[Help] How do you tell your parents you aren't gay, when you told them you are before?

Reply from Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 01:01:14 +0100

Just tell your parents that you come to realize that your not what you thought you were and in the end they should respect whatever you decide.

Your growing up these things happen, dont be ashamed you wont be going back on your word you’ll just be open and honest with your parents about how you feel, and they deserve that atleast.

Reply from lauren.capel

lauren.capel — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 11:34:23 +0100

Instead of saying you’re confused - you should just tell them that you aren’t labeling yourself anymore and that you’ve found yourself attracted to members of both sexes. It all boils down to you loving who you love, no questions asked - no excuses needed. I can relate though - I went through a long period of thinking that I was a lesbian, but I was attracted to a few guys too; my mom was supportive, but my dad freaked the heck out. Now I just tell people I’m greedy and want a bigger playing field (it makes them laugh and back off my case at the same time). You should really tell them about this girl though because if you do become serious it would be kinda uncomfortable to blindside them with your relationship when you bring her home to meet the parents (they might blurt something out like, “BUT YOU SAID YOU WERE GAY!”). I would also recomend telling anyone you get into a relationship with that you swing both ways - saves a hassle down the road when they find out by some other source (can you say AWKWARD!!!!).

Reply from margerydor

margerydor — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 19:32:59 +0100

You could just tell them you are confused and need time to work it out. It doesn’t really matter whether you change your mind a hundred times, they’re your parents and will love you.

Reply from avaeccus

avaeccus — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 01:31:08 +0100

Man… what do I keep on typing for that to continually happen.

Reply from avaeccus

avaeccus — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 01:30:32 +0100

[quote Kuvri (yodaluv12)]I think you should wait until you finish puberty and are more sure of your sexuality before you tell your parents again. Either that or tell them you’re bi. But who knows, maybe after you move on from this girl you’ll not like girls again.[/quote]

All very possible, true. I just don’t want to tell them I’m not gay through a wedding invitation to a girl they’ve never met, granted I marry a girl of course. Though if I do start dating her, having my parents think I’m gay could be a pretty big advantage, I could spend a lot of time with her with no suspicion.

Reply from Kuvri (yodaluv12)

Kuvri (yodaluv12) — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 01:28:03 +0100

I think you should wait until you finish puberty and are more sure of your sexuality before you tell your parents again. Either that or tell them you’re bi. But who knows, maybe after you move on from this girl you’ll not like girls again.