[Help] please would someone reply to this?

Reply from nicky bicky

nicky bicky — Sun, 17 May 2009 19:35:02 +0100

huni,i really feel 4u. it sounded as if u were describing my mother. she used 2use the same threats wit my siblings an i wen we wer younger. it only got better for me wen i left home to go to uni. So my advise would b please move in with ur dad. ur lucky u have that option. if ur friends r true friends then it will b easy to keep hold of them… calls r alot cheaper these days & most people have internet. and also ul prob meet loads of really cool friends if u move anyway.
i honestly think tryin to make ur relationship work with your mum mite b a lost cause while ur there. however, if u move wit ur dad she’l mayb realise how much she misses u an ur relationship could improve. All you can do is try. even if you stay wit ur dad jus temporarily an see if you like it.

Reply from Sasha101

Sasha101 — Sun, 17 May 2009 05:23:24 +0100

Ok, your mum has a special needs child, her attention is very likely taken up with him, often these children need a lot of care and help with schooling. Now from your point of view you are probably feeling left on the back burner a bit which is understandable.
Why don’t you try and help mon with your brother, get involved and try to make this a team effort. Mom I think will appreciate the help, it will also give her more time to spend with you maybe ? help with the dinner and housework, mom is doing this alone and is very likely bogged down with everything, trying to raise two kids alone isn’t easy hon, help each other, you’ll very likely find the relationship improves.

Reply from unsoshable

unsoshable — Sat, 16 May 2009 21:26:13 +0100

sounds like your mother is a person who has been spoiled within her life and life revolves around her. She sounds quite self centered. If you cant have a decent relationship with your mother, perhaps you can with your father. Have you tried living with him yet? Life changes. You must be willing to accept change. As lazydaze above said, “Friends are friends and if they are real then no matter what they will always be there, in this day and age with technology there is no easy way to lose touch with someone”, and that is very true. If someone does lose contact with you, then they prolly werent worth your time anyways.

Try visiting your father during a school break. See what kind of relationship you have with him and what friends you can create there. Perhaps you will meet some people that will open your eyes to a new light and you will learn new and fun things. maybe there will be a special someone.

Best of luck

Reply from ~LazyDaze~

~LazyDaze~ — Sat, 16 May 2009 21:13:25 +0100

Friends are friends and if they are real then no matter what they will always be there, in this day and age with technology there is no easy way to lose touch with someone so my advice is go and live with your dad.
You are at an unhealthy emotional point as it is and being around your mum when you are as low as you are will only make things worse, you need to get away from her before you can heal yourself and deal with the issues you have.
I know it will seem hard as you said you would feel ruined but I think staying is doing the same thing except in a more violent way.