[Help] For married people, do you think its acceptable for your spouse to stray during your ... Updates to this post /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it Thu, 03 Dec 2009 23:58:18 +0100 Reply from kitt e /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5074261 Well, I’d warn anyone that considers any kind of serious relationship with her. But I think she’ll change her tune once someone that she cares deeply for cheats on her.

]]> kitt e Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:22:00 +0100 Reply from scary doll /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5072287 I stand by what I said.

]]> scary doll Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:16:49 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5072263 Her argument was for one act of infidelity was acceptable to make the marriage last. It wasn’t in human nature to be monogamous.

]]> Anonymous Sun, 14 Jun 2009 13:43:40 +0100 Reply from scary doll /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5072121 It goes against everthing marriage should stand for. Personally, I think it can never be justified.

]]> scary doll Sun, 14 Jun 2009 11:00:33 +0100 Reply from kitt e /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070709 No, it’s definitely NOT okay for spouses to stray!

Your friend doesn’t know much about love if she’s positive that every long lasting marriage involves one or both spouses being unfaithful! That’s crazy, if you ask me.

]]> kitt e Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:44:05 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070681 I just happened to run into this in the newspaper:

WOMAN HIDES HER BODY AND FEELINGS FROM HER HUSBAND

DEAR ABBY: I am 43, the mother of four children and just celebrated my 20th anniversary. Is it normal for someone to be married all this time and still not want your husband to see you naked?

I do not reveal myself to him. The lights must always be off, and I keep a shirt on. It’s not because I am ashamed of my body; it’s that I’m not attracted to him. I never was.

I married my husband for security and have learned to love him. But I love him like a brother, in a sisterly kind of way. I feel I owe him.

Should I tell my husband how I feel and risk losing my security after all this time? I had to talk to someone, so I confided in my best friend. She advised me to say nothing.

My husband had an affair a few years ago, and frankly, I was secretly relieved. Sometimes I wish he was still with her. Now that it’s over, I’m back in hiding. Abby, please advise. — HIDING IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR HIDING: What a sad situation. By marrying your husband feeling as you did, you have cheated both of you. Not only have you “not revealed” yourself physically, you have not revealed yourself emotionally or in any other way. You wish he was still with his lover because it took the pressure off you.

Your husband had an affair because instinctively he knew something important was missing in your marriage, and if you were happy you would not have written to me. What you have described is not a marriage; it is an “arrangement.”

My advice is to talk to your husband about making another kind of arrangement — one in which he supports the children and possibly makes some kind of settlement with you, while you both pursue your separate lives. Frankly, it won’t be much different than what you are already experiencing.

]]> littlenick Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:31:45 +0100 Reply from evansent:) /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070679 ok..well ive been married for 25 yrs in october&ive never been unfaithful to my hubby!

dont get me wrong,ive had plenty of oppertunitys&vice versa,but i could never do something like that

i believe in rampant rabbits lol!
cheaper than divorce in the long run!
also a dam site more fun lol!;D

]]> evansent:) Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:29:59 +0100 Reply from littlenick /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070667 What do you mean stray? Like shop at a different grocery store than the one you and her normally shop?

Or you mean cheat?

And if it is cheating, unless the person being cheated on has no dignity, pride, or self respect, then it’s OK. But, any normal with a little bit of dignity, pride, and self respect would find cheating abhorring!

So not it’s not acceptable.

]]> littlenick Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:22:04 +0100 Reply from Anonymous /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070665 No circumstances, I was having a conversation with another woman and she said that it’s alright for the spouse cheat. It’s a way, to keep the marriage going. She then continued to say, that couples that have been married for 10,20,30,40,…years have been unfaithful. What do you think?

]]> Anonymous Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:20:57 +0100 Reply from evansent:) /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070649 mm,depending on what circumstances??

]]> evansent:) Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:07:32 +0100 Reply from aeolian mode /post/285226-for-married-people-do-you-think-it#reply-5070646 scuse me…..

]]> aeolian mode Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:05:32 +0100