[Help] i cut my wrists & no matter what any one says it does help me. Updates to this post /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh Wed, 02 Dec 2009 19:03:29 +0100 Reply from slnddlgtt /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-5083264 I have been crying because of my mom and how she blames everything on me. I cant stand it anymore. She is making me insane. I almost cut a minute ago, but I got scared that it would hurt and that I would……die. I don’t want to feel like cutting….because I know it is bad, and it doesn’t do anything, but I need a way to stop feeling like this. I don’t want to die and I am scared. My mom doesn’t get me. And I cant take it. Please help….

]]> slnddlgtt Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:59:34 +0100 Reply from ashley_tud /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4870265 [quote Anonymous]You’ve got to be kidding me how can self mutilation help you. I have 2 teen daughters myself that have ups and downs in life also but they don’t do this. I can’t even begin to understand this type of eratic behavior. You need to stop this and deal with your life in a normal rational way. If you start dealing with life normally now I can assure you that it will help you to be strong in your adult years when you face struggles. The most disturbing part is your actually trying to rationalize your behavior that in itself is stunning to say the least. Quite frankly there’s just no excuse for such unbelieveable behavior.[/quote]

How can YOU have such unbleievable behavior or manners! This girl is brave enough to speak out to this group and people like you who make them not want to do so. Thats right YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND and just becuase your daughters (who you probably helped in no way at all) don’t do it doesn’t mean your a saint and can help everyone just snap out of this! Quite frankly i think your plain rude and did absolutely nothing to help this person. This is not self mutilation, can you understand that sometimes the urge is just too strong, that sometimes its just too addicting to let go of. We understand its wrong, that we shouldn’t do it, but even if we don’t have an excuse we would still do it.

You cannot begin to understand us, then don’t even try. you think its disturbing, well thats your opiniun keep it to yourself. This is not erratic. The fist urge slowly eats at you, then the addiction, each time i do it its planned, not erratic, frankly i would be more comfortable if it was.

Quite frankly there is just no excuse for your unbelievable behavour. I hope your a better mother and have better opinions to offer your duaghters than this.

]]> ashley_tud Sat, 14 Mar 2009 12:41:39 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4560266 Not citicizing at all sometimes a firm approach may in fact get someone to wake up so to speak and see just how they behave and give them the help they need. Irrational behavior is not a real coping mechanism and sometimes someone from the outside needs to let them know because they may in fact beleive that what they do is ok which this individual believes when in fact it really is not. You have to sometimes point out the obvious for someone to really see for what it is.

]]> Anonymous Wed, 03 Dec 2008 21:37:15 +0100 Reply from ma3m3 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4560149 [quote Anonymous]You’ve got to be kidding me how can self mutilation help you. I have 2 teen daughters myself that have ups and downs in life also but they don’t do this. I can’t even begin to understand this type of eratic behavior. You need to stop this and deal with your life in a normal rational way. If you start dealing with life normally now I can assure you that it will help you to be strong in your adult years when you face struggles. The most disturbing part is your actually trying to rationalize your behavior that in itself is stunning to say the least. Quite frankly there’s just no excuse for such unbelieveable behavior.[/quote]

So your daughters may not do this, so what? Not everyone deals with problems the same way. Maybe andi is dealing with it this way because they don’t know how else to. To just excuse it as irrational and “erratic” is ridiculous. You have no idea what this person is going through, exactly how it makes them feel, and the resources they have for coping. Criticizing this person will not get them the love, comfort, and help they need!

]]> ma3m3 Wed, 03 Dec 2008 20:34:06 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4559770 You’ve got to be kidding me how can self mutilation help you. I have 2 teen daughters myself that have ups and downs in life also but they don’t do this. I can’t even begin to understand this type of eratic behavior. You need to stop this and deal with your life in a normal rational way. If you start dealing with life normally now I can assure you that it will help you to be strong in your adult years when you face struggles. The most disturbing part is your actually trying to rationalize your behavior that in itself is stunning to say the least. Quite frankly there’s just no excuse for such unbelieveable behavior.

]]> Anonymous Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:00:17 +0100 Reply from loveablegirl17x2 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4557560 [quote andi4904]ok evansent it takes away emotional pain with physical pain & my dad just got over drinking im a freshman in high school im a girl & all girls are keniving & its just hard[/quote]

hunni you need help my dad is dead and my mom is on drugs i just got over a broke up and girls at my school are the same way and started a rumor that im regnant but i deal with all that with therapy please please try it!!!!!!!!!!! all my love mikaylah

]]> loveablegirl17x2 Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:24:58 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4316037 Oh, I am so sorry for what you are going through! High school is so hard, and to have family problems, it makes things so much worse. I think I have an idea how you feel. I’m a Junior in high school. I really don’t like myself because I’m overweight. My mom is working because my dad isn’t making enough money and he can’t find a better job. I never see my parents, so I have to take care of my younger siblings. When my parents are home, all they do is fight. My sister just had a baby (still a teenager) and she is so grouchy, dealing with post pardem depression. My friends are being idiots, and they really don’t care about me. I can understand your emotional pain, and the release you feel when you cut. The thing is, that release only lasts a little while. You need to find a way that you can get a release that lasts longer. Do you have any friends that you can turn to? Also, I know that this is scary, but you should talk to a school counselor. They are trained to help you. Just tell them that you are having a really hard time coping, and that you just don’t know how to make things get better. Don’t tell them that you are cutting yourself, because they will call your parents and tell them (unless you’re ok with that). But they can give you ways to help yourself. Believe me, they can help. That’s what they’re trained to do. Please let me know how things go.

]]> Anonymous Sun, 05 Oct 2008 17:46:22 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308599 ashley you there

]]> Anonymous Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:41:27 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308575 [quote andi4904]ok evansent it takes away emotional pain with physical pain & my dad just got over drinking im a freshman in high school im a girl & all girls are keniving & its just hard[/quote]

I have a daughter who’s a freshman ih HS I asked her what the cutting really meant and she said its a cry for help so were here to help. My forst thought would be to try and communicate with the folks usually parents no matter what they may be going through themselves are there for their kids I’ve always told my 2 daugters the same.

]]> Anonymous Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:33:46 +0100 Reply from emo_ha /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308499 cant ban me forever!!!!

]]> emo_ha Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:12:17 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308481 hey im back

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:08:39 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308458 im going to go on some1else bibi every1

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:01:59 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308457 You need to get help from a trained professional.
They will no judge you or tell anyone else (it’s their job!)
You dont have to give exact details until you feel comfortable to do so.
Give an overall view so that he or she can get an idea of how to help you.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:01:32 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308453 wow okay i will try that next time thanks :)

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 21:00:15 +0100 Reply from thep /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308451 I am leaving your post now, there is nothing more I can do to help you. Goodnight.

]]> thep Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:59:54 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308449 just hold them in your hand till the urge goes away

[quote chianmoulon4ev]ice cubes wow i never thought about that good thinkin[/quote]

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:59:11 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308440 ice cubes wow i never thought about that good thinkin

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:57:48 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308437 thep you are soooo right about HAH_EM

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:57:07 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308436 thats what i was gona suggest a rubber band.
also ice cubes take awy the urge too

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:57:01 +0100 Reply from thep /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308433 HAH_EM

Why give such useless answers? Doing as you sugest just adds to the problems.

]]> thep Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:56:01 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308432 wow piadora thats good keep it up

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:55:47 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308431 i cant talkj bout it to a therapist

& i kinda smoke & it kinda helpsbut its till hard

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:55:39 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308429 Girls are mean, it is just life.
What is missing is you ability to deal with it.
I use to hurt myself too, I haven’t done it in a while although today i came close.
I stopped through medication and was able to come off it without having to cut again.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:54:48 +0100 Reply from chianmoulon4ev /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308427 hey my friend is just like you its okay i guess just dont do it to much also ummmm yeah unsted of cutting your self try takeing a rubber band and snapping it on your wrist that what i do unsteed of cutting myself also it helps with anger well i got to go goodbi ps just try doing the rubberband thing okay bi also if you have a myspace you can talk to me on mine its i> small>(email removed) /small> /i> no one else get this

]]> chianmoulon4ev Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:54:17 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308426 why dont u drink away ur pain

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:53:36 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308422 You are in pain, and to just stop cutting yourself is not going to work.
I would suggest to see a psychologist, he or she will evaluate you and recommend a psychaitrist who can prescribe medication that will take hte place of cutting, so that you don’t need to cut.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:52:52 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308419 its realllllllly not that easy if you smoke cigarettes you cant just stop because you know its bad & can kill you…

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:52:15 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308417 [quote Anonymous]I just cut my shoulders… so no one sees.[/quote]

omg arnt we supposed to be helping this girl
not putting further ideas into her head!!!

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:51:35 +0100 Reply from junk-e /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308416 NO! u have to try! that is the main thing! i dont want you to die! i dont want anybody to die! why do you people think that way?! it is so sad!

]]> junk-e Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:51:10 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308415 i do know him but hes always like depressed about not being able to drink.

& my mom is just a mom shes here at home my parents are divorced or anything but like shes a total ***** some times

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:51:00 +0100 Reply from thep /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308412 andi4904

It looks like you now know the answere or at least where to start. Start with your friend, ask for their help. Also try to get help through the school counciling services.
At least try something that is possitive.

]]> thep Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:49:45 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308409 how do you feel now your dads stopped drinking?
is it like living with a stranger?

yes kids are bitchy,without you giving them reason theyll pick no matter what
its a sorry way of life :(

wheres your mum?

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:49:34 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308408 You cant just stop cutting your wrists.. idk why every one thinks its so easy. i cant talk to any one cuz i dont want any one to be disappointed im me.

So you think i should cut my shoulders?

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:49:34 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308405 I just cut my shoulders… so no one sees.

]]> Anonymous Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:48:54 +0100 Reply from junk-e /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308403 NO. do NOT cut your wrists. I know it may seem to help but it ONLY MAKES THINGS WORSE!
get help. talk to your parents, teachers, the school nurse! anything is better that sitting at home and cutting your wrists. I know it may not seem like it, but there are people out there that love you deeply.

]]> junk-e Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:48:10 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308401 thep people over the internet cant really help yea i do appreciate all of your words for helping me but we will never see eachother i do need physical help

piadora - i know all of that but it doesnt stop me.. it might be me being shy but my parents tel me to get out of my circle of friends but its much harder than yu think…. im a girll.. i mean come one it should explain its self

evensent - my dad used to be an alcoholic & hes kinda done drinking now so its crazy & no im not getting bullied its just like girls spread rumors & talk behind other girlss backs

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:46:13 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308399 yeah

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:45:49 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308398 What is going on in school that is making you feel like this?

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:45:19 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308397 So it is the shyness that is really hurting you?
Sometimes is the sense of shame after acting shy that hurts and not the shyness itself.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:44:49 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308396 whats going on with your dad?
when you say girls are kaniving,you being bullied

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:43:27 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308392 By cutting yourself you are avoiding dealing with whatever is hurting you. It is better to deal with it now, because it doesn’t get better as you get older. it will cause you to start aviding people and people are a source of pleasure as much as they are of pain.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:42:54 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308390 yeaa i get that but i kno im self consicious & everything & im so shy i think thats why i go to this website to talk about it cuz none of you really knjo who i am

HAH EM - well people like me dont take that as something funny. its knda life threatening

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:42:25 +0100 Reply from thep /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308388 Perhaps Piadora can help with this best at the moment. Understanding what you are going through is most helpful, with this kind of problem.

]]> thep Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:42:08 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308386 i was kidding.. lol

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:41:06 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308384 But here is the thing, it is not taking care of what is causing you to do it in the first place: THe unability to deal with personal situations

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:40:30 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308382 thep - yea that is exactly what i need

HAH EM - how are you gonna say that your here when you called me emo

Piadora - finally some one who understands

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:39:56 +0100 Reply from Piadora /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308380 Hi Andy,

I get it.

You body is hurt when you cut yourself so it releases endorphins, taking hte meotiona land the physical away. It is only momentary and you will need to do again.

]]> Piadora Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:39:15 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308378 ok evansent it takes away emotional pain with physical pain & my dad just got over drinking im a freshman in high school im a girl & all girls are keniving & its just hard

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:38:43 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308374 yeah where here to help

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:37:37 +0100 Reply from thep /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308373 I have read all of your post. It looks like you would like help, but dont realy know where to get it.
Is this the case?

]]> thep Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:37:32 +0100 Reply from Endoftheline /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308371 why are you hurting emotionally? what is it that upsets you?

]]> Endoftheline Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:37:00 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308368 ive never done anything like that myself
i dont understand why you do it
what do you gain from it

what could make you feel so low as to do something like that in the 1st place

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:36:47 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308362 about what? ask some questions or something its kind of a hard subject to talk about

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:35:14 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308360 talk to me

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:34:21 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308359 so why dont you find some feelings & try to help some one rather then actually ridiculing some one for thier problems

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:34:01 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308355 yeaaa & apparently you dont understand what people like me . so why dont you watch

it takes away emotional pain wiht physical pain

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:32:22 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308354 then why do u do it what does it help

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:31:43 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308353 o rly

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:31:12 +0100 Reply from andi4904 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308352 ok im not emo
& if you seen me i look like the exact opposite of one

]]> andi4904 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:30:56 +0100 Reply from HAH_EM /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308350 i can almost smell ur emo hair gel from here in britishland

]]> HAH_EM Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:30:13 +0100 Reply from evansent 2008 /post/203869-i-cut-my-wrists-no-matter-wh#reply-4308346 how does cutting your wrists help??

]]> evansent 2008 Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:29:11 +0100