[Help] Why does everyone have a need to be loved? Updates to this post /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:12:15 +0100 Reply from fralci /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-4817219 If humans have the need TO BE LOVED then we are bound to suffer. If we need the love from somebody else we create external happiness. And that is in contradictory with every spiritual teaching there is. If we DEPEND on others to make us happy we will always get dissapointed and we will suffer. OUR TRUE NEED IS TO LOVE AND BE FREE NOT TO BE LOVED.

]]> fralci Wed, 25 Feb 2009 00:46:22 +0100 Reply from dmfstalling /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3885033 we were designed by the creature with the need for human contact, even a infant baby when first born when it does not receive human contact it wont grow mentally and it could possibly die.So its only natural to want to be loved because its essential for are survival. But a person does not neccessarily need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy. He can choose to devote his life to other things god, a career, etc, and still be happy.

]]> dmfstalling Mon, 23 Jun 2008 23:03:11 +0100 Reply from Listy gurl /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3851878 Not all of thats true, A person can easily be strong enough to be by themselves and not have a low self esteem. They don’t nessacerily whine about not being loved, But they could still Have that small part of them that wants to be loved.
A person could have a desire to be loved, and have no one know that they want that.

]]> Listy gurl Sun, 15 Jun 2008 17:32:39 +0100 Reply from Amethysteria /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3806202 People who claim they need love have low self-esteem and cannot validate their identites without being in a relationship.
The more confidence and strength that lies within your character, the less likely you are to whine about love.
Those who claim that they are in love without addressing the other’s needs have low self-esteem and are emotionally attached just to make themselves feel more important.
Those with real strength within themselves are the only ones who will genuinely care for the welfare of others. They are not going to ask for love! Why? Because they don’t need to. Love will come to them naturally.
The others who whine for it are all self-centered. This includes myself, and now that I have realized this - I wish to work on improving myself in character. Love will not be a yearning of mine; it will simply be a gift bestowed upon me, as a reward for remembering life’s priorities.

]]> Amethysteria Tue, 03 Jun 2008 01:27:41 +0100 Reply from Listy gurl /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3786582 annlovestars: Thank you for putting up the songs, It’s a really good song.

]]> Listy gurl Wed, 28 May 2008 02:56:18 +0100 Reply from Listy gurl /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3786223 Thank you for all your replies.

Ill watch both the youtube vidoes, and I will try to find the movie ‘In The Wild’.

]]> Listy gurl Wed, 28 May 2008 00:45:26 +0100 Reply from Shakeybritches /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3779253 Wonderful Post!

Everything we need to sustain life for ourselves, are just shadows of what love is.

Why do we need love you ask?

Why do we need to breathe?
Why do we need to eat?
Why do we need to move?
Why do we need to drink?

Why do we need to touch, and daydream, why do we need to watch as the sun sets or rises, why do we close our eyes as the cool summer breezes wash over our bodies, why do we look upon the starry sky at night and feel an infinite awe in our gut, why do we beam brilliantly with a smile when we see a child playing……what is it that makes me want to jump up and scream to the world………..somebody loves you!?

The most tangible intangible. you can’t see it, but you see it’s results, you can’t touch it but you can feel it touching you…….LOVE……truly it is DIVINE!

]]> Shakeybritches Mon, 26 May 2008 04:13:15 +0100 Reply from Dreamgirl /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3779112 Love is a wonderful thing! That is why some people loves to have that wonderful thing, some people are scared of it so that they are opinionated and some people thing that they will never find that wonderful thing so they think it is stupid just to make themselves feel better …. to be loved is like a refund for something precious you gave away … so

]]> Dreamgirl Mon, 26 May 2008 03:25:32 +0100 Reply from ayc /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3778557 i have to admit, i never really knew the point in it, until i experienced it, and i had to wait a very long time.
looking back, i wish i had learnt earlier, i envy other people now, i mean my life was great, so much fun and messing about! so cool! but it just would have been even better then, if i had learnt and was in a good relationship at the time.
im not going to try to explain it. who can? thats why we have artists and musicians.
but i do know, it is important, however you ‘feel’ it.
if only for the fact we are social creatures and we all need someone we can trust and someone to live for.
sorry for a weird answer ;)

]]> ayc Sun, 25 May 2008 23:42:59 +0100 Reply from Naska /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3777546 - I mean, Why can’t some people just decide to want to be by themselves, and not still want to be loved by someone?

Who said they can’t? The people that do that are just few and far between.

- Or why is it that if someone can’t find someone that will truely love them, They settle for someone who doesn’t love them?

Because they want the attention more than they want love.

- Why does love have to be such a powerful need in life?

A lot of people confuse the concepts of love and attention. Many people feel the need for attention because they don’t be leave in themselves. They don’t like who they are and be leave that the only way to feel better to for others to “make” them feel better.

- If a person can find true love then they are the luckiest people in the world, but why does it have to be so hard?

Because not everyone knows what true love is, but just about everyone wants to go around thinking they know. It’s hard to find something if your are looking for the wrong thing.

- Why is it that love can be such a happy thing, and such and incredibly painfull thing?

Love itself not a painful thing, but there are many pretenders out their that would unknowingly & knowingly masquerade under the name of love.

]]> Naska Sun, 25 May 2008 18:49:55 +0100 Reply from jezzy9 /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3776593 if u r really interested in this watch the movie: IN THE WILD. it’s a great movie, the kid decides he doesn’t need money, or people. he wants to walk the country(usa) by himself and live off the earth. may not sound interwesting but it really really is. especially to see the things he realizes about life-WATCH IT

]]> jezzy9 Sun, 25 May 2008 14:12:17 +0100 Reply from Tear Jerker /post/164177-why-does-everyone-have-a-need-to-be#reply-3776413 I read this once on the wrapper of a lolly I ate, I think it kinda applies to this-
True love makes all the aches and pains disappear
Could this be why we search and crave for it? Because we want the aches to fade away, the pain to leave us be. annlovestar is right, humans are very social beings. When you put a bunch of us in a wide room we bunch together rather than stand alone. Unfortunately love is difficult sometimes but only because we make it so. There are so many worries that we think about when we should be thinking about what makes us right, not wrong. Humans will always have doubt, that is what makes us both wise and silly.

I personally will never truly understand what makes love hurt, but I do understand what makes it feel good. It comforts us, lets us know we are not alone. Lets us know we are real and we exist. Love can heal even the deepest wounds, if we let it in.

]]> Tear Jerker Sun, 25 May 2008 11:18:39 +0100