[Help] :S Updates to this post /post/223136-s Fri, 04 Dec 2009 03:40:25 +0100 The post was closed by 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-7856627 9584 Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:41:21 +0100 Reply from Sasha101 /post/223136-s#reply-4554481 Pookie nothing is written in stone as to the way people react when a person dies. Everyone takes the news differently, with some it takes time to sink in, with others the grief is immediate. One things for sure you do have to let yourself grieve, don’t worry about the tears, just let it all come its important to let it out of your system.
As Barely said, just put out a post, there’s always someone here if you need us :-)
Big hugs ((((((((((((((((((((( Pookie)))))))))))))))))))))

]]> Sasha101 Tue, 02 Dec 2008 01:24:52 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553474 ok i’ll keep all that in mind, thankyou

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:48:57 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553446 Pookie, Doc makes a valid point here. Your mind is trying to help prepare you for the shock and your first thought was why do I feel this way. You need the support of others, all you need do is ask them.

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:31:16 +0100 Reply from dimentieva /post/223136-s#reply-4553444 Everyone reacts differently it depends on your copeing skills and resiliency. Just understand that everyone is going to die and it is an exciting part of life which we need to embrace with less negativity. Imagine if you died. You would want your loved ones to remember the wonderful parts of yourself and keep them alive for you with possitive feelings and share them with the world because they are not here to do it themselves anymore. They are eltswere starting the next part of existance.

]]> dimentieva Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:30:49 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553441 ok thankyou

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:28:59 +0100 Reply from Morally Ambiguous JD /post/223136-s#reply-4553439 [quote Pookie loves you][quote Barely]that’s ok.. :) Do you think you just haven’t grasped the fact that he’s really gone?[/quote]

I guess not.. It still feels like he’s here[/quote]

it sounds like the shock has kicked your brain into action, our brain often does this during moments and times of incredible stress and emotional hardships. it is your minds way of dealing with such information until you are ready to handle it yourself, be around family and friends for the moment because you could come to realize how much this really means at anytime.

]]> Morally Ambiguous JD Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:27:53 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553434 Pookie, I agree with the Doc. Maybe it would be wise to sit down with family and other friends and talk about it. At least then when it sinks in you’ll have some support around you.

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:24:53 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553432 [quote Barely]that’s ok.. :) Do you think you just haven’t grasped the fact that he’s really gone?[/quote]

I guess not.. It still feels like he’s here

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:23:42 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553428 that’s ok.. :) Do you think you just haven’t grasped the fact that he’s really gone?

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:21:04 +0100 Reply from Morally Ambiguous JD /post/223136-s#reply-4553426 [quote Pookie loves you]im not hurting though, thats why im confused… by all accounts i should be ready to jump off the nearest building but i dont feel any different than i did this morning if that makes sense..[/quote]

i felt the same way when my granddad died, i didn’t feel anything, i think it hadn’t sunk in until the day before his burial, then it hit me… we all grieve differently and sometimes your brain tries to protect you from that kind of shock, just because you don’t feel anything now doesn’t mean you never will.

]]> Morally Ambiguous JD Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:20:08 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553425 sorry,
*were
*saw

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:19:43 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553420 we’re best friends, i’ve known him since i was 6 (ten yrs ago) i see him almost every other day..

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:17:53 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553418 Why? How close were the two of you?

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:16:45 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553414 im not hurting though, thats why im confused… by all accounts i should be ready to jump off the nearest building but i dont feel any differentthan i did this morning if that makes sense..

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:15:32 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553412 One of the things I find most comforting during a time of grief is remembering the things about the person that made you smile, can you tell me some of those things?

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:15:13 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553409 I’m so sorry sweetie. I know of no worse feeling than hearing that from the parent of a friend. I won’t ask if you’re ok, I know you’re hurting.

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:12:59 +0100 Reply from 9584 /post/223136-s#reply-4553406 i just got a call from my friends mom, she said trist died a few hours ago they think it was an accidental overdose.

]]> 9584 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:08:17 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553404 Did you recently lose a close friend pookie?

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:06:57 +0100 Reply from barely /post/223136-s#reply-4553401 [quote bookworm16]There is no set way to react. Just do what you need to do to grieve … as long as that isn’t something destructive obviously.[/quote]

I agree with bookworm, there is no prescribed manner that society says is the preferred method to act or react. I’m usually a very private person when it comes to close friends. I’ll go through a short period of grief alone as a means of dealing with it on a personal level, then with other friends also to help them deal with it. But, I dunno, that just me..

]]> barely Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:04:55 +0100 Reply from Morally Ambiguous JD /post/223136-s#reply-4553398 there isnt a way your supposed to react. you will just act as you do and you will grieve in your own way. but remember its fine to cry.

]]> Morally Ambiguous JD Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:02:24 +0100 Reply from bookworm16 /post/223136-s#reply-4553395 There is no set way to react. Just do what you need to do to grieve … as long as that isn’t something destructive obviously.

]]> bookworm16 Mon, 01 Dec 2008 17:00:08 +0100