[Help] there this guy i work im so attracted to him i want him but we wrk at the same job Updates to this post /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:38:12 +0100 Reply from theresape /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4570752 Chev.Jame,

LOL! Yep, those workplaces were swinging, when you look at it that way!

T.

]]> theresape Sat, 06 Dec 2008 18:34:59 +0100 Reply from chev.jame /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568414 [quote theresape]Chev.jame,

My mother and my father met at work.
I met my husband at work.
My two best friends each met their husbands at work.
My boss met his wife at work.
Three of my nieces and three of my nephews met their spouses at work.

It’s not surprising; then you spend 40 hours a week with someone, you get to know him or her very well. A lot better than you would get to know someone who is, say, draped around a bar stool.

It’s not a bad thing. Just a little risky.[/quote]

I’m sorry . . . this is just too tempting to resist . . . And no one got any work done! ;-)

Just kidding . . . but I just couldnpt resist!

]]> chev.jame Fri, 05 Dec 2008 21:36:46 +0100 Reply from Jamiee /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568201 Well it’s true…LOL

]]> Jamiee Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:35:53 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568187 [quote Jamiee]The other part of my advice was…if you don’t want to leave your job. Just keep your fantasies to yourself.[/quote]

i like dat thats funny

]]> Anonymous Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:32:56 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568186 LOL, it was supposed to be a fling :(

]]> I want out Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:32:50 +0100 Reply from Jamiee /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568185 So I suppose it’s just my bad luck that makes me think workplace relationships don’t work. By the sounds of it loads of people can make it work. I guess the guy I chose was just an…*insert rudes word here* LOL

]]> Jamiee Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:32:36 +0100 Reply from theresape /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568181 LOL, I’m not sure a six-year relationship qualifies as “a fling!”

]]> theresape Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:31:33 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568174 I did have a fling with a coworker that lasted 6 years, we are still best friends :)

]]> I want out Fri, 05 Dec 2008 20:29:48 +0100 Reply from theresape /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4568007 Chev.jame,

My mother and my father met at work.

I met my husband at work.

My two best friends each met their husbands at work.

My boss met his wife at work.

Three of my nieces and three of my nephews met their spouses at work.

It’s not surprising; then you spend 40 hours a week with someone, you get to know him or her very well. A lot better than you would get to know someone who is, say, draped around a bar stool.

It’s not a bad thing. Just a little risky.

]]> theresape Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:37:46 +0100 Reply from chev.jame /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567970 When you start dating someone at work, you become an “item.” Your co-workers will come around and ask, “So, how is it going with you and so-and-so?” And if it doesn’t work out, about two dozen of your co-workers will come by, spaced out over the next week or so, and ask, “So, are you and so-and-so still together?”

THAT’S why you don’t want to date people at work! EVERYBODY gets into your business! You are the TALK of the workplace!

Nobody needs that!

]]> chev.jame Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:26:36 +0100 Reply from theresape /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567921 You could ask him out, but if it doesn’t work out, you’d be risking your job, your comfort, and your productivity.

Is it worth the risk?

Part of the answer relies on just how strong the attraction is and what it’s based on. Do you just have the hots for him, or have you looked deep into his soul and realized that you have the same values, the same goals, the same passions, and a magical rapport that could never be replaced in a million eternities?

The other part has to do with the job, and how irreplaceable THAT is. If you’re both brain surgeons researching cranial transplants at the most distinguished research facility on the planet, then you might not want to take a risk. On the other hand, if you flip french fries in a town where there are 56 other fast-food restaurants, or if you teach elementary ed in an area where there are 600 other elementary schools all clamoring for help, then maybe risking the job is not so bad.

Got to weigh these things.

]]> theresape Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:12:14 +0100 Reply from Jamiee /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567843 Haha yes but the point I was making that they would remain better as just fantasies…eg in her head. Therefore you will never know will you littlenick!

]]> Jamiee Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:47:43 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567832 [quote Jamiee]The other part of my advice was…if you don’t want to leave your job. Just keep your fantasies to yourself.[/quote]

What type of fantasies? Ummmm! Intriguing! You can came here and steam up help.com with them. I’m willing to listen! I’m always open for a good sexy fantasy!

]]> littlenick Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:44:06 +0100 Reply from Jamiee /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567817 The other part of my advice was…if you don’t want to leave your job. Just keep your fantasies to yourself.

]]> Jamiee Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:40:53 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567816 [quote jamiee]do not get involved with someone you work with…seriously bad move!![/quote]
Listen to the voice of experience!

]]> littlenick Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:40:30 +0100 Reply from Jamiee /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567809 I had a relationship with the assistant manager at my last job…I was leaving anyways. But I was hoping to go back and work there again in the future as I really enjoyed the job. However, things haven’t worked out with my assistant manager, I can no longer work there (Out of choice though as I know it would be awkward and that everyone knows what happened.)
Therefore my advice would either be to leave the job with no intent to ever go back incase things don’t work out..and after leaving the job ask him out.
DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE YOU WORK WITH…SERIOUSLY BAD MOVE!!

]]> Jamiee Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:39:12 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567784 Office romances never last. After you go out, have a good time, get tired of each other, break up, and you will not speak to each other again. It becomes very awkward to work with somebody you went out with and broke up. I would just keep it on the friendship level unless you like to work in an uncomfortable environment. Good luck!

]]> littlenick Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:33:33 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567696 Temptation sooooo bad, but feels so good :(

]]> I want out Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:55:22 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567684 find a new job, quit, add him to myspace, and ask him on a date.

then after the third date, tell him you got a new job so you could be honorable and date him appropriately…

that will either seal the deal… or scare him away… and if he’s scared… he isn’t worth it.

]]> Anonymous Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:48:34 +0100 Reply from myoffering2 /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567660 Helpbot is an idiot!! You should let him know how you feel or you will regret it later. I don’t think you should let him you are addicted to him. He may run away screaming. I say never stop yourself from doing something if you think you may regret it later. You don’t want to be thinking about this guy and the possibilities after you have been married for 10 years and have 3 kids.
You can always find another job but he may be the guy you’re looking for.

]]> myoffering2 Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:38:39 +0100 Reply from chev.jame /post/224531-there-this-guy-i-work-im-so-attract#reply-4567658 Probability that the relationship will work out and that you will end up married to each other: 0.02 percent.

Probability you will see each other at work every day and have uncomfortable moments if it doesn’t work out: 100 percent.

It’s a bad idea to date people you work with!

]]> chev.jame Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:36:49 +0100