[Help] I recently lost the girl that I have had a thing for for years. Updates to this post /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:01:03 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256253 Nice to meet you.
And get some nice clean air outside.
Talk to you soon.

-lilies

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:28:40 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256251 My people are here to clean me up. I have to go. I’ll be back on tomorrow. Try to find you. I have to go get scrubbed up and have my skin cleaned. It was good talking to you. I hope you feel better about your situation. Life looks up for some people and hopefully you are one of the ones it does that for.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:27:03 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256250 You are dealing with a lot of things now. I cannot help you with anything but i am just here to talk. I am also deaf at times so i don’t hear what other people mean. And blind so i don’t see how people care.

But as long as my heart is intact, i am whole again.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:24:47 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256249 It’s hard but I manage.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:22:27 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256248 I take care of myself.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:21:52 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256247 okay. but is someone taking care of you?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:21:30 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256246 Like I said. I’m not a whole person anymore. I’m not a normal person.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:21:08 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256245 I pushed my buddy in a hole and didn’t get in myself and ended up getting pretty messed up from the explosion. plates, screws, loss of parts of me, permanent nerve damage… Long list.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:20:17 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256238 Well what happened to you?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:16:45 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256237 No Camp, this post is about you, not about me. :) so i would not bore you with my sentiments, we will talk about it some other time.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:16:28 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256236 I was a really good looking guy before what happen to me. I was really outgoing and always brightened everyones day when I walked in the room. Now I’m ****** up and if I do go anywhere I get stared at like I’m a freak.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:16:09 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256232 Why unhappy?

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:14:20 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256231 Where in the world do you live? I’m in Georgia.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:13:48 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256230 I’m also unhappy camp. It is always up and down thing for me. I made a post about it infact, i just need support.

And i believe it is the same thing you need.

[quote Ccampb52]happy early bday.[/quote]

thank you. you are the first one to greet me.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:13:46 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256228 happy early bday.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:13:13 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256226 People leave me because I’m so unhappy. They don’t want to be around me.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:12:22 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256224 Me? i’ll be 30 this week.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:12:11 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256223 How old are you?

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:11:42 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256220 You are very young. You still can accomplish a lot of things. I read somewhere about your accomplishments. Why do you ever think people get to leave you?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:11:24 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256219 25 years old

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:10:33 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256218 I am sorry, i could not read long post, i have ADD. Have you mentioned how old you are now?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:10:00 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256217 I have two. I’m not able to walk them anymore though.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:09:58 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256216 do you have a dog…if not have you ever thought of getting one…sorry if that sounds stupid …i don’t mean it in a trivial way

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:09:03 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256214 :((( i am so sad hearing this from you.

Camp, i know it is tough seeing someone you love going away or dismissing your feelings. No one would love the feeling being left out in the dark. But it would also not help if you are going to stay negative.

I am here, i can talk.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:08:45 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256212 I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I’m one of the forgotten.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:08:19 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256208 I think it is to late not to give up. I’ve shut down. I’m not a functioning person anymore. I’m not a good looking guy anymore. No one is going to find me attractive anymore. I think she may have been with me out of pitty. I’m not even a full person physically anymore. I don’t like to do anything. Every day life is really hard to get through. I like to hang out with my friends but they have all left me. They never answer their phones. They never come by to visit me. They don’t care anymore. I thought I could love and someone could love me. I was wrong.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:06:04 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256201 What things do you like to do? Even just a little bit?

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:02:51 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256199 Please do not give up.

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:01:21 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256197 happiness is a fluke. It’s nothing but a state of mind. A state of mind I’ll never be able to reach again.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:00:58 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256195 I don’t think I’ll ever be able to function correctly ever again. I’m a very educated person. I have a masters degree and two bachelor degrees. I thought I’d be able to cope with everything. With her leaving me has crushed my world!!! I can’t get right anymore. I’m afraid to go to sleep at night because of this horrible ****!!!!!!!

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 10:00:12 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256188 It is hardly surprising you still feel haunted. You are correct in saying ‘mind altering’…such expereinces do have impact on memory and processing as they happen so rapidly the mind cannot compute and store such extreme information… this leaves it scrambled in the mind and hence flash backs and nightmares…hope that does not sound too clinical…I hope you are being treated for PTSD. I feel lost for words but just feel for you as much as i can without ever having experienced such things. The things that people are asked to do…

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:55:02 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256184 I’ll never be able to wash his blood off me. I’ll never be able to wash the blood of me from what I had to do.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:53:46 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256179 I’m not the great happy person I was. I lost myself…

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:52:36 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256174 I’ve lost 16 people I know over there and for what?!?! Then now I have to come home and lose someone that I care about so much! This is a ****** world!

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:51:23 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256171 to hear about this stuff on the news is one thing. To deal with it first hand is another. It’s a mind altering thing over there. It’s screwed up my entire life!

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:47:58 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256168 Picture yourself clearing a building when the person who is your best friend over there is leading and out of no where his head explodes and he falls lifeless at your feet. While one of the other two people with us is running for cover and gets shot in the spine. When my buddy got shot his blood coated me! Then when I got back to the states I had to go to his parents house and talk to them. It’s horrible! I’ve gone to a therapist for about a year now and I am still haunted by the things of my past. I’m to young to deal with this sort of ****. I mean hell I’m only 25 years old!

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:45:37 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256163 Have you had any type of psychological support?… there is only so much anyone can take. it sounds horrendous hard for me to comprehend.

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:43:54 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256153 I see things in my dreams at night that no one should have to see. I experienced things over there that no one should have to! I had to have reconstructive surgery because of what happen to me while I was in. Things are not good over there! It is a horrible horrible war! I try to look past it but I can’t. The things I have dreams about are enough to make some people not want to live anymore. These horrible things I experience are not what I signed up for when I joined the USMC. It’s not what I asked for! I guess it came with the territory though.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:40:08 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256145 Sorry…Just thought that sometimes we have to go slowly though and rekindle the friendship bit first…it is what brought you together to begin with??? Have you ever had any support for what sound like horrific experiences? Do you have any nightmares or flashbacks

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:36:04 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256141 I know I have problems from what I was subjected to over seas. I saw and had to do some pretty horrible things over there that still haunt me to this day. I’m a disabled veteran from that **** that’s happening over there.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:33:49 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256139 I can’t focus on the friendship. I want more than just friends with her. To have her in my arms and snuggled up next to me at night. To share our laughs and listen to her as she cried. To get a kiss from her to share my life with her. That was everything to me. I would never ever cheat on someone. If you’re cheating on someone then it should be broken off right away! There is no reason to cheat on the person you love! The girl I dated before this girl cheated on me and it was horrible to find out about!

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:30:51 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256131 [quote Ccampb52]I have sent her flowers. I want things to work but I don’t know if they are. I’m dying inside. I really thought she was “the one”[/quote]

take it slow then. but do not leave entirely.
Did you cheat on her?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:28:58 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256125 Maybe focus on the friendship bit???? sometimes we ask a lot of each other in romantic relationships… friendship can be more understanding as we don t expect so much from a friend…see it as a chance to get your other parts of your life together?????? … you say ‘i pushed her away by being too into the relationship’…we all have different ideas about what a ‘relationship’ is and sometimes the relationship becomes more important than the individuals involved… it has to be the individual we are into as well as the relationship…i say get yourself together and then there won’t be so much pressure on a relationship to compensate for other bits that go wrong…i hope this makes sense!!!!? i wish you well…sometimes it is not the end …just a change and sometimes a change for a reason

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:25:41 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256122 I have sent her flowers. I want things to work but I don’t know if they are. I’m dying inside. I really thought she was “the one”

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:25:21 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256105 Males are also hard to understand. It works both ways i think.

Give her space but don’t just leave her alone. Make sure to drop by her some notes or whatever. If you are willing to work things for you and this special lady, make her feel special.

Send her flowers?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:16:38 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256102 She didn’t tell me she would come back. I don’t think she ever will. I’ve known her for 11 years and we were best friends for a long time then we started dating. Dealing with life without her sucks! She says she still has feelings for me. Do I just give her her space and let her explore or what? I’m lost I’m confused. Females are hard to understand.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:14:54 +0100 Reply from eagle40 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256094 So sorry you feel you have lost your love…maybe you could keep in touch with her as a friend…it sound as if you have other stuff to deal with and maybe she felt unable to support you…maybe she has her own needs that she did not feel you could cope with on top of your other stuff…it could be a good time to get other bits of your life straight and become a bit more independent??? Eleven years is a long time and hard…i promise it gets better

]]> eagle40 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:04:24 +0100 Reply from ☆miss lilies☆ /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256093 Well someone also told me they need some space and i started to panic. But i talked with my friends and they said it does not mean they are not coming back.

And the person involved promised me that they hope to be back and be refreshed. Did she tell you the same thing?

]]> ☆miss lilies☆ Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:04:21 +0100 Reply from Forman /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256091 Life goes on…It may not seem like much advice but nonetheless it’s true…I remember taking sleep medicine just to go to sleep and escape the thoughts of my ex but sooner or later you realize that when one chapter closes another one always opens. Cherish the lessons you learn in this life and appreciate the people who come into your life. Things will get better. Regardless of what it may seem like. Cherish every breath you take and every moment you are given. dying is a slow process and you don’t have nothin but time. She blessed you with 11 years of her time. appreciate that. If she’s tired and needs space then give it to her. Regardless of how selfish it may seem. Learn to depend on yourself because most of the time all you got is you. What do you do…Don’t try and put it out of your mind…Think it through and through and you’ll find a way to put your mind at ease.

]]> Forman Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:02:22 +0100 Reply from psyflyer /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256089 my philosophy on relationships is that eventually you come to a fork in the path where you either commit/get married or go separate ways. you can go down the path for a long time before the fork. She may have gotten tired of waiting for the commit part or she may just not want to commit. But you cant farce anyone down one path or the other. Just ask them to join you. Hope that is helpful

]]> psyflyer Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:01:21 +0100 Reply from Ccampb52 /post/199764-i-recently-lost-the-girl-that-i-hav#reply-4256088 I’m not suicidal. I’m just unhappy with my situation. I have to much going for me to go and do something like that.

]]> Ccampb52 Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:00:09 +0100