[Help] how do i tell my parents? Updates to this post /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents Sun, 29 Nov 2009 13:24:38 +0100 Reply from ☞T☜ /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070107 [quote Anonymous][quote ☞T☜]She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.[/quote]

i asked how old she is, not how old i am. lol.[/quote]

Sorry. Anon thing threw me off. I guess *I* am the one that needs to pay more attention. :)

]]> ☞T☜ Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:47:08 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070089 no problem :)

good luck and good night :)

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:28:50 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070088 [quote ☞T☜]She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.[/quote]

i asked how old she is, not how old i am. lol.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:28:48 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070086 [quote canadian_chri]16 lol. but ive been told i have the maturity of someone older lol[/quote]

haha, well you seem like it(: i’m off to bed…goodnight. thank you very much.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:28:15 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070083 16 lol. but ive been told i have the maturity of someone older lol

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:27:12 +0100 Reply from ☞T☜ /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070082 She is almost 17. Pay attention, Anon.

]]> ☞T☜ Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:26:40 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070076 [quote canadian_chri][quote Anonymous][quote canadian_chri]well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.[/quote]

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question[/quote]

it was not a dumb question lol

some people do feel better with a specific gender so it was a perfectly valid question.[/quote]

how old are you?

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:25:47 +0100 Reply from ☞T☜ /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070074 Just one more word of advice - leave the bi stuff completely out of this when you approach your parents.. It’s totally great that you’ve figured that out, but your parents have enough on their plates at the moment. And the last thing you need right now is an argument about your sanity from the two people you need to believe in you the most. Fortunately, that is something that is really none of their business, so if they find out in 2 years or 5 years or 10 years or even never, it’s still going to be ok. Like canadian said, you’ve got bigger things to worry about a the moment. And good luck!

]]> ☞T☜ Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:25:21 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070070 [quote Anonymous][quote canadian_chri]well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.[/quote]

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question[/quote]

it was not a dumb question lol

some people do feel better with a specific gender so it was a perfectly valid question.

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:23:05 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070067 [quote Anonymous][quote canadian_chri][quote Anonymous]thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…[/quote]

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

a href=”http://cadys-story.webs.com/”>Visit My Website /a>

and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)[/quote]

okay i’m going to check it out right now, thank you a lot. weird question but do you prefer guys or girls more? i’m just getting used to the idea..hah.[/quote]

oh i should tell you that the part im looking for comments on is under random tants lol.

and i hope all works out well for you :)

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:21:10 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070065 [quote canadian_chri]well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.[/quote]

hah, okay good. sorry that was a dumb question

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:20:20 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070064 well i prefer personality more then gender lol.

its not really about who has what with me, i look for someone with a good personality.

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:19:19 +0100 Reply from ☞T☜ /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070062 [quote kathrynkurs]It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.[/quote]

Actually Kathryn’s very good with this stuff. She brought up some excellent points. As retarded as this sounds, maybe you should sit down with a close friend - not the one above, obviously - and watch the movie “Juno”. Now real life is nothing like the movies, of course, but it might help you to laugh a bit before you get on to the more serious stuff. Then, like Kathryn said, try confiding in the parent with whom you are closest or, more accuraly, whom ever you think may take it the best. I also really like canadian’s comments.

[quote canadian_chri]

…dont fart around with stupid things and dont waste their time, its only going to make it more awkward.

expect them to be a little shocked and possibly angry (depending on your parents)

maintain eye contact, and dont try to hide your emotions.

explain why this happened (but dont go into graphic details)

always have a back up plan![/quote]

These are some really good ideas. This is not the funnest thing, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world either. Congratulations on being strong enough to accept what you need to do, though!

]]> ☞T☜ Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:18:11 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070060 [quote canadian_chri][quote Anonymous]thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…[/quote]

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

a href=”http://cadys-story.webs.com/”>Visit My Website /a>

and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)[/quote]

okay i’m going to check it out right now, thank you a lot. weird question but do you prefer guys or girls more? i’m just getting used to the idea..hah.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:17:27 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070059 [quote Anonymous]thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…[/quote]

no problem :)

and it wont scare me off lol. im bi, so thats no issue for me :)

in fact i did a study on “gay rights and marriage” in my school… got some pretty interesting results. its posted on my website, if you want to check it out and post your comments on my latest post i would appreciate it :)

a href=”http://cadys-story.webs.com/”>Visit My Website /a>

and if you need any more ideas or help, just let me know :)

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:15:38 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070056 thank you very much…i was just about to tell my parents i’m bi too…that would have been hard enough for them. i hope that doesn’t scare anyone off…

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:12:56 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070055 well (and dont take this the wrong way), i think you have more importiant issues to worry about.

dont worry about what those jerks think, worry about yourself for the time being.

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:12:02 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070053 but here’s the thing…i told my best friend a couple of hours ago and she called me a skank! i cannot believe it.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:11:02 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070044 well, for this problem, follow these steps.

first off ask them for a serious talk. make sure you tell them that it is importiant, so they do not brush it off and you do not catch them off guard.

you dont fart around with stupid things and dont waste their time, its only going to make it more awkward.

expect them to be a little shocked and possibly angry (depending on your parents)

maintain eye contact, and dont try to hide your emotions.

explain why this happened (but dont go into graphic details)

always have a back up plan! have somewhere to go in case *something* goes wrong. some parents get a little… “irritated” at news like this and the situation can get extremely uncomfortable.

tell the truth, if they ask you questions answer them. this way you show them your being more responsible then you have been.

after all this it WILL be awkward for a while, but if you follow these steps you will have a better chance at having a better outcome

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:05:00 +0100 Reply from kathrynkurs /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070043 [quote Anonymous][quote Karenn]How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?[/quote]

very badly, mostly my mom. she will never have expected this out of me…[/quote]

You might be surprised on how she will react, all of my best friends got pregnant around 17 and they took it surprisingly well after they got over it for a couple days, one of them her Mother freaked and cried but offered her support to get through this and just to learn her lesson her Mother wouldn’t let her get the shot when she was having the baby lol. If she does freak just give it some time for her to get over it, remind her that you are still her little girl and your going to need her support through this process.

]]> kathrynkurs Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:04:39 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070040 [quote kathrynkurs]It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.[/quote]

no no, you’re good thank you(: any advice is good right now!

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:01:51 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070039 [quote Karenn]How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?[/quote]

very badly, mostly my mom. she will never have expected this out of me…

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:00:58 +0100 Reply from kathrynkurs /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070038 It’s better to tell them asap, unlike my Older sister who was 17 when she was pregnant with my nephew who is now the cutest 7 yr old, but anyways, she waited til she was 3 months pregnant to tell my parents and also waited with her second child to tell them also even tho she was in her mid 20’s by than. It’s easier to talk to the parent whom you are the closest with ( more than likely your Mother ), just sit her down and be like Mom I need to tell you something and I don’t want you to freak out because I am already stressing about this enough ( or something like that ) and just be like Mom I am pregnant and add either you want to keep it or you want to get rid of it. Hope this helps, I am no good with this stuff.

]]> kathrynkurs Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:00:46 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070036 [quote Devil_on_Earth]Well, then your parents are just going to have to accept the fact that there will be a new baby. Is the dad in the picture?[/quote]

yes, that dad is in the picture thank God.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:00:25 +0100 Reply from Karenn /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070035 How do you think they’ll react? Badly? Or not?

]]> Karenn Sat, 13 Jun 2009 06:00:03 +0100 Reply from My Friend My Trust /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070034 [quote Anonymous]
i know it was a mistake, but i am keeping the baby. i have decided that.[/quote]

If you think you are going to keep baby, do u know the consequences of that, are you ready to face the world. I know its good that you think about the baby and dont want to take wrong decision.

]]> My Friend My Trust Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:59:54 +0100 Reply from Devil_on_Earth /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070033 Well, then your parents are just going to have to accept the fact that there will be a new baby. Is the dad in the picture?

]]> Devil_on_Earth Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:59:51 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070032 just tell them straight out, no point in beating around the bush. just make sure only your mum and dad are in the room, if you have a little brother/sister or an older sister/brother it may make it harder than it will be.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:59:25 +0100 Reply from [think peace] /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070031 if your young, i’m expecting you are, wait until they are calm. Tell them that you know they’re not going to be proud of you but they have to know. Explain to them that you are pregnant and ask them to forgive you for being irresponsiable. if they begin to freak out on you do not yell back. just let them have a moment to be angry, if they keep at it i suggest you have a way to get away from home…but hopefully they’ll understand things happen and help you

]]> [think peace] Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:59:11 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070028 [quote My Friend My Trust]well do u really think that you have done mistake?[/quote]

i know it was a mistake, but i am keeping the baby. i have decided that.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:58:25 +0100 Reply from Animal i have become /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070026 it does depend on how old u r

]]> Animal i have become Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:57:58 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070023 i am almost 17 years old.

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:57:42 +0100 Reply from My Friend My Trust /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070022 well do u really think that you have done mistake?

]]> My Friend My Trust Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:57:29 +0100 Reply from cadys-story /post/285117-how-do-i-tell-my-parents#reply-5070017 how old are you?

depending on your age there are better approached then others

]]> cadys-story Sat, 13 Jun 2009 05:55:19 +0100