[Help] My boyfriend is looking for a new job. Updates to this post /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:39:43 +0100 Reply from narulka2200 /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4962267 Hey there. I am kind of in the same situation now, but in this case the problem is that I would have to move and I really don’t know how things are going to work after that. Me and my boyfriend are together for about a year and we had a long distance relationship. We were together for three months then I left for my country (I am not from US), then after three months we met in Europe (for a month), after another three months we met again in US. Now I am very worried about leaving him again because I really like being around him and living with him. But I got accepted to school so I would have to go back to my country get my visa and come back to a different state. When I talked about that with him he said that he wants to move there with me but when it comes to finding a new job he doesn’t seem to me to be very enthusiastic, and it makes me to think sometimes. He hates the job he has now and he wants to move and change the location too, but he is not very happy about moving to the place where my school is, and sometimes I am thinking if may be it’s more about him not being sure about me. And yesterday night when he were applying for jobs he started to apply to different places (different states), and then I joked with him and said that if he got accepted to my favorite state I will just leave school and go with him. That was just a joke, but he didn’t act like he would be happy or anything, I kept asking him if he wouldn’t be happy about that, but he just skip from answer telling me that I just want to be in my favorite state and it’s not about him. Now i really started to worry about that and think if he really wants to be with me or. It scares me some, but on the other hand I am strong personality and I know I can go over it, but still it scares me to think about it.

]]> narulka2200 Wed, 22 Apr 2009 23:51:20 +0100 Reply from Victoria Sponge /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4471734 Yeah it will hugely, My boyfriend went unusually quite and as a loud chatterbox I think I just wound him up ;p
Maybe once he starts applying for jobs you could ask where in his plan he sees you, need to take baby steps with our fragile men, Dubai scared me at first but I would have definatly gone with him just too see how it worked out as I know I could always come home if needed, it’s that he is feeling more positive now what does he do maybe he was just blowing off steam and doesn’t himself want to move to far, I know deep down my boyfriend would have never left his family espscially his nephew

]]> Victoria Sponge Mon, 10 Nov 2008 20:38:14 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4471054 I am so glad you read my post, btw! :)
You know exactly how I feel about this!

We do live in the states. He is pretty lost right now. He’s one of those people that MUST work or he just can’t figure out what to do with himself. So when I was asking him about the distance, he said he has no idea. He doesn’t know what to do or where to look or anything. So he’s taking it one step at a time. That’s why I didn’t want to overwhelm him with my concerns right off. He does seem to get a little back to normal each day. He is now calling the two weeks of pay his vacation (which he very well deserves!) And he seemed pretty positive this morning about things :) He’s been a little hard to talk to since it happened. Pretty quiet, which is unusual. Until part of yesterday and this morning.
I really like your last sentence. This really should be a joint decision as it will effect both of our lives.

]]> Anonymous Mon, 10 Nov 2008 17:24:01 +0100 Reply from Victoria Sponge /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4471019 No we are moving in together once we get the expense of Christmas over, luckily his company didn’t make him redundant so we didn’t need to consider Dubai, I am just like you tho my whole life involves him we have only been together a year tho not 2, I couldn’t imagine being without him, I know that little voice in the back of your head too well( well my head not yours obviously) you do have to think clearly and he would appreciate that from you I am sure. Has he mentioned how far like just another state. Are you in the states or would he also be talking other countries because really this should be a joint decision as it will effect both your lives

]]> Victoria Sponge Mon, 10 Nov 2008 17:09:19 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4470912 Cakes, were you guys living together already when he talked about moving to Dubai?

]]> Anonymous Mon, 10 Nov 2008 16:27:16 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4470892 I hope he is assuming too! (if he does have to move). We just talked about this two nights ago, so I wanted to try and let the initial “shock?” sink in first..before I brought that up. I didn’t want to have a talk and get irrational. I know this is a sensitive subject and it has to be approached with a clear mind. This is the first time I’ve dealt with something like this, and I don’t want to act like a baby about it, you know? I guess there’s that voice in the back of my mind saying “what if he tells you to stay here and continue your life?” That’s probably the LAST thing I’d want to hear! I know he would never want me to make big sacrifices for him, but I want to if he has to go. Almost everything I do involves him.

]]> Anonymous Mon, 10 Nov 2008 16:22:19 +0100 Reply from Victoria Sponge /post/216153-my-boyfriend-is-looking-for-a-new-j#reply-4470850 I think first you sound like you know what you want to do. Also guys keep close to their chest, my boyfriend started talking about working in Dubai and I was like hang on what about me, his answer was well you would come, sometimes they just asume, well my boyfriend does anyway, have you spoken to him about it yet?

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