[Help] SAD. Updates to this post /post/285650-sad Wed, 09 Dec 2009 16:34:57 +0100 Reply from aznpunkgrrl /post/285650-sad#reply-5074025 why dont you go along with him. have little party at your house. like gathering? i dont know. i can kinda understand this situation. i mean my mom and dad are very independent people and they talk about divorce so many times but they stuck together. mainly cause of the kids and how they don’t believe in divorce. usually they try to do family activities and stuff to keep it together. maybe you guys need a vacation or something? barbecue? just a suggestion. tell him throwing away more than a 20 year marriage is a waste. and just giving up is not an option. you should keep trying until both of you are tired out or see it as an only option after that.

]]> aznpunkgrrl Mon, 15 Jun 2009 09:19:54 +0100 Reply from swilliam /post/285650-sad#reply-5074014 His career has become his whole life. He wants to be seen in the right social circles want to go to the right parties and needs this little social butterfly on his arm. I am not all that. I am just the girl next door. That is how we have grown apart. Maybe he is going through a midlife crisis or something.

]]> swilliam Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:58:55 +0100 Reply from sum /post/285650-sad#reply-5074006 Well just think about it. If he said youve grown distant there has to be a reason right? Just think about it and see if its a problem you can solve or if you really can start to see you may not belong together.

]]> sum Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:46:32 +0100 Reply from swilliam /post/285650-sad#reply-5074005 I have asked him to go to counselling, but he refuses. Sorry guys I am just having a bad day I will get over myself. Will probably not kill myself, probably don’t have the guts.

]]> swilliam Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:44:19 +0100 Reply from sum /post/285650-sad#reply-5073990 Cant you go to a marriage counselor also?

]]> sum Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:30:28 +0100 Reply from sum /post/285650-sad#reply-5073989 Im so sorry =(

No suicide isnt an option because thats just giving up instead of trying different things to make you feel better.

]]> sum Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:29:45 +0100 Reply from Dragon_Lady /post/285650-sad#reply-5073987 Have you been to counselling? Even if he doesn’t want to go, it can really help you to see that you do have options, and that life isn’t over just because he suddenly wants to go be single again.

]]> Dragon_Lady Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:29:34 +0100 The post was retagged by sum /post/285650-sad#reply-8498014 sum Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:25:22 +0100 Reply from swilliam /post/285650-sad#reply-5073971 Thanks. I don’t believe in divorce either. Tried to talk to him. He just says we have grown apart. Problem is I still love him.

]]> swilliam Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:19:43 +0100 Reply from aznpunkgrrl /post/285650-sad#reply-5073958 Suicide should never be the option! I’m so sorry to hear about this ‘divorce’ *hugs you* i dont know what the problem may be, but try to talk to him. Ask him whats the problem, find out what is going wrong with the relationship. personally i believe divorce should never be the answer! i mean you make a promise when you get married. *sigh* its sad how so many people divorce these days. Well if there is no way to convince him to stay, I guess you would have to learn to accept it. Try to talk to someone about it, rather then keep it all inside but please do not think of suicide as an option.

]]> aznpunkgrrl Mon, 15 Jun 2009 08:13:29 +0100