[Help] Peace out Updates to this post /post/201052-peace-out Sun, 29 Nov 2009 11:33:57 +0100 The post was closed by Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-7678473 Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:09:22 +0100 The post was edited by Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-7678472 Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 08 Jan 2009 04:09:15 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4299479 go richard…. im very proud of you… no one deserves to be a ‘victim’ of any type of abuse… and you are right… these type of things only make us stronger and more aware for our next relationship… many hugs..

]]> ~Shie~ Wed, 01 Oct 2008 05:23:10 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4298804 Well, Caligirrl… I’m not trying to forget her or anything like that. I am trying to keep perspective. I loved (love) her, and she abused me. So, it is better for me to move on… that’s all. I’ll remember her always. I know the good in her… I am also very intimately aware of the bad in her. I won’t forget my love… but I can channel it to better things… including making myself stronger. I won’t be a victim.

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:44:33 +0100 Reply from verawang /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4298438 wow you are really strong.. it would be incredibly difficult to get over the one i love, that’s for sure. i don’t think i ever would.

]]> verawang Wed, 01 Oct 2008 01:16:35 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4295110 Thank you all. Yes… I read my book…lol… it helped :)

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Tue, 30 Sep 2008 12:45:25 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4295108 hoping things are going well for you… hugs.

]]> ~Shie~ Tue, 30 Sep 2008 12:44:41 +0100 Reply from amy /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4294993 Thank you !!! That really brought comfort. Hope that you also will find peace

]]> amy Tue, 30 Sep 2008 09:42:06 +0100 Reply from (v) 1 k 3 /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4281874 beautiful poem.

]]> (v) 1 k 3 Sat, 27 Sep 2008 16:28:12 +0100 Reply from Amber Soul /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4281030 *Smiles* I would rather my heart with a few scars (not many but a few) and a couple of unfit pieces, and a hole or two, then any other heart.

]]> Amber Soul Sat, 27 Sep 2008 09:09:56 +0100 Reply from spiritedsoul /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4279146 i thought u hated me!

]]> spiritedsoul Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:55:31 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4279119 [quote spiritedsoul]’so sad that she cant see when people care’ thought u were talking about me for a sec! gosh! lol[/quote]

no…. lol

]]> ~Shie~ Fri, 26 Sep 2008 21:48:59 +0100 Reply from magic dust /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4278599 this is a beautiful story… thanks for posting

i glad your doing ok, u keep that smile on your face and look on the bright side, it will all work out ok :)

lots of luv xx

]]> magic dust Fri, 26 Sep 2008 19:07:26 +0100 Reply from spiritedsoul /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4278534 ’so sad that she cant see when people care’ thought u were talking about me for a sec! gosh! lol

]]> spiritedsoul Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:48:56 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4278459 so sad that she cant see when people care… and is jumping from one person to the next just to have a roof over her head because she is irresponsible for not paying her rent.

makes ya wonder what lies deep with in side of her causing her so much pain to not be able to realize that someone (you) really cared..

]]> ~Shie~ Fri, 26 Sep 2008 18:18:16 +0100 Reply from spiritedsoul /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4278295 oh gosh, what a story!
i really hope next time i give any sort of love to someone i don’t have to tear a peice out of my heart!
that wud be painful!

but yes, an interesting story. im sure ill remember it for quite a time!

]]> spiritedsoul Fri, 26 Sep 2008 16:55:24 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4277837 Thank you Shie. I think part of how I am coping with it all is that my affection for her is turning from admiration to pity. I’m starting (finally) to see her deep ugly scars her MO and it’s sad. Looking through some of her papers she left behind, I found brochures for Tenants Rights. When we first met I told her I didn’t want her moving in for a while. She was at my house almost every night… I was falling in love and loving her company so after a couple of weeks of this… she was basically moved in. I found out after she left me, that when she first met me, she had been evicted from the place she was living. She had been evicted from the place before that too. Anyway… she’s a real piece of work and yes eventually she’ll get her piece too.
Thank you for the compliment Okei…yep… those are my girls. I’d tell you more about them, but too much in an open forum such as this would be inappropriate. So, suffice it to say they are a blessing to me and the world :)
Bright blessings all ~ Richard

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Fri, 26 Sep 2008 13:40:21 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4277087 [quote okei!]hi richard! from ur post/ replies, u are someone who really offers much, much (needed) insights and wisdom
thanks for the post! it was heart-warming really.
anyway, move on, life has to go on and ur doing just perfectly well!

btw, in ur avatar, are those 3 ur daughters, they look lovely.
to think it through, u haven’t lost anything.[/quote]

yes okei, those are his daughters

]]> ~Shie~ Fri, 26 Sep 2008 06:22:59 +0100 Reply from okei! /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4277026 hi richard! from ur post/ replies, u are someone who really offers much, much (needed) insights and wisdom
thanks for the post! it was heart-warming really.
anyway, move on, life has to go on and ur doing just perfectly well!

btw, in ur avatar, are those 3 ur daughters, they look lovely.
to think it through, u haven’t lost anything.

]]> okei! Fri, 26 Sep 2008 05:55:52 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4276982 [quote Richard cor de lyon]

Thanks smiley… I’d like to think I have a beautiful heart… I know it’s a little jagged around the edges :)

Thanks Shie… yeah darlin’ she and her new lover moved very quickly. Of course he’s only 20 so he could move faster than this ol’ man…LOL. They were married 8 days after their first face to face meeting (which good ol’ Rich made possible) and 3 days after that he was gone… leaving the new wife behind. She’s already moved into a place with another guy sharing rent. Although in the last 3 places she lived in, she never paid all her rent, and has been basically been evicted from all of them.

I’m doing much better. Yes, I still remember the good time and it makes me sad, but I also remember the abuse and I’m happy to be clear of that :) I’m looking forward to recovering myself and getting back to ME, so that someone might be able to love me again… cause I’m not done with lovin’ :)

Bright blessings ~ Richard[/quote]

you do have a great heart.. and having a little jagged edge makes us stay awake and ready for something like this..

as for her running around the way she is… what a shame. a shame that she didnt make this known before you fell in love with her. i do believe in karma, and i do believe that one day, she will fall in love and be hurt in the same manor… a life lesson i suppose to make her think of all the broken hearts she has left behind.

she will then see exactly what she had in you and realize that she has left the best thing in her life over ’stupidity’.

im happy that you are recovering and that you are realizing that life is better with out the abuse that she was giving… no one has right to abuse anyone ever.. man, woman or child.

you will find that someone… i know that because as i said, you have heart of gold.. my suggestion is to stop looking and let love find you… it will happen, i promise..

many hugs, love shie.

]]> ~Shie~ Fri, 26 Sep 2008 05:40:06 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4276778 thanks for your reply Gumby… I’m doing great. This all happened a month ago, my ex’s husband has already left the state to go home to mom and dad and left his wife here. She’s already listed as “swinger” on her myspace… I’m doing GREAT to be away from her. I know the reason, and I learned my lesson and I am 100% grateful for the experience.

Thanks smiley… I’d like to think I have a beautiful heart… I know it’s a little jagged around the edges :)

Thanks Shie… yeah darlin’ she and her new lover moved very quickly. Of course he’s only 20 so he could move faster than this ol’ man…LOL. They were married 8 days after their first face to face meeting (which good ol’ Rich made possible) and 3 days after that he was gone… leaving the new wife behind. She’s already moved into a place with another guy sharing rent. Although in the last 3 places she lived in, she never paid all her rent, and has been basically been evicted from all of them.

I’m doing much better. Yes, I still remember the good time and it makes me sad, but I also remember the abuse and I’m happy to be clear of that :) I’m looking forward to recovering myself and getting back to ME, so that someone might be able to love me again… cause I’m not done with lovin’ :)

Bright blessings ~ Richard

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Fri, 26 Sep 2008 04:35:38 +0100 Reply from ~Shie~ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4276173 ok… i still need to go up and read the little story about the man in the road..
(sorry, just had to get here and as i was scrolling down, that is all i saw at the moment)…

i am totally shocked… with all the news of her getting married as she just left not long ago.

im so very sorry hun.. not really knowing what to say as i do not want to say something foolish to cause you any more pain.. just know that i am thinking of you and i know that you are a good man with a huge heart. i do have to say, her loss.. not yours.

just wish i could wrap my arms around ya and give you a great big hug..

as the ol’ saying goes, time heals all wounds.. and im hoping that you are starting to see that you are on that path… again, you are a great guy and deserve a great romance.. and maybe one day… you will find that perfect person to share life, love and eternity with..

great big hugs.. love shie.

]]> ~Shie~ Fri, 26 Sep 2008 01:55:00 +0100 Reply from Smily /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4275442 my best wishes to you
that was a wonderful story, thank you for sharing that with us.
your heart must be beuatiful

]]> Smily Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:24:44 +0100 Reply from Captain K /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4275033 Great stuff Richard keep your head up you going to be ok everything in life happens for a reason it may not be clear now but somewhere down the road it will.

]]> Captain K Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:45:01 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4274795 thank you for your support Babacup. I couldn’t say what the problem is. I have checked the site in Windows explorer, and I can see it ok in Firefox. Is Netscape around anymore?? LOL… I don’t know if it works with Netscape. It’s build in DreamWeaver so should easily work with Windows.

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:49:33 +0100 Reply from babacup /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4274727 Richard, your website still does not show up for me. I am on the same computer I used when I joined your chats, so I do not know what is different. My hubby has not had time to check on it for me. But soon as I figure it out, I will be visiting your website once again.

]]> babacup Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:36:10 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4274535 Beautiful story, Richard! All the best!

]]> MortallyWounded Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:01:54 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4274127 Indeed Ann you are absolutely correct… thanks for your input :)

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 25 Sep 2008 18:23:58 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273837 Thank you one and all for your replies.
Angel that was very touching considering we don’t know much of each other.
Thank you RAM, I’m glad you liked the post.
Sasha… yeah, I figured some would have seen the story before, but what the heck - it always brings a smile to my face, so to share now and again is good :) …
thank you for your reply Lilies; glad you liked the story.
Kim… thank you dear. I know you are there :) it’s a great feeling too. It turns out the interview was just a first cut introduction… I’m crossing everything I have two of for an interview :)
Ell, thank you xox. I know you are dear - the same is true from me.
Cakes, thank you for your reply… I understand your fear. I’ll be blogging on just that subject later today. Just know that not all things are certain, and relationships take alot of work. That work has a backbone of solid HEALTHY communication and trust. Ex’s come and go from our life. We always just have to remember (and help others remember) that they are Ex’s for a very good reason.
Miss_E thank you for your time to reply… I’m right there with you. I’ve long been a proponent of everything has a reason. That actually is why I stayed in a relationship that ultimately was not good for me, because I know I had attracted it to me, and that I had something to learn from it. Lesson learned, and I’m so grateful to her (the ex) for helping me learn it.
Pseudo, thank you for your reply… yes, reminders are great. I love being reminded of things. It can help us stay on the right path, or better even help us get BACK to the right path. Love never dies (again part of today’s blog)… Life will be good to me, because I will give it no other options :D
Ahhh Mitzy… I wish I was a 10th as beautiful as you are… thank you dear.
Babacup… Marylou…thank you sincerely for your kind words. True I’ve not posted here in awhile and I’ll probably not post all that often. I write nearly every day on my website, and post to two separate blogs, sending out an email daily to my subscribers. This generally keeps me busy. Also, that insures my writing goes only to those that are interested. I don’t have the time to worry about the flames and arrows I get when posting here. If you want my thought for the day it’s easy to subscribe via my “Fun Free Stuff” page… or you can go to the blog and just take advantage of the RSS feed.

As they say in the movies - Life is an occasion; rise to it!

Bright blessings ~ Richard

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 25 Sep 2008 16:32:38 +0100 Reply from Marylou /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273705 Yes, Richard. I agree with Babacup. We do miss reading your posts around here.
And you are right, love never dies completely. And that only shows how much love there is in you to give. So keep giving, my dear friend. Wonderful things you couldn’t imagine possible, happen at some point and there is no magic recipe for that. They just do! True love just shows up one day and you just know that this is it!! The bond is so strong and natural. The feeling is peaceful. And you can’t take that smile off your face for at least a full year! :) I know that if you are able to see it in your mind, it will come to be.
And although you still feel this past love in your heart and most probably always will, the next one will be much stronger. Because that’s just how life is.
Isn’t it great to know that when we keep working at it, things really do improve!

Take good care, dear Richard.

:) Marylou

]]> Marylou Thu, 25 Sep 2008 15:10:53 +0100 Reply from babacup /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273512 It is so nice to see a new post from you. I was missing your thought provoking post and your words of wisdom. I am glad to see you are feeling better.

]]> babacup Thu, 25 Sep 2008 13:44:30 +0100 Reply from Mï†z¥-superMODel /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273464 Best of luck to you Richie, remember you are beautiful! *hugs*

]]> Mï†z¥-superMODel Thu, 25 Sep 2008 13:20:34 +0100 Reply from pseudoniem /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273235 It’s always good to be reminded that a heart is big enough to love more than once. I hope life will be good to you Richard.

]]> pseudoniem Thu, 25 Sep 2008 11:49:50 +0100 Reply from miss_enigma /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273107 Thank you for that touching story Richard and I’m glad to hear you are feeling better about yourself. Everything happens for a reason, I believe and this too shall pass :)

]]> miss_enigma Thu, 25 Sep 2008 10:38:46 +0100 Reply from Victoria Sponge /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273082 Oh and Rich I have not seen you for a while. I am sorry to hear of your sorrow and glad to hear that you are healing

]]> Victoria Sponge Thu, 25 Sep 2008 10:25:09 +0100 Reply from Victoria Sponge /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4273079 What if my boyfirends ex girlfried comes along and trys to put her piece back? Will he tell her to keep it or will he take it back and take a piece of my heart with him? That terrifies me like you would not believe

]]> Victoria Sponge Thu, 25 Sep 2008 10:24:04 +0100 Reply from logout /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272850 How beautiful Rich, I’m glad your feeling in a better frame of mind lately. You know I’m here for you-Always xx

]]> logout Thu, 25 Sep 2008 07:56:43 +0100 Reply from Felicity /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272791 Im not quite sure but i heard this recently and it may apply here ‘Truth is beauty and beauty is truth’

]]> Felicity Thu, 25 Sep 2008 07:09:48 +0100 Reply from Barbyman /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272771 yes i know the feeling Richard .I just finished my first album recorded with some teeny Boppers who were actually listening while i recorded my last Song of the Album.The Band you most probably don’t heard of them Operator Please but i can assure you your children did ,i never heard of them either,and then the whole World collapses.My Wife only two Sisters died within four days of each other .We just arrived Home from the Funerals.Well Richard,guess that is Life .Just think that you have lovely Kids and so have i .The rest is a Bonus Would like to send you some of my songs. Well my Side is almost Finnish and i will let you know …..

]]> Barbyman Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:53:45 +0100 Reply from אָ QaSh אָ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272742 This story is very cool. I liked it. Thanks for sharing and Best Of Luck too :)

]]> אָ QaSh אָ Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:37:57 +0100 Reply from Ditzy /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272707 HUGS! I love you (as a friend) Richie - sorry Im not here very often to tell you so :S I love reading your wisdom on blue days

]]> Ditzy Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:18:33 +0100 Reply from c-eek /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272705 Richard, I always read your posts. This story is especially poignant. I will be passing it on to my family.

]]> c-eek Thu, 25 Sep 2008 06:13:22 +0100 Reply from angel♥ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272639 omg ive never seen that before. its a beautiful story. its very touching and it speaks the truth. thank you for posting this!

its good to hear that youre doing a lot better. and i just want thank you for being such a great part of help.com.

*rips out peice of heart out and gives it to richard*
=)
even though i dont know you that well i hope to get to know you better. you seem like a great guy!!

]]> angel♥ Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:49:14 +0100 Reply from seas light /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272627 Thank you for that touching story.Your words of wisdom, are words we should never forget… All the best to you :)

]]> seas light Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:43:34 +0100 Reply from hockeymaniac500 /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272619 Wow, that is beautiful. Thanks for sharing. Love the story.

]]> hockeymaniac500 Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:41:08 +0100 167 users were invited to read this post by Felicity /post/201052-peace-out#reply-6741608 Felicity Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:33:57 +0100 Reply from Felicity /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272563 Richard, please accept my apology in not reading the story, I just stopped in and too emotional at this time. I will say though it sounds like your healing nicely considering the unexpected blow, that would be a shock to anyone. I hope you know I have all the confidence in the world you are going to have Victory in this. So God Speed ! my mentor and friend :) Just keep telling yourself ‘its her loss’ until it sinks in b/c its true. This is one of those many times when we need to look and rely on the unseen. Since Im here, How did the interview go?

]]> Felicity Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:24:53 +0100 Reply from ☆ /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272524 Nice, thank you.

]]> ☆ Thu, 25 Sep 2008 05:17:23 +0100 Reply from Sasha101 /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272369 Ive seen that before, its a beautiful story, glad yours in healing Ritchard ))hugs.:-)

]]> Sasha101 Thu, 25 Sep 2008 04:48:54 +0100 Reply from R.A.M /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272317 Nice one…
And all the best!

]]> R.A.M Thu, 25 Sep 2008 04:39:53 +0100 99 users were invited to read this post by Richard Cor de Lyon /post/201052-peace-out#reply-6741162 Richard Cor de Lyon Thu, 25 Sep 2008 04:36:47 +0100 Reply from the_shadow_is_no /post/201052-peace-out#reply-4272269 i think you have no life as you post your problems on the iternet hoping for some pedophile to look at your children and rape them in the anus.

]]> the_shadow_is_no Thu, 25 Sep 2008 04:33:34 +0100