[Help] Just got dumped, for one of the first times in my life. Updates to this post /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir Tue, 08 Dec 2009 02:07:59 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5275476 Don’t have a fling… it doesn’t make you feel better… it’s not fair on the other person you have it with unless you tell them upfront i am having a fling with you because i am heart broken and want to try and feel better… if you did i don’t think you’d get many takers.

It gets easier… honest… with time.

If i can give you some advice… Don’t be there when she comes for her stuff… leave the key under the mat and let her let herself in get her stuff and go without you being there. You do not want to have to deal with the pain of seeing her this soon afterwards the break up…. Don’t put yourself through it!

]]> Anonymous Sat, 03 Oct 2009 17:47:23 +0100 Reply from Gentleman /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5144693 I know it’s hard but you’ve got to try and take your mind off her.

You already seem to have a very mature attitude to the breakup and should concentrateon the positives. This is a learning experience for you and you will become a better and a stronger person for it.

Dont go looking for a replacement, just concentrate on the other aspects of your life. Call you parents, call an old friend. Dont talk about the breakup, ask about them. Be outgoing and smile. You may not feel like smiling but it helps.

Best of luck

]]> Gentleman Tue, 21 Jul 2009 17:46:11 +0100 Reply from firstmom7270 /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5129117 You have read mine so you know what I’m going throw but maybe she wasn’t the one for you. Don’t let the fact that you are hurt cloud your eyes. Because there could be someone right in front of that is “the one” I do believe in soul mates. And being together till your old. Sometimes things happen just so we can see better. You know know that you can love and that you want to. You never said how long you were together. It is good to be honest. (I may be a little to honest sometime but at lease when I say something people believe me)But sometimes people can’t handle the thought of being married and settled down. You should wait til you know you have the right girl and she to feels the same way. Trust me women show those things. Some are a little harder to read then others. But keep you head up. You will never meet the right person if you are looking at the ground. (unless you are in a movie and run into and when you eyes meet you know that, they are the one for you)Good luck

]]> firstmom7270 Tue, 14 Jul 2009 12:20:18 +0100 Reply from dotspot /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5128465 [quote dotspot]My life is empty and meaningless.[/quote]Still.

]]> dotspot Tue, 14 Jul 2009 02:13:41 +0100 Reply from dotspot /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5086361 We are going to meet Tuesday so she can pick up her stuff. This will be the first time I’ve seen her since we officially broke up (over the phone).

I feel sick to my stomach. I love her… I just want things to go back to the way they were before. She made me happier than I’ve been in 10 years, and I screwed it up. I’m so lonely now. My life is empty and meaningless.

]]> dotspot Sun, 21 Jun 2009 06:28:46 +0100 Reply from amari /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5084381 My first and only relationship of 10 years ended 8 months ago. I am struggling and feel more alone than i ever have in my life.

If it isn’t to be for you two, better that she ended it now than string you along for years.

]]> amari Sat, 20 Jun 2009 08:22:37 +0100 Reply from cici.lau62 /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5070290 Good point. I like the last part of your msg. Thanks!

]]> cici.lau62 Sat, 13 Jun 2009 11:36:28 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5069720 Man, not a concern. It didn’t work out. Most relationships don’t, that is in fact their goal. Have hope, the great thing about relationships is that you only need one to be successful, the rest are just practice!

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 03:40:49 +0100 Reply from cici.lau62 /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5066123 I sort of had a relationship online with a guy for 1 month and I just got dumped couple days ago. first time in my life, kinda feel like a loser…can’t really concentrate on work now.

]]> cici.lau62 Thu, 11 Jun 2009 08:12:48 +0100 Reply from op_seed_e /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5061548 Keeping in contact as a friend is always nice, but what if she’s not ready to “settle down” You could still get your feelings hurt and that is theee reason to keep your eye’s open for possibilities with other women(relationshipmaterial) not girls(immature partygoers) if you are looking for something more solid. But even so you must understand whith time we change: our bodies, our activities, our beleifs, our likes, dislikes, knowledge, moralities,and such.

Find else.

]]> op_seed_e Tue, 09 Jun 2009 09:02:08 +0100 Reply from dotspot /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5061523 Would a fling be a bad idea? I want to feel desireable, and to show her that I’m not going to let this stop me from continuing my life.

Really, I wish that my… ex… will come crawling back to me in a couple weeks, because she misses me and knows she made a terrible mistake. But that’s not gonna happen.

]]> dotspot Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:19:32 +0100 Reply from op_seed_e /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5061514 HEY! you my friend could be very lucky! Imagine if you both were married and then she decided ‘this isn’t what I want’. It happens all the time in premature relationships. These things happen all around me.

]]> op_seed_e Tue, 09 Jun 2009 07:58:58 +0100 Reply from koolio427 /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5061500 I know how you feel man I’ve been there and done that! I was in a 5 and 1/2 year relationship with my exgirlfriend and we just didnt work out. I’ve been single for a while. It sucks but its something I need to do. As much as I love being in a relationship… I need to learn being independent. Things will only get better

]]> koolio427 Tue, 09 Jun 2009 07:38:31 +0100 Reply from withthefire /post/283908-just-got-dumped-for-one-of-the-fir#reply-5061458 I know how much it hurts I almost lost my first relationship and am struggling to salvage it. Something useful? Listen to empowering music, something happy, something that sings about not needing anyone to walk or breath. It’s good that you know you can learn and move on. Remember there will always be someone because you have yourself and you need to love yourself.

A catchy, poppy, uplifting song..
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pLnzPa…

]]> withthefire Tue, 09 Jun 2009 07:07:03 +0100