[Help] Sexually confused, or sexually frustrated? Updates to this post /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:07:43 +0100 Reply from chris_nightfir /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5141430 Problem: you have H-OCD.
Solution: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Every time you experience this confusion for more than 10 minutes write on a index card “Because I have GAY thoughts I think I might be evil”. Put it in your pocket, and walk with it.

Even though you are not gay, tell your brain that you are, and laugh at it.

Practice that, you’ll be back to your normal heterosexuality.

Good luck

]]> chris_nightfir Mon, 20 Jul 2009 04:50:11 +0100 Reply from anonymou /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5118028 Hi i’m confidently straight and i must say that being curious is a turn on don’t let it confuse you with your sexuality and if you don’t like the thought entierly and feel sick after it shows that your anxious about it and you don’t really want it in your life.

You might also have OCD (h-ocd) if you can’t stop thinking about it and it is in the way of your life.If you do have this get on meds and see a phyciatrist.

Your not gay or bi your just straight and curious so don’t obsess about it otherwise OCD or anxiety will take over your life.

If you get a “groinal response” sometimes that is due to anxiety.search hocd on google and there are two main forums I go on Stuck in a doorway.

YOUR NOT ALONE YOU WOULD KNOW ALREADY IF YOU WERE GAY OR BI!CURIOUSITY IS A DIFFERENT THING.

]]> anonymou Tue, 07 Jul 2009 11:33:54 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5094452 I haven’t been a teenager for awhile, but what you’re both experiencing is very normal. I’ve had some friends who have acted on the curiosity, but they have always ended up being more confused later. Obviously it’s your decision to make, but when I’ve had those kind of confusing thoughts, I’ve just pushed them away. I’m now happily married, and don’t have those problems anymore. I think part of it is just the sexual repression. Take your time finding the right person for you, and don’t worry about being “turned on” occasionally by this or that. Be confident in who you know you are despite those natural curiosities.

]]> Anonymous Thu, 25 Jun 2009 00:07:14 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5093518 thanks that really helpled me too :) at least we’re not alone. and it’s wierd isn’t it, you just think about it all the time and its soo confusing! my friends always used to call me gay like ‘you’re so gay!’ even though they know I’m not. it’s really scary but hopefully it will go soon :/

]]> Anonymous Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:57:35 +0100 Reply from monster_rainbow_cand /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5091008 omg. hey. i’m a girl and i’m seventeen. i’ve actally been having kind of the same dilemma > i have a boyfriend, but i think because my friends used to tease me a lot about being a lesbian i’ve been having thoughts about being attracted to women. I’ve never actually had a crush on a woman and I know it’s not a problem at ALL…but sometimes i have these thoughts. I’ll picture scenarios of me sharing a sexual experience with a woman or having a crush on a girl to see if it turns me on. the truth is, it just confuses me. i’ve had crushes on guys and been attracted to guys all my life. but reading this has really helped me to get over my confusion. it’s not like i definitely know if i’m straight or bi but it shows me that i don’t have to worry - my main concern was hurting my boyfriend, but i know now i dont have to. i guess it’s ok to be be turned on by sexual things and be curious as a teen xD you are not alone!

and btw. don’t worry about never having a girlfriend yet. the guy i’m with right now is only my second boyfriend :)

]]> monster_rainbow_cand Tue, 23 Jun 2009 10:38:07 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5089176 I’m so confused atm, I really want to have sex with a woman but at the same time I don’t want to. What the hell!? Also when I think about a woman I don’t get aroused but when I see a picture of a woman I do, why?!

]]> Anonymous Mon, 22 Jun 2009 12:18:20 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5076174 I know lots of people (teenagers included) who have gone through a curious phase. Just be true to who you know you are.

]]> Anonymous Tue, 16 Jun 2009 06:20:30 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5075516 Is this a normal thing for teenagers to go through?

]]> Anonymous Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:48:12 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5073019 Sexual things can turn people on. You can just decide where you want your thoughts and life to go. Whatever you immerse yourself in, that is where your mind will go. Though it’s not anywhere near the same thing, even pedophiles had to develop a “taste” for it.

]]> Anonymous Sun, 14 Jun 2009 22:13:17 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5067274 :) I seem to feel fine until I think about it. Also like I said before I am in a kind of ‘Limbo’ of being confused & I kind of like this girl but my attraction towards her doesn’t feel the same as it did before when I used to fancy her, it’s somehow weaker :/ Also today I was watching TV and there were two gay men on a comedy and they kind of turned me on, but then I felt really ill and sick. I know I’m not gay because I still get turned on by girls. I’m more confused than ever now :/ PS Thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it :)

]]> Anonymous Thu, 11 Jun 2009 22:55:28 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5066796 You may just struggle with thoughts for awhile. Just don’t let it turn into actions, or you’ll become more confused. Keep trying the techniques we talked about. Don’t let yourself worry about it. It’s normal to be curious and wonder.

]]> Anonymous Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:46:26 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5065092 It’s back what do I do?! :/

]]> Anonymous Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:11:31 +0100 Reply from westwestu /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5047471 genitals

]]> westwestu Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:51:26 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5029789 Glad to help!

]]> Anonymous Sun, 24 May 2009 02:26:24 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5029263 Thank you so much. I can feel the confusion lifting and I’m starting to feel myself again. Thanks :)

]]> Anonymous Sat, 23 May 2009 22:24:16 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5024970 In psychology, we learn that trying not to think about something is the surest way that you probably will. That’s why people with OCD can’t focus on not thinking about the compulsions they have. It’s counterproductive. Try telling yourself “I’m not going to think about a big pink bunny” over and over again. That’s what will come to your mind. Instead, if you have a thought questioning your sexuality, have a thought ready to replace it with. (Maybe imagine a big stop sign in your mind, or have a fun song you like that’s about women, etc.) In time, it will lessen. (If you’re the kind of person who prays, that could help too)

]]> Anonymous Thu, 21 May 2009 15:14:10 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5024705 Thank you, I am still confused though. Is there anything that I can do so that this isn’t constantly on my mind?

]]> Anonymous Thu, 21 May 2009 11:44:13 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/276420-sexually-confused-or-sexually-frus#reply-5014362 If you’ve liked girls your whole life, you’re not gay. I think you’re just second guessing yourself, and the power of suggestion is messing with you. Just relax. No worries.

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