[Help] How wrong is it of me to hate my 9 yr old step sister? Updates to this post /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9 Sun, 06 Dec 2009 19:33:19 +0100 Reply from chev.jame /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9#reply-4510457 Yes, it’s wrong to hate her. She’s just a little girl, and her family broke up, and now she’s been thrust into a household where there is a 17-year-old girl who wishes she’d drop dead. She’s a little kid, she’s been traumatized by a family breakup, and she’s insecure. Why don’t you really embrace her and try to be the big sister she deserves?

News flash: your parents won’t always be alive. One day you’re going to be sitting in a funeral home and you’re going to watch them close your father’s casket. And then you and your “little step sister” are going to be the only family you have. So what kind of relationship do you want to have built up with her by that time?

Now that I’ve shocked you, I hope that day doesn’t come for a long, long time. But come it will. Your relationship with your little sister (forget that “step” crap, OK?) is going to be one of the things that gets you through it.

Again, she’s a little kid and she’s going to say stupid things. If she was your biological sister, you’d have the same issues. Why don’t you try to make her world a little more secure and take some of her pain away by being a loving, supportive big sister? Do that and by the time you’re both well into adulthood, she will love you and admire you.

And don’t worry about your looks vs. hers. She may grow up to be uglier than a Bantu witch doctor. But it doesn’t matter. All that matters is how you treat each other. You’re the “almost adult,” kid, so the ball is in your court. Step up to the plate and be a big sister. You will really be glad that you did.

]]> chev.jame Thu, 20 Nov 2008 03:06:56 +0100 Reply from Black_Rabbit /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9#reply-4510310 you don’t hate her

]]> Black_Rabbit Thu, 20 Nov 2008 02:17:39 +0100 Reply from twiggy3939 /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9#reply-4510279 There is nothing wrong with you not liking her. You’re never a bad person if you don’t like a family member, so you definetly aren’t one for not like a step-sister.
I’m 19. I have a 21 and 16 real sisters and a 12 and 9 step-sister and brother. My mom and step-dad got married just 2 years ago too. So, I know it’s tough to feel like you aren’t getting enough love.
If you can talk to your dad about maybe doing soemthing with just the two of you, that would be special.
Just remember, you’re going to college soon!
And the fact that you had to grow up harder will just mean that you get to enjoy adult life more. Yough times won’t be so ahrd for you. She’ll have a hard time adjusting to the real world, however.
Just wait ;)

]]> twiggy3939 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 02:04:10 +0100 Reply from Time Traveller /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9#reply-4510267 I think you should try to work that problem out with your Dad.

]]> Time Traveller Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:58:22 +0100 Reply from Time Traveller /post/219446-how-wrong-is-it-of-me-to-hate-my-9#reply-4510265 I think she may be a brat but your negativity toward her might be because of how your parents are being unfair to you, example the job issue.

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