
Reply from Chris UK /post/163854-is-lying-necessary#reply-3773053 I don’t know if it’s necessary, but I find it’s definitely necessary to know how to lie.

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Chris UK Sat, 24 May 2008 09:35:09 +0100