[Help] I have decided I really dislike the word sorry. Updates to this post /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:01:33 +0100 Reply from shadin_a /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4872947 i totally agree with this qoute! i mean sorry is prolly the most used word then anything else. it has become soo esy for ppl to use it that my sir always said it meant nothin to him :)

and i agree with most of your opnions too …

it has become soo laame to saay sorry that sometimes when i’m really upset abot something i have done, and want to apologize i hae no words to express my self … its lyk sayin sorry would be an insult to the reciever ….

]]> shadin_a Sun, 15 Mar 2009 11:18:59 +0100 Reply from chunkymove /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4715515 [quote jamieraebab]I hate sorry when its about repetitive behavior. How can someone be sorry for the same thing over and over. Thats not sorry. Thats a lie.[/quote]

what does sorry mean to you that makes it invalid for the same thing over and over?

Sorry children die of starvation - can do that over and over.
Sorry I forgot to take the bins out - can do that twice in a life time.

]]> chunkymove Tue, 20 Jan 2009 13:17:22 +0100 Reply from jamieraebab /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4705117 I hate sorry when its about repetitive behavior. How can someone be sorry for the same thing over and over. Thats not sorry. Thats a lie.

]]> jamieraebab Sat, 17 Jan 2009 05:28:49 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4642411 Not really, “sorry” is basically pathetic… essential pathos.

]]> Michael Leibman Sun, 28 Dec 2008 04:26:53 +0100 Reply from chunkymove /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4642399 need different words then to separate apology from empathy.

]]> chunkymove Sun, 28 Dec 2008 04:24:46 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4642028 [quote Florie][quote Miss Minnie][quote kemmy]Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.[/quote]

I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is![/quote]

Great topic![/quote]

I hate when I say, “I’m sorry” and people say, “don’t be, it’s not your fault.”

Of course it’s not my fault, haven’t they ever even heard of sympathy or empathy?

Annoying!

]]> Michael Leibman Sun, 28 Dec 2008 01:30:14 +0100 Reply from Florimouse /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4641986 [quote velvettundr]Good point, Usually say my bad allot but mainly in soccer even when i don’t need to. Idk y i do it though[/quote]

Where did “my bad” come from? Does anybody know?

]]> Florimouse Sun, 28 Dec 2008 01:17:34 +0100 Reply from Florimouse /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4641980 [quote Miss Minnie][quote kemmy]Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.[/quote]

I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is![/quote]

Great topic!

]]> Florimouse Sun, 28 Dec 2008 01:14:48 +0100 Reply from ~Grace~ /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4629107 I was always taught, “don’t tell me you’re sorry, SHOW me you are”.

Which basically means the same as “actions speak louder than words”. If you don’t learn from the mistakes, saying sorry is useless, because you don’t really mean it. When someone is hurt, trust is broken, and “sorry” does not help build that trust up again, it takes more than a five letter word. Without the sincerity behind it, that’s all it is; a word.

Heh, this suddenly reminded me of an avatar graphic I have too, for those who have said “I love you” is thrown around meaninglessly too much: “‘I love you’ is eight letters, so is ‘bullsh!t’”

Gives me an idea for another one. “‘Sorry is a five letters, so is ‘fvck u’”

]]> ~Grace~ Mon, 22 Dec 2008 19:13:59 +0100 Reply from FalloutFreak12 /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4629001 i think the word sorry is over used and often time uncontemplated. ppl dont think about it and just expect forgiveness when ever they say it

]]> FalloutFreak12 Mon, 22 Dec 2008 18:30:30 +0100 Reply from luckette /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4493512 hey! came to have a look cos ya helped me out… and omg i know what you’re trying to get at.. my (very recent) ex was very much the type to say “Sorry” just because i was mad at him and he wanted it to stop.

there as no regret in his voice, and he’d always do the same thing again… it had nothing to do with being “sorry” it was a word that was designed to shut me up. he used “i love you” in a similar way - either to make me feel guilty for being mad, or to make me say it back whenever he felt he needed a pick-me-up

(surprised it’s over? lol)

]]> luckette Sun, 16 Nov 2008 01:05:02 +0100 Reply from chunkymove /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4443638 [quote Miss Minnie]
I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is![/quote]

absofreakinlutely.

I heard a sorry that meant “I’m acknowledging your upset, but I’m not sorry I did it, and I’d do it again if it suits me”

For a sorry to make me happier it means ” I made a mistake, and here what I’ve done to try and make it not happen again”. and an offer to try and undo or compensate for it.

but what should people say if they bump you in hallway and want to show they aren’t starting a fight? I come from a sparsly populated country, but in a place with crowds of people that just expect to be bumped into and look at you funny if you say sorry.

]]> chunkymove Tue, 04 Nov 2008 15:17:24 +0100 Reply from natily.stewar /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4387138 I see what u mean.

]]> natily.stewar Wed, 22 Oct 2008 22:57:02 +0100 Reply from silenceispain /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4381712 In Inuit there are about 20 different words for different kinds of snow. Wouldn’t it be nice if we had 20 different words for different kinds of love or different severities of sorry?
-SilenceIsPain

]]> silenceispain Tue, 21 Oct 2008 18:47:21 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4380969 [quote Whatsername17]That’s what I don’t get about the word ’sorry’, it doesn’t always make up for something bad you did. It almost has no effect whatsoever.[/quote]

Yeah, didn’t you hate it as a kid when you fell out with each other and the teache is twisting both of your arms up your backs to mumble sorry to each other… and then of course straight after you’re at each other’s necks again. Daft.

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 21 Oct 2008 15:17:20 +0100 Reply from Whatsername17 /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4380962 That’s what I don’t get about the word ’sorry’, it doesn’t always make up for something bad you did. It almost has no effect whatsoever.

]]> Whatsername17 Tue, 21 Oct 2008 15:15:19 +0100 Reply from (v) 1 k 3 /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4370297 agreed

]]> (v) 1 k 3 Sat, 18 Oct 2008 16:06:02 +0100 Reply from velvettundr /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4362504 Good point, Usually say my bad allot but mainly in soccer even when i don’t need to. Idk y i do it though

]]> velvettundr Thu, 16 Oct 2008 07:36:24 +0100 Reply from A1 Steak Sauce /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4333115 you hate the word sorry because you’re tired of hearing it …

sorry means you wont do it again and the more people say sorry the less it really has an effect

]]> A1 Steak Sauce Thu, 09 Oct 2008 22:21:14 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4305205 [quote kemmy]It really is. Its like “I said sorry, so youre no longer allowed to be mad at me” which never works, and only makes me madder at the person. Grrr to insensitive jerks![/quote]

Yeah!

]]> Miss Minnie Thu, 02 Oct 2008 21:05:59 +0100 Reply from kemmy /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4302330 It really is. Its like “I said sorry, so youre no longer allowed to be mad at me” which never works, and only makes me madder at the person. Grrr to insensitive jerks!

]]> kemmy Thu, 02 Oct 2008 02:50:01 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4301383 [quote kemmy]Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.[/quote]

I heard that today! “I’m sorry. But…” I you’re sorry, you are supposed to be remorseful and not shifting the blame from yourself and onto something else, OR EVEN THE PERSON THEY HURT! Grrr, “sorry, but” is just the worst kind of sorry that there is!

]]> Miss Minnie Wed, 01 Oct 2008 22:40:19 +0100 Reply from kemmy /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4298135 Very true! Its just as overused as “I love you”. Sadly people say them just b/c they know thats what others want to hear.
Grrr, I especially hate when someone says “im sorry but…” Apologies dont have excuses. If youre sorry for something, then thats it, your sorry.

]]> kemmy Wed, 01 Oct 2008 00:01:27 +0100 Reply from AreWeAllTheSame /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297599 i think that “im sorry” and “love you” have both become really overused and have lost their meaning. Even “hate” has as well. People use them everyday and they end up not having the emotion or meaning behind it that it is supposed to

]]> AreWeAllTheSame Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:20:02 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297437 [quote Michael Leibman]No, I was getting offtopic sortof, pointing out that sometimes people say sorry not as an aoplogy but more as, “You’re hurt, I feel sorry for you.”

….but I’ve got to run, sorry, hope everything is great for you…. :)[/quote]

Haha ok thanks. Good night.

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:53:23 +0100 Reply from ~LazyDaze~ /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297426 Oh right, well it is still annoying, I am more of a direct speaker, I don’t really understand hidden meanings to things.

]]> ~LazyDaze~ Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:50:20 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297425 No, I was getting offtopic sortof, pointing out that sometimes people say sorry not as an aoplogy but more as, “You’re hurt, I feel sorry for you.”

….but I’ve got to run, sorry, hope everything is great for you…. :)

]]> Michael Leibman Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:50:19 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297414 Are you asking me to tell what made me mad or sad? I will if you like but wouldn’t want to bore you.

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:48:58 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297407 [quote ~LazyDaze][quote Michael Leibman]I agree with the original post.

[quote ~LazyDaze]Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it? [/quote]

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.[/quote]

So why do they have to add the I don’t know what I did bit on?
If they are sorry they say sorry, there is not need to say ” I dunno what I did but sorry”, I mean it kind of sounds like they are saying sorry but want to make it totally clear to you that they don’t mean it…
Bizarre[/quote]

That part is added on to let you know that they don’t know what they did, and not to pry, but if you care to share what made you mad or sad perhaps it could be prevented in the future. At least in some cases, I may not know the whole story of Sorry.

]]> Michael Leibman Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:47:18 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297365 Exactly :) See help.com people get it. Not people in my real life. Gahh

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:37:08 +0100 Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297355 Forgiveness rarely a response to “I’m sorry”. There must be an act of contrition for forgiveness to be given.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

]]> Richard Cor de Lyon Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:34:44 +0100 1 user were invited to read this post by Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-6806576 Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:30:25 +0100 Reply from ~LazyDaze~ /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297331 [quote Michael Leibman]I agree with the original post.

[quote ~LazyDaze]Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it? [/quote]

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.[/quote]

So why do they have to add the I don’t know what I did bit on?
If they are sorry they say sorry, there is not need to say ” I dunno what I did but sorry”, I mean it kind of sounds like they are saying sorry but want to make it totally clear to you that they don’t mean it…
Bizarre

]]> ~LazyDaze~ Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:29:35 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297320 [quote Michael Leibman]Nope, not just you. In general, “sorry” doesn’t make up for whatever bad thing they did. It may have a function of it’s own but then they still have to make up for whatever they did.[/quote]

Precisely. If somebody has genuinely hurt me a word does not make me forgive that person. They have to work to earn my respect again and that’s not difficult. I just like to see a distinc change in behaviour.

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:28:16 +0100 Reply from ifeel /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297312 i agree. saying “sorry” is like saying i hope you forgive me, but i won’t forget what happened… i will try to make it up to you the best that i can… we all need to work on bringing back the genuine feeling back to the word…

]]> ifeel Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:27:34 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297282 Nope, not just you. In general, “sorry” doesn’t make up for whatever bad thing they did. It may have a function of it’s own but then they still have to make up for whatever they did.

]]> Michael Leibman Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:23:16 +0100 Reply from Miss Minnie /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297279 Woo it’s not just me that feels like a ritous whiny baby!

]]> Miss Minnie Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:22:05 +0100 Reply from Michael Leibman /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297261 I agree with the original post.

[quote ~LazyDaze]Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it? [/quote]

In times like that I think the people saying sorry mean, “I don’t know why you’re upset with me but I didn’t mean for it to happen, don’t think I did anything against you on purpose.” Something like that. That’s usually when I say sorry, when people are freaking out at me and I have no idea why.

]]> Michael Leibman Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:19:02 +0100 Reply from Crazy.Ω.Firework /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297248 I really agree….
I hate it when people apologise and they don’t mean it, they’re just wanting you to forgive them so it won’t be their problem anymore.
And I can’t stand it when people say sorry and then do the hurtful thing all over again. Or when they don’t know what the hell they’re sorry for.
GAH!!
I think it’s good that people apologise…but they should at least know what they’re apologising for.

Sorry is a really easy word to say.

]]> Crazy.Ω.Firework Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:17:07 +0100 Reply from ~LazyDaze~ /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297238 Yep I agree, somethings are said too easily and not understanding behind the word, I find it funny when someone will say sorry but follow it with “I don’t know what I did”, well if you don’t know why you are saying sorry then why are you saying it? Understand why someone would expect you to say sorry first..
Another one I get alot with no meaning behind is “Love you”, I think the only people that actually meanit are my kids others I think is just a word and nothing more.

]]> ~LazyDaze~ Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:16:20 +0100 Reply from ifeel /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297221 i agree with your statement…. sometimes the word is just thrown around so much, that the real meaning behind it is lost. Whenever someone says sorry, you feel obligated to accept their apology because you believe that they feel deep regret and have found some deeper understanding of what they’ve done… all we can do is HOPE that whenever someone says they are sorry.. they really are… and that they really will TRY to learn from their mistakes…

]]> ifeel Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:13:47 +0100 Reply from lanjack3 /post/202952-i-have-decided-i-really-dislike-the#reply-4297216 im sorry

]]> lanjack3 Tue, 30 Sep 2008 21:13:19 +0100