[Help] Why do we constantly bring upon ourselves such great pain?

Reply from no_spo0n

no_spo0n — Wed, 20 May 2009 13:49:57 +0100

[quote crosenblum]I had just meant, that pain is a biological symptom that there is something wrong with our body…That pain isn’t the problem, it’s just a messenger…

So if we take that further to say that emotional pain exists, pain isn’t the problem, it’s the messenger..

Does that make better sense?[/quote]

They have done studies to show that the recptors in our brain that respond to physical pain do ‘light up’ or activate when we experience emotional pain too.

This is why emotional pain can actually feel physically painful.

Reply from no_spo0n

no_spo0n — Wed, 20 May 2009 13:47:57 +0100

I commented on another post about the processes of negative thinking: http://help.com/post/277077-i-hate-be…

But part of me thinks that our low periods are in some ways a time for us to do self reflection and analyze our actions. If we are constantly happy we tend to question our actions much less and feel no guilt for, or be unaware of causing pain to others.

It’s when we let the low points take control, over analyze things, etc, that we end up in a dark place.
Our greatest stength (reflection, analysis, etc) is also the biggest threat to our wellbeing.

Reply from lostinatoodarkpark

lostinatoodarkpark — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 21:58:54 +0100

ive been asking myself that a lot too

i think its pure egoism and the total disconnection from other individuals’ emotions

most people only want love and success for themselves and completely ignore the pain they inflict on others

fuzzynut, your analogy seems a bit flawed … 2 types of people would mean …
1. people who accidentally do bad things and later on blame other people and themselves
2. people who dont do anything and just watch other people do bad things
??

so theres no-one who intentionally does bad and no-one who intentionally does good?

Reply from crosenblum

crosenblum — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:02:49 +0100

I had just meant, that pain is a biological symptom that there is something wrong with our body…That pain isn’t the problem, it’s just a messenger…

So if we take that further to say that emotional pain exists, pain isn’t the problem, it’s the messenger..

Does that make better sense?

Reply from Jerry

Jerry — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 14:31:07 +0100

What in the world does that example mean? I don’t see what that’s got to do with the post.

Reply from fuzzynut

fuzzynut — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 14:03:24 +0100

really it all depends on the kind of person you are there are two types of people laid back and hateful example. say there was a ball on the side walk would you pass it by or kick it in the road now say that ball belonged to a little child now that little child ran out in to the road gets hit by a bus you a hateful person you balme the child and later your self if your laid back you dont blame any one becaus you dident move the ball

Reply from crosenblum

crosenblum — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 12:11:00 +0100

It’s mostly about making us feel alive, and making us aware of the lessons of life we sorely need to learn and master….

Reply from Jerry

Jerry — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 11:21:27 +0100

Yeah. Kindof like some theories about the presence of evil in the world. That without evil there would be no definitive line for good. However, you have to understand the world as black and white in some aspects for that to be true to you, pain seems to be a bit more grey than anything.

Reply from mys

mys — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 11:18:12 +0100

its a good question, i suppose its just human nature that we need to feel pain to experience the good

Reply from fuzzy-wuz

fuzzy-wuz — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 11:17:18 +0100

if we didn’t bring pain upon ourselfs then the really great things in life that stand out for the good, well wouldnt be really great now would they?