Updates to this post /post/279600-since-my-last-post-ive-gotten-serv Thu, 26 Nov 2009 03:10:29 +0100 /post/279600-since-my-last-post-ive-gotten-serv#reply-5039874 Thank you Barbara for your thoughts and insite. Its harder for me this time because this is my second divorce. the first was only 10 months and she divorced me because i didn’t have a good job. This time thats one of the issues on top of some other issues i think could have been worked out. She said its been along time coming and i haven’t realized what she is talking about. All i do she says is what i want.
shes right and wrong at the same time. she doen’t talk to anyone i know about what is going on including her parents whom she lives with.
she wants sole custody and i want joint. child support i agree with. insurance and medications for the kids. 9 percent maintanence for her for 4 years. her lawyer fees. half of the sale of the house. split the card debt.
what do you think. Sorry i don;t know to much about computers. I could probaly help if the computer was in fromt of me.

]]> timmontan Fri, 29 May 2009 04:01:27 +0100 /post/279600-since-my-last-post-ive-gotten-serv#reply-5034255 Sorry to hear that unless, it’s somthing you wanted to happen anyway. Be good to yourself. It’s not about you or her (I’m guessing you are Tim) but you+her. Someone else will be there for you in the future–don’t rush it. Relationships within the next 2 years are more likly to end also. First get a lawyer, ask around search online. Get a document that neither person can spend or move X dollars without notifying the other. Future credit card purchases have to be approved by the other or a mediator. It’s hard but be reasonable. Gather round your friends–you’ll need them. Be careful driving. Traffic accidents (and other accidents I expect) often occur when people are in the process of divorce–the distraction is overwhelming. Legally make sure everthing has a date on it and a consequence if not done on time–Like you will get (a paper, your stuff, a date to move, etc) by June 30 th or the other party will have to (give you money each day until,..) You get the idea, otherwise things tend to take way more time than they should and the only one making any money is the lawyers. Give youself, lets say an hour a day, that you will concentrate only on the divorce. Other than that try to go through your day as usual. Every time you want to obsess about the situation postpone it to that 1 hour. You might find that you can’t do the whole hour. Write things down at that time, then close that book. Don’t stop doing things that make you happy or content. It’s not the end–it’s the beginning of finding a new life–a better one than you have now.

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