[Help] Is finding friends a long process?

Reply from lazy

lazy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:15:04 +0100

i can’t believe i typed **** when i meant ****.

Reply from lazy

lazy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:04:25 +0100

you should be proud and very, very happy about the progress you’ve made and how you feel you would like to be around people which is very healthy to begin with.
i’ve tried ****. john’s herb and didn’t find much help in it, maybe a bit of a clarifying effect but it ended up badly in a few hours every time. it sounds like you’re an accomplished person who doesn’t necessarily need the wort to get things going, perhaps real vitamins would come in order actually… i take centrum and hope for the best lol
are the clubs and lessons you’re taking of any social nature or related to something you care for very particularly? i’m asking because maybe i love swimming, but that doesn’t mean i can talk about anything with my swimming mates if i am repulsed by discrimination and they happen to be homophobes… i’m not sure i made my point but for example when i joined the red crescent (syrian red cross) to give psychological support to war refugees i found a much better chance of having fruitful, friend-making conversations with my colleagues as the activity was related to psyche and human communication which originally are what one operates to make new friends, rather than breast butterflies and biceps. i hope i’m any help at all :/

gluck

Reply from rainbowchris

rainbowchris — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 21:39:29 +0100

finding the right kind of friend you can trust and talk to is a very long process or can happen instantly.Sometime somewhere you will meet someone you just click with and because of the instant click you wil straight away want to spend more and more time with each other and probably have a great laugh too. i have lived in the same street for 10 years now and i say hello to and know a lot of people but wouldnt class anyone as friends really,it was only when some new neighbours moved in across the road that are around my age and i found a friend that i felt i had known all my life and we have the same interests etc,maybe the right kind of people just havent came along for you yet. it took a very long time for me to meet anyone i would class as a friend.hope this helps

Reply from My Chemical Romance-

My Chemical Romance- — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 13:32:02 +0100

sometimes you neeed to talk to people who you are a little unsure about , the people who you would imagine you would get along with and maybe bring one of your current friends to help get the convo going. go for people who are a little strange you could learn a lot off of them and they will make your personality far more interesting.

Reply from desire

desire — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 13:09:36 +0100

it takes a long time to make the RIGHT friends.

Just do activities that you like and you will meet people with the sam interests!
believe me, it WORKS!!

Reply from friend5

friend5 — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 13:03:16 +0100

well i guess making friends are really very easy. the main point here is the world is full of people you have to choose the correct one. and the most important thing is be as you are. dont change your self for the people and sont think so much you can get to know a person in 1 or hardly 2 meetings and you can make as much as friend u want.
just take care that, that person deserves u or not.

take care
bbye

Reply from skyy

skyy — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 16:48:28 +0100

Thanks :)

Reply from troye

troye — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 05:56:28 +0100

Instead of searching desperately for friends, just be yourself and find someone you gel with. If you’re meeting a lot of new people, I’m sure you’ll find someone you have stuff in common with.

Reply from skyy

skyy — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 21:55:13 +0100

Yea i think i come off as desperate to people who i find a bit interesting. I need to just knock my enthusiam down a bit. I can have lots of friends but the people who want to befriend i dont feel share the same interest as me. So i dont get close to them. This is probably karma for pushing most of the people who were in my life away.

[quote MothMan]Your doing good things with your physical nutrition/maintenance that will definitely improve your mental outlook/health. The one thing you seem to lack is a purpose or a fulfilling objective, something positive that you can work at and improve, something that occupies six days of your week and gives you something to focus on when personal relationships falter (and they will:) from time to time.[/quote]

Yes i know what you mean and i do think i am missing that. Maybe it should be my studies so my grades can improve. I guess if i focus on my schoolwork, health, and religion then i will gain friends eventually. But like i said it does get lonely and ive been lonely for far too long. The friends i had dont interest me anymore at all and we are on different levels. So its not that i dont have any friends or what not. Its just hard for me to find new people who i can see myself hanging out with on a regular basis and who actaully share the same interest as me.

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skyy — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 21:48:24 +0100

Reply from MothMan

MothMan — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 15:02:26 +0100

Your doing good things with your physical nutrition/maintenance that will definitely improve your mental outlook/health. The one thing you seem to lack is a purpose or a fulfilling objective, something positive that you can work at and improve, something that occupies six days of your week and gives you something to focus on when personal relationships falter (and they will:) from time to time.

Reply from kycpo

kycpo — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 14:44:44 +0100

You are doing all the right things. It is very brave of you to walk into those places you mentioned and simply tried to make a friend. You are right, it is a hard thing to do. The two best friends I had i just walked up to their houses and knocked on the door and introduced myself. I knew their husbands so we had a bit in common.I lived in the country, a new town and was crushingly lonely. I just kept going back to them over and over and became closer than sisters. If they had turned me away I would have found someone else that I liked and told them the truth. I had not made friends yet and wanted to talk to them if I was not intruding on their life. You are doing the right thing with the Saint John’s Wort. It won’t hurt you and it is doing a lot of good evidently. Later in life I began to play contract bridge and that took over my life and I made so many friends. But I am not the kind to have friends in my house. You do have to take it casual. If you are desperate you will scare most people off. They think you will annoy them when they are busy. But you have to make the effort, not them. You have to be brave and speak to people. Finding friends is the hardest thing but do not give up. Be sure and listen more than you talk. Everybody wants to talk. If you become known as a listener you will have too many friends.Ask a few questions and stand still and listen. It will happen if you want it but give it time and do not give up. Good luck and a prayer for you.

Reply from drMIDO

drMIDO — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 14:01:25 +0100

hi
i think u have to start friend ship with ur self first
love and respect ur self and love her to make people love and respect u
wait to have people that match u more better than being in hurru tus meet the wrong people
u have long live to find people u like and they like u too
good luck

Reply from Spagg

Spagg — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 13:48:27 +0100

Worry less and it will happen. If someone is trying to befriend me and it appears they are desperate, it might put me off them a little, if you know what I mean! You sound like you’re doing all the right things. As you said patience! make sure you join things that require conversation and participation. We can all be in a room full of people and be lonely. Take the first step and introduce yourself and see what happens.

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skyy — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 13:36:49 +0100