[Help] My family and I are estranged. Updates to this post /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged Wed, 09 Dec 2009 13:01:07 +0100 Reply from rachel7080200 /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5373391 I actually talk to friends about this occasionally but most of time I just go my own way and keep my distance..I have goals to work and plans to make so I don’t say much..thanks for the feedback..Actually nothing’s been said since the last time I posted..so that’s good I think.

]]> rachel7080200 Sat, 28 Nov 2009 02:16:24 +0100 Reply from ajax /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5372372 And besides, decisions as important as this that have so much complexity and emotion intertwined should not be left to random opinions on the internet. Many people share the same boat as you and can give you tips or sympathize. But to truly make headway in your situation you need better direction than that.

But that is only my humble opinion.

]]> ajax Fri, 27 Nov 2009 14:33:50 +0100 Reply from ajax /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5372364 I had a similar situation with a parent. I did not make an issue out of it because I realized that I could never change them or the disease and behviors that they had. They are stuck where they were and they had my empathy. I was always polite to them, but I kept them at arms length. Quietly building distance. If something bad ever happens I’ll be there for them, but I have my own space and I have built my own life. It’s hard because you look at other people and expect more than what your family will or can give you. But no one should ever have to put up with any sort of abuse. That means be as respectful with them as possible while at the same time stepping back. Good or bad, family is always there. Find other good relationships to counterbalance the bad. Sometimes it helps to talk to a counselor if you feel comfortable with that. Outside opinions can sometimes lead to insight.

]]> ajax Fri, 27 Nov 2009 14:21:43 +0100 Reply from rachel7080200 /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5255721 It is a sad situation..I feel bad bc I know what you are talking about..my dad is mentally ill and only speaks to me these days when he wants to verbally abuse me..I am doing the best I can..I have decided to not speak to him again bc today was the last straw..I’ve put up with it for 38 years..no more..what’s worse is me and my mom are supporting him bc he can’t work anymore..I am not going to be bought down by him..I have been threatened also which is very unnerving..

I hope you are able to get away from your family..it appears that they are no good for you at all..its not your fault remember that..

]]> rachel7080200 Sat, 19 Sep 2009 04:31:31 +0100 Reply from rachel7080200 /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5255709 I really understand what you mean..my dad is mentally ill..he has stopped working..I live with him and my mom to support him financially..he is verbally abusive and does not speak to me other than to verbally abuse..he does see a dr but it does little except keep him out of the hospital bc of medications. My mom deals with him the best she can..I’m done with him though bc he’s turned his back on me..he tells me he hates me now and he is so cold..Its hard to turn your back on your dad but I have to bc he won’t have anything to do with me!! its very unfortunate..and it makes me sad..

It must be nice to have a “normal” father..nothing can be done

]]> rachel7080200 Sat, 19 Sep 2009 04:23:27 +0100 Reply from zaphod /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5124121 it is sad when such situations happen. But it is sadder when regular people don’t do anything to help. Just hearing someone out is meaningful.

]]> zaphod Sat, 11 Jul 2009 04:50:17 +0100 Reply from prishika_prasa /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5079498 the only reason they do that is cause they see that you aren’t insane like them and i guess that makes them see you as an outsider even though your not. . .you shouldn’t have to put up with any kind of abuse from them. have you ever tried to talk to them about it??

]]> prishika_prasa Thu, 18 Jun 2009 03:47:56 +0100 Reply from IDon'tEverQuit /post/286220-my-family-and-i-are-estranged#reply-5078793 i’m sorry. that’s awful :(

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