[Help] I'm having a hard time getting turned on lately. Updates to this post /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin Sun, 29 Nov 2009 23:52:18 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4624875 Hi JDL,

I am in the same boat as you. LDR with my GF and it is very difficult to keep things fresh. We only play a couple of times a week because of the time difference and the fact that it’s been like this for about a year now. I was worrying about the exact same thing as yourself, but when we did meet this year things were totally fine. There is a huge difference between being together online, (which you can be, and feel deep and strong feelings) and being together in person.

When you are together physically it will be such a turn on and so exciting your problem won’t be about getting it up :)
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself dude; just try to relax and enjoy things. Something that helped us was getting a couple of toys for my GF. It turns me on alot to see her come hard and she loves it. Everyone is different ofcourse but do communicate to your GF if possible your concerns, and perhaps try to spice things up a little.

Best of luck to you dude.

]]> Anonymous Sun, 21 Dec 2008 13:46:32 +0100 Reply from darsmars /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4295146 maybe u kinda over did it everytime u talked online becuz it seems routine’ish’ now. try different things like surprise her with silly things and or shows planned starring ‘Dude’ lol .maybe ask her what she does to suffice the same feeling if she is feeling it too. i wish you well on this one, its a tough one.

]]> darsmars Tue, 30 Sep 2008 13:00:25 +0100 Reply from please just help me /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4295061 @ Godfather:
That’s the thing, I don’t please myself by myself. I can’t. That just doesn’t excite me anymore. I can only do it when I’m talking to her, and even then it’s not all the time. I don’t know. She just has such a healthy libido (it’s because she was taking meds that reduced her’s, but now she’s off them and it’s skyrocketed). I guess I’m also a bit afraid or intimidated that I won’t be able to keep up. Maybe I should go on meds for a while, then come straight off them when I go see her! :P

]]> please just help me Tue, 30 Sep 2008 11:48:07 +0100 Reply from ♪The Music of Love /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4294019 its prolly that you’re so ready to take the next step that the things you used to do aren’t as exciting anymore, but your first time is more than juz going through the motions of making out or in your case whatever you do on the webcam. anyhow im a girl so i dont know how it is for guys but yea. I picked a very awkward conversation to join. :P

]]> ♪The Music of Love Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:15:34 +0100 Reply from Godfather /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4294010 Don’t worry about your first time. Things will be different, the excitement involved with actually physically feeling that heat of her body against you is an exilerating experience. The excitement will overpower the fear and you will have no problem rising to the occasion.

If you are worried about getting aroused over long distance, than I suggest you stop “pleasing” yourself, and wait until you see her over webcam. Set specific times when you see each other online.

]]> Godfather Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:11:16 +0100 Reply from please just help me /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4293995 Easier said than done. I worry about it not being different, which is which is making it worse. How do I get through this?

]]> please just help me Tue, 30 Sep 2008 04:06:54 +0100 Reply from highfrye420 /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-4293975 dude things will be different when u see here, everything will be fine.

]]> highfrye420 Tue, 30 Sep 2008 03:59:41 +0100 The post was edited by please just help me /post/202720-im-having-a-hard-time-gettin#reply-6798388 please just help me Tue, 30 Sep 2008 03:52:10 +0100