[Help] I am 17 years old. Updates to this post /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old Sun, 06 Dec 2009 06:02:31 +0100 Reply from centralcoastsingles /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3863265 You cannot say either way. As leader of a local singles group, I hear all sorts of stories both ways. Some say they wish they had not started that young, others say they wish they had. Just realize that there is a trade off. If someone stifles you and keeps you from being who you need to be, that is not a healthy relationship. You need someone who will grow with you and share with you. If he cannot do that, then perhaps your relationship will make you miss out. If he can swing with the pendulum, then maybe it will work out. There is no crystal ball. People let fear rule them either way. Fear that you won’t grow and will miss out, fear of being without him. You can only see where it goes in time. If you stick with him, and it hinders your progress in life, then it is not healthy. If he encourages you and helps you move forward, then it is good.

Most women who regret starting early say they wish they had taken time to discover themselves and build their life first. They wish they had finished school and grown before picking a man. There is still no guarantee of a healthy relationship later. Just don’t hold yourself back from life and prosperity because you felt tied to someone. A gf of mine was very well off, with lots of school and success in her career. This all happened AFTER losing her high school sweetheart. She continued with school while married, but was not able to pursue her career until she divorced him for cheating.

What I am saying is that you are letting fear control you either way. Make a choice that will be right for you and stick with it. Don’t let fear stand in the way of your future, whatever that might be. Make the choice and feel good about it.

]]> centralcoastsingles Wed, 18 Jun 2008 09:49:03 +0100 Reply from Nothing & No1 /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3860155 yeh you def met him too young. Man I remeber 17 I thought I was an adult and come to realize now a 23 I was sooo immature and you learn alot and your mentality is so dif. enjoy your collge years cuz you’ll never get those back.

]]> Nothing & No1 Tue, 17 Jun 2008 19:04:30 +0100 Reply from bovinepant /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3860046 Don’t end a relationship you enjoy because you MIGHT miss out later, doesn’t make any sense. C’mon, “feel the real college experience with him” what do you suppose the “real college experience” is? Bucket bongs, spring break and frat orgies? University is a stimulating and exciting environment, theres plenty to do besides what many like to call “experience” and having a relationship isn’t a hindrance. Further more you might find that you’ll grow apart naturally as your studies and interests develop and you don’t need each other so much anymore, thats nothing to be afraid of and will be manageable too. I wouldn’t anticipate too much just yet, be happy where you are, if it doesn’t fit later, deal with it then.

]]> bovinepant Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:43:00 +0100 Reply from Left /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3860028 I have been with my man for almost 20 years and yes we have had major ups and downs in that time.
We were 16 & 17. We have gone through alot in our years together. I have enjoyed growing up with him and maturing. Experimenting on lots of levels won’t go into detail. Having his children. When we met I fell in love after about 3 days he took a bit longer. I chose him over a career in the army. I love and respect him and will continue for as long as its returned.

]]> Left Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:38:58 +0100 Reply from lagalleta /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3859947 you have been with him since you was 15 if i am not mistaken, and you say that you feel you been missing a lot of things because you are with him. Well let me tell you you dont have to miss anything, talk to him, tell him how do you feel about missing the things that goes around your age, he will understand and probably both of you can enjoy and share things together. you may be surprice.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> lagalleta Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:20:41 +0100 Reply from essence /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3859906 But if he is hindering you from doing the things you like or not encouraging/supporting you to do things you find interesting then you should think about whether this is what you want or not.

]]> essence Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:07:19 +0100 Reply from essence /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3859893 Although im not in your situation my friend is but shes 18 going on 19. She always ask me if she is missing out on college life. Plus this is her first real relationship but i can never answer her because i dont know. Some people dont mind others feel they need to experience life on their own before settling down. I think you can still have fun and be in a relationship. Heck why not experience it with someone you truly care about. You can have your own life away from him and do things with him as well. So in saying that i dont think you will be missing out on any thing.

]]> essence Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:04:47 +0100 Reply from That Other Dude /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3859883 Missing out on the dating scene?

What is the point of dating? To find someone you want to be with, which you already have. I wouldn’t call that missing out, I’d call that pretty **** lucky. If it takes you thirty tries or one to find the right person it doesn’t matter. You have the one you want so just stick with it.

]]> That Other Dude Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:01:19 +0100 Reply from hey...iknowyou /post/171381-i-am-17-years-old#reply-3859882 College isn’t just about meeting girl/boyfriends. I’ve been going out with my girlfriend since long before I started college but I’m still having a great time at it. As long as it is a healthy relationship and doesn’t mind you doing things on your own then I don’t see why it would be any kind of problem that would prevent you from enjoying college life. Hope this helps :)

]]> hey...iknowyou Tue, 17 Jun 2008 18:00:37 +0100