[Help] Hi guys,

Reply from Solid

Solid — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:27:33 +0100

If you want to have fun and sleep with him, why not, but if you want a real relationship and are looking for someone to settle down with and have kids with thn this is definitely the wrong guy for you.

Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon

Richard Cor de Lyon — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:25:46 +0100

But you’re talking about going into a relationship because he is more confident etc… I understand that, but is that a good reason to be getting into a relationship. Because of what you will get out of another person? To see what another person will become? We need to get into a relationship so that we will find out who WE become.. the self. Our entire journey here is to remember who we really are. Relationships are great for this. Relationships that are entered into for what HE is, or what SHE will give to you are entered into for the wrong reason. Enter into a relationship knowing that you are growing… and that you will be changing under his nose… you will becoming the best ‘you’ with him around. (NOTE: he better know this too).

Reply from Michael Leibman

Michael Leibman — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:21:53 +0100

Yes, you could talk to him about it. That’s a huge age difference, there’s no reason it wouldn’t be one of the obvious things to talk about if you’re actually getting close.

Reply from Nensix

Nensix — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:18:09 +0100

Yeah you may be right. But I can’t help it, what do I do??? I mean it’s not like I went out thinking ‘I want to date a guy in his early forties’. It just kinda happened. He’s a great guy. Perhaps I should talk to him about this?

Reply from I want out

I want out — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:16:50 +0100

[quote . - : [ 2511 ] : - .]All women (till a certain point in their lives) like older man…also, guys of your age haven’t rly matured =PWell, he’s near their age, I wouldn’t be glad if I was your dad =P[/quote]

I like older and younger, so I think it is the guy not the age, however a female in her 20s should be careful, that is how I ended up married at 23 :(

Reply from . - : 2511 : - .

. - : 2511 : - . — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:15:28 +0100

All women (till a certain point in their lives) like older man…also, guys of your age haven’t rly matured =P

Well, he’s near their age, I wouldn’t be glad if I was your dad =P

Reply from Msknowitall

Msknowitall — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:15:21 +0100

Unfortunately, I think that age being just a number does not apply to relationships.

Reply from I want out

I want out — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:14:54 +0100

From my own experience in your 20s you are still very naive, I say don’t do it

Reply from Nensix

Nensix — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:13:09 +0100

I think that the fact he has more*

Reply from Nensix

Nensix — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:12:43 +0100

Yeah, you’re right, I’m not sure I can resist taking it further. I think that he has more experience, wisdom etc is what attracts me too him. I’ve dated younger guys but it’s always the older, confident guys that really get to me. That I’ve actually managed to find a single one that likes me too seems like a miracle.

I am worried what people will say, especially my parents, but surely age is just a number?

Reply from Msknowitall

Msknowitall — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:09:13 +0100

I really wouldn’t recommend a relationship with someone that much older than you-but in the end, you’re just going to follow what you think. You may not be a teenager, but you’re still young. Eventually, you will probably find that you want different things, and then you will be forced to separate. It’s less of an objection when you’re older, because of life experience etc. It’s not an ideal situation, and at 23, you’ve still got a lot to learn.

Reply from . - : 2511 : - .

. - : 2511 : - . — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:07:52 +0100

[quote Nensix]I’m 23, I think he really likes me, but I’m just worried it’s because I’m young and he likes the idea he can pull a young girl. But I’d love to think he could respect me. It’s not like I’m a teenager.[/quote]

Still…20 years is A LOT…

I’m not saying that it isn’t possible, one of my grandparents married with 30 years of difference =P

It’s hard to tell…most ppl will criticize it yeah, and he will obviously like the idea that you’re young =P, but well, maybe you’d like to look more into it and see were it goes…

I’d be careful though, 20 years is a lot…

Reply from Nensix

Nensix — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:03:49 +0100

I’m 23, I think he really likes me, but I’m just worried it’s because I’m young and he likes the idea he can pull a young girl. But I’d love to think he could respect me. It’s not like I’m a teenager.

Reply from Msknowitall

Msknowitall — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:02:52 +0100

Age does matter. Especially if you’re young enough to be their child.

Reply from . - : 2511 : - .

. - : 2511 : - . — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:02:32 +0100

[quote Richard cor de lyon]ahhh here’s a debate comeing. The people under the age of 20 will tell you no… that all you need is love, and everything will be ok. The people over 30, will tell you OMG, yes… run away from the freak. And the people between the ages of 20 and 30 are the ones asking the question.I’m over 30.Bright blessings ~Richard[/quote]

[quote . - : [ 2511 ] : - .]your age?[/quote]

I’m below 20 =P

Reply from Richard Cor de Lyon

Richard Cor de Lyon — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:01:31 +0100

ahhh here’s a debate comeing. The people under the age of 20 will tell you no… that all you need is love, and everything will be ok. The people over 30, will tell you OMG, yes… run away from the freak. And the people between the ages of 20 and 30 are the ones asking the question.

I’m over 30.

Bright blessings ~Richard

Reply from . - : 2511 : - .

. - : 2511 : - . — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:01:20 +0100

your age?