[Help] Letting go of your past! Updates to this post /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past Mon, 07 Dec 2009 17:32:34 +0100 Reply from Justinwaddell0 /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-5253840 [quote MortallyWounded]Healing slowly is right. It’s 24+ years and still not entirely healed. Will it ever?[/quote]

Trust Time, you will heal. Im writing my new book on Letting go of your past. I hope it helps all.

]]> Justinwaddell0 Fri, 18 Sep 2009 00:15:00 +0100 Reply from tetrahedra2 /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-5149591 Thanks it definately makes you think? How can you forget the past when the addictive relationship you are running from contacts you everyday?

]]> tetrahedra2 Fri, 24 Jul 2009 02:12:20 +0100 Reply from KROMESTAR /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4967052 the past always creeps up on you after a while
some people need to be punished for past times in the future
its very hard to forget the past………

]]> KROMESTAR Sat, 25 Apr 2009 10:59:26 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4948691 You are welcome, now it is up to you to start to forgive yourself, once you can do that everything else will become possible.

]]> I want out Thu, 16 Apr 2009 22:23:41 +0100 Reply from gypsy-corner /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4948402 Thanks for sharing this with me! U’re right I do need to forgive myself…I’ve sort of become something I’ve always told myself I wouldnt. I guess because of my past is partly the reason I feel so worthless and replacable now. Thanks for sharing this post it made a lot of sense:)

]]> gypsy-corner Thu, 16 Apr 2009 19:38:10 +0100 Reply from IDon'tEverQuit /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4888473 what if your past involves something very hurtful that someone said to you in a tough situation and it changed you for the worst and caused many, many problems even years down the road?

]]> IDon'tEverQuit Sat, 21 Mar 2009 02:30:38 +0100 Reply from singlegalkansa /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4887247 that is so nice for you to say, doesn’t mean that it can truly ever be forgotten. It doesnt mean you will heal and move on. I think it just means you will move on. The heal never can be fixed!

]]> singlegalkansa Fri, 20 Mar 2009 19:58:34 +0100 Reply from easttowes /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4884752 probably time to let go to be honest.
she needs to do her **** so she can feel like she thinks she needs to, i need to get a handle on life again. probably universally true of all non-brutal breakups.

]]> easttowes Thu, 19 Mar 2009 23:44:38 +0100 Reply from easttowes /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4884441 i dont know if i can do that, i’d like to though.
when i had my girlfreind through bad times and good, i always knew she was there. my best friend, now shes not even that, we spent almost all our time together but now its gone and i dont really have a social network anymore. How to move forward…
i’d love her back but i dont think she wants me to be honest

]]> easttowes Thu, 19 Mar 2009 22:16:06 +0100 Reply from littlewolf /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4883822 I dont know if holding on to the way “it was”, is actually letting go… but I do know that letting go is often the most we can ask for. I might have had a more cheery answer last week but I lost my 11 year companion (my pup) a couple of days ago and Id give anything to have him back. Sometimes what we want is irrelevant to a plan for us we lack the capacity to fully understand. Hold on to the idea that there is love all around, even if we cannot see it… When we need to see it most. Please dont lose sight of those in your life that do love you, even when the one you want love from most for whatever reason is incapable of reciprocity.

]]> littlewolf Thu, 19 Mar 2009 16:13:54 +0100 Reply from easttowes /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4881435 can you let go of the past and hope it will return the way you wanted it to be, yet still be letting go of the past?

]]> easttowes Wed, 18 Mar 2009 16:56:37 +0100 Reply from littlewolf /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4869525 Hi. I just wanted to tell you that sometimes life just sucks. That said, I wanted to share with you that there was a time when I found myself divorced and I thought it was going to kill me… It was the worst thing that ever happened to me and it turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. I finally realized I was the only person who had the answers… I was just too hurt to see. I saw that I was alone, and whatever happened in my life from that day forward was only going to happen if I so chose to make a decision and enact true and lasting change in my life. I reevaluated everything and saw a whole new perspective. I saw that even though I was lost, I was free to do whatever I wanted. I reevaluated my hopes dreams and set goals FOR ME. I left my home town and I have been chasing down my dreams ever since. I finally found my purpose and true path in life and I am thankful for the heartbreak which served as the impetus for becoming who I am today.
Ill stop there as Ive taken up too much space as it is… I hope you find what youre looking for, you may not yet know what it is, but asking this question tells me youre on your way..
All the best…

]]> littlewolf Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:07:19 +0100 Reply from barely /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863263 Maybe I’ll tell you that story in the near future.. it is something to think about from an outside viewpoint..

]]> barely Thu, 12 Mar 2009 00:54:59 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863199 Thanks B, as for the spoon feeding Hmmmmmmmmmm LOL

]]> I want out Thu, 12 Mar 2009 00:35:06 +0100 Reply from barely /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863168 I’m sorry that it took me so long to reply, I read it days ago but waited to think before I replied.. Thanks.. it’s a wonderful post..

]]> barely Thu, 12 Mar 2009 00:24:25 +0100 Reply from barely /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863165 We all have our embarrassing moments. Things we did that we should have known not to do, things we say that were said in anger that hurt the ones we love, things we can never fully explain because it looks like we’re defending a ridiculous point.

And then there are the things others do to us? People we don’t even know. People that hate life or disregard it so much it’s nothing for them to injure without impunity, without a second thought or even a glance. Those are the ones I find it so hard to forgive!

Those are the ones that have made me see the real value of life, so maybe I’ve answered my own question here? Through their actions my eyes were opened, so yes, maybe I do owe them, maybe I should work on the forgiveness part of that memory.

Hmmm… something to think about, as I spoon feed you, lol..

]]> barely Thu, 12 Mar 2009 00:22:37 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863097 Ha, well I have my share of embarrassing moments, makes my eye twitch LOL

]]> I want out Wed, 11 Mar 2009 23:32:14 +0100 Reply from Why So Steve? /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863072 My memory isn’t so good. I’m not always sure I can remember the circumstances surrounding the events that I have these brief recollections of, and whilst others are clearer it’s not always an issue of me apologising to someone. Sometimes it’s just an embarrassing moment. I can’t seem to let go.

]]> Why So Steve? Wed, 11 Mar 2009 23:18:01 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863049 Acknowledging what set you off, then once you have acknowledge what has upset you, you can choose to face it by apologising for your actions (this takes courage and a blow to the ego). Once you have had your serving of humble pie, will be able to relaese it and let it go. I did not say it was easy, but it will free you.
There is no easy way out.

]]> I want out Wed, 11 Mar 2009 23:04:29 +0100 Reply from Why So Steve? /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4863001 When I remember things from my past that I am ashamed of I react physically, almost like a tick. I jerk my head, mumble gibberish or shake. I can’t help it. It is very rare that anyone will see me do it, but my wife has seen me and has humorously commented that I am “crazy.” How can I overcome this?

]]> Why So Steve? Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:50:03 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4862981 I think it is kinda what you are dealing with in your present. I am glad you like, it will fade, this much I know is true.

]]> I want out Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:43:16 +0100 Reply from Why So Steve? /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4862922 Good post Eva. It took me a while to get around to reading it, but I’m glad that I did. Thanks.

]]> Why So Steve? Wed, 11 Mar 2009 22:30:33 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856867 It is a work in progress for me, hope it works for you as well :)

]]> I want out Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:53:28 +0100 Reply from Sans /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856836 I loved this post. I’m going to copy those steps and try them.

]]> Sans Tue, 10 Mar 2009 00:41:28 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856637 no worries, I hope you find a way through to the end. There is peace there, good luck my friend, will keep you in my prayers

]]> I want out Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:55:18 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856625 I see! :) Well, wasn’t really planning to spill the story here anyway! lol

]]> MortallyWounded Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:51:58 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856513 What i mean is that I don’t know the story and you give me hints as to what it is. That is waht I meen by spoon feed

]]> I want out Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:18:01 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856492 What do you mean? He IS locked up for life which is where that kind of person needs to be!

]]> MortallyWounded Mon, 09 Mar 2009 23:13:20 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856317 Hmmmm, spoon feeding me i see, intresting

]]> I want out Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:42:55 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4856176 Well, he’s actually in for something else. He never got taken to task for what he did to me.

]]> MortallyWounded Mon, 09 Mar 2009 22:14:34 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4855972 Hmmmmmmm well that sounds intresting, it sounds like it could be quite some story.
If you ever want to share I am listing.

]]> I want out Mon, 09 Mar 2009 20:55:15 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4855645 Yea, that forgiveness is what I need to keep working on. The poor guy IS in maximumsecurity jail for life! I should really pity him! ( I do actually).

]]> MortallyWounded Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:56:31 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4855578 You will never forget, but you will get past it, I promise. Forgivness playes a major role in moving forward, either forgiving yourself or someone else.

]]> I want out Mon, 09 Mar 2009 18:18:48 +0100 Reply from MortallyWounded /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4854971 Healing slowly is right. It’s 24+ years and still not entirely healed. Will it ever?

]]> MortallyWounded Mon, 09 Mar 2009 15:40:15 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4845735 You are welcome, I hope it helps

]]> I want out Fri, 06 Mar 2009 15:12:49 +0100 Reply from okei! /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4845654 [quote Freelance Supergirl ]Thank you

I have used these 6 steps to help me, it may help you as well

1. Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories.

2.Letting go of your past means honoring your memories.

3.Let go of the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you – you’ll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.

4.Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible. Letting go of your past can mean going back.

5.Share your real feelings; confess if it’s appropriate. Letting go of your past means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt.

6.Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to. Letting go of your past means being vulnerable. Letting go of your past means burying your pride.[/quote]

Thank you so much! :p

]]> okei! Fri, 06 Mar 2009 13:54:19 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4845537 It is, but the alternitave is so much harder.

]]> I want out Fri, 06 Mar 2009 11:26:56 +0100 Reply from Devil_on_Earth /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4845015 Letting go is harder than it sounds.

]]> Devil_on_Earth Fri, 06 Mar 2009 04:21:05 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4843315 We are usually our own toughest critics

]]> I want out Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:58:48 +0100 Reply from ~LazyDaze~ /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4843304 I never forgive myself for anything, I think I just like the mental torture it brngs, who knows.
I find it easy to forgive others for what they do or say but as for myself, I doubt I will ever give myself a break.

]]> ~LazyDaze~ Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:53:40 +0100 Reply from I want out /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4843294 Thank you

I have used these 6 steps to help me, it may help you as well

1. Write, talk, draw, paint, or otherwise tap into your thoughts and memories.

2.Letting go of your past means honoring your memories.

3.Let go of the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you – you’ll feel horrible during, but relieved and peaceful afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.

4.Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible. Letting go of your past can mean going back.

5.Share your real feelings; confess if it’s appropriate. Letting go of your past means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt.

6.Apologize and ask forgiveness if you need to. Letting go of your past means being vulnerable. Letting go of your past means burying your pride.

]]> I want out Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:51:24 +0100 Reply from okei! /post/252554-letting-go-of-your-past#reply-4843277 I hope I can let go of the painful memories of the past. But with the happy and blessed ones, I will cling to it for life.

Nice post. Lovely avatar.

]]> okei! Thu, 05 Mar 2009 15:46:04 +0100