[Help] My boyfriend is very good to me. Updates to this post /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me Mon, 30 Nov 2009 10:37:02 +0100 The post was closed by Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-7372639 Katiebug637 Tue, 25 Nov 2008 15:18:25 +0100 Reply from Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4519818 Yes! I completely agree with Raul and Jerry! Confidence is the key. I need to build it up.. that way I will be more secure with myself. I am just as good as any girl. If he decide to leave me then he doesnt deserve me. I don’t want to waste any more time to worry and sadness.

Im only 23 and its never too late to stop this right..

]]> Katiebug637 Sat, 22 Nov 2008 20:00:56 +0100 Reply from Jerry /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4519595 Katie, you’re always going to worry a bit. You’re a woman and the more attracted you are to the guy is the more you’ll think that other women will be attracted also. What you have is more than attraction though. Keep looking ahead (both of you) to the ways that you are going to build each others lives. It won’t affair-proof the relationship at all, but it should make you feel a bit more secure: probably until I admit that it won’t change anything. Too bad huh. You worry alot. You also have alot of spare time. Take your pretty little face out to preoccupation. Hoorar for Hobbies. There is bound to be an English speaking communnity somewhere!!! lovn you.

J.

]]> Jerry Sat, 22 Nov 2008 18:24:19 +0100 Reply from Raul /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4518774 Hi Katie, sorry so late.

I think that I can relate to you and to deye’in n’side. I’m not worried so much about being cheated on, but that I am perpetually not good enough for anyone. I’m feel confidant about so many things, my fitness, my intelligence, my class, all kinds of things. But I just can’t convince myself I am good enough to deserve to be with anyone. I just don’t know where I get it from either! Everyone tells me that I’m great. I guess I’m a good guy and all, but no matter what happens I just can’t convince myself. If I was in a relationship, I suppose that I would run the risk of being very jealous also. When I don’t have someone around to distract me I can feel quite horrible, I can somewhat imagine what it must be like for you Katie. Perhaps building our confidence up is what is necessary to help us overcome these things. Maybe that way I would feel more deserving and you would worry less about losing him. Does anyone know some good ways to help build confidence for Katie, deye’in, and I?

]]> Raul Sat, 22 Nov 2008 10:31:36 +0100 Reply from jonathanpce0 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4517207 Get out and get some hobbies x

]]> jonathanpce0 Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:37:37 +0100 Reply from kitt e /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516411 [quote veg_head][quote kitt e]I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.[/quote]Wow that would be hard with girls saying how great he is! I don’t know if I could deal with that! Get this- my hairdresser told me that at her wedding her now husband’s best friend (a girl) confessed her undying love to him and tried to get him to call it off. He didn’t, obviously, but what a disaster![/quote]

Yeah, this happened THREE TIMES. All of them right before I came along. He was leaving one job and going to another, and one worked with him, I guess she confessed her love on his last day there..one was his old best friend (before me:) ) and the other I don’t know. But he said he just didn’t feel the same way for them and when he met me he just knew we had to be together. Of course, he doesn’t hang out with those girls after they did that. He offered to continue being friends..but I’m not so sure if he gets how awkward that can be for the girls…just one of them still tries to keep in contact, but she’s backed off ALOT since I came along. At first she didn’t…but I told him how she acted and talked to him made me uncomfortable..and he understood that. Anyways, yeah. It’s not like that anymore! :) Otherwise I’d be crazy girl by now!

]]> kitt e Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:05:50 +0100 Reply from veg_head /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516367 [quote kitt e]I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.[/quote]

Wow that would be hard with girls saying how great he is! I don’t know if I could deal with that! Get this- my hairdresser told me that at her wedding her now husband’s best friend (a girl) confessed her undying love to him and tried to get him to call it off. He didn’t, obviously, but what a disaster!

]]> veg_head Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:55:01 +0100 Reply from veg_head /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516358 I know it’s hard to keep it inside but give it a shot sometime. Resist at all costs to say anything! Come up with an excuse to leave home for a while if you have to. Or, if he is an understanding guy, tell him how you know your jealousy isn’t necessary and that you are trying not to make him suffer. He might cut you some slack. You could also go out with your girlfriends when he goes out for a boys night; there’s no need for you to be stuck worrying about it. I’m lucky; I’m a crazy jealous person but so is my boyfriend so we understand what the other is going through!

]]> veg_head Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:52:09 +0100 Reply from Mayor /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516339 [quote Katiebug637]You look like a handsome confident guy, how are you in the same boat?

[quote deye’in n’side]We’re in the same boat Katie. We’ve got to get out and find some hobbies and make new friends. What are we waiting for?[/quote][/quote]

Thanks for the compliment but I’m not confident at all. And I don’t have many friends either and I get the jealous bug too. It’s hard being home alone while your lover is out having fun. But it’s time to make some friends. Don’t ask me how…

]]> Mayor Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:48:58 +0100 Reply from tricky /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516333 [quote Katiebug637][quote tricky]it doesnt matter if he is good looking or bad looking , if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat , it doesnt matter if he is social or not … cant you see ?[/quote]

Yes i can see that, and if he cheats on me then he doesnt deserve me and i can move on. I feel much much more better seeing it in writing..[/quote]

the world is endless so chill try to seperate your happiness on this world dont put it all in one person and than be so afraid to loose that person, find the happiness in this world and spread it all around

]]> tricky Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:47:54 +0100 Reply from kitt e /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516331 I went through this same thing. It’s like..you trust him completely, but you don’t trust the people around him. Several of his friends that are girls confessed their love to him because he is so kind and amazing..and a great listener too…I started out pretty insecure about all that. But then I had to remind myself (when I got those bad feelings) that I’m the one he chose to actually be his g/f…nobody else. He wouldn’t have done that if he wanted anyone else. It took awhile, but I got alot better about that. I started painting, actually. Also, jogging is a great way to clear your mind..you get rid of alot of frustrations and think things through while doing something good for your own health.

]]> kitt e Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:47:49 +0100 1 user were invited to read this post by Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-7337982 Katiebug637 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:45:53 +0100 Reply from Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516315 [quote tricky]it doesnt matter if he is good looking or bad looking , if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat , it doesnt matter if he is social or not … cant you see ?[/quote]

Yes i can see that, and if he cheats on me then he doesnt deserve me and i can move on. I feel much much more better seeing it in writing..

]]> Katiebug637 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:44:49 +0100 Reply from Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516309 [quote veg_head]I think it’s natural to feel that way; I do any my man would never cheat on me. Just try not to let it seep into your relationship. When you feel some “crazy” coming on remind yourself that it is irrational and don’t say anything. He doesn’t need to know.[/quote]

It’s so hard to not say anything, most of the time i end up failing and saying something totally retarded and we get into a fight.. i really want to fix this.

]]> Katiebug637 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:44:07 +0100 Reply from tricky /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516306 it doesnt matter if he is good looking or bad looking , if he is going to cheat he is going to cheat , it doesnt matter if he is social or not … cant you see ?

]]> tricky Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:43:29 +0100 Reply from Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516303 You look like a handsome confident guy, how are you in the same boat?

[quote deye’in n’side]We’re in the same boat Katie. We’ve got to get out and find some hobbies and make new friends. What are we waiting for?[/quote]

]]> Katiebug637 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:43:14 +0100 Reply from veg_head /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516302 I think it’s natural to feel that way; I do any my man would never cheat on me. Just try not to let it seep into your relationship. When you feel some “crazy” coming on remind yourself that it is irrational and don’t say anything. He doesn’t need to know.

]]> veg_head Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:42:52 +0100 Reply from Mayor /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516291 We’re in the same boat Katie. We’ve got to get out and find some hobbies and make new friends. What are we waiting for?

]]> Mayor Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:41:05 +0100 Reply from Katiebug637 /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516289 I know, you are right. If i truely trust him I would not worry about a single thing. I tell myself that all the time, to not get sad or upset if he has to go on a business trip, to not stress out if he goes out with his friends..

Then weird negative thoughts would creep up in my mind and all my worries would come rushing back. I should use the time to go explore the town, exercise, clean, learn Spanish, do whatever it takes to not sit around and worry. My boyfriend is extremely good looking , he is very outgoing, very social and has many many friends. It’s hard, I love him and i accept how he is. I just wish I was the same and he would worry about losing me for once. Also he smokes alot, it doesnt bother me when we first met but now it does =/

Its like im picking at everything he does to make myself worry… but im not doing it on purpose.

]]> Katiebug637 Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:40:47 +0100 Reply from tricky /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516273 do yoga or something :P if you cant keep ur mind off thinking you either have to get ur mind busy or change your perpective, the second one is harder than it sounds :D lol

]]> tricky Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:36:55 +0100 Reply from tricky /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516267 you are not the most pretty girl in this world ^_^ it aint that bad :D , it means that there is always a girl who is better looking than you , it doesnt mean he will cheat on you for it’s not all about looks now is it ^_^ , you have to really trust your bf that he wont cheat on you there is a difference in saying i trust my bf and really trusting him, words are easy, action speaks louder than words tho…

]]> tricky Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:36:03 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/220028-my-boyfriend-is-very-good-to-me#reply-4516252 It is understandable that with no friends and family around you that you are slightly insecure. To overcome this you must get out there and find some hobbies and meet new people. You will benefit from this in so many ways, not just that of your relationship.

]]> Anonymous Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:32:22 +0100