[Help] Should i forgive him? Updates to this post /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him Fri, 27 Nov 2009 00:08:18 +0100 Reply from Genesis721 /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109468 All of the things you have questioned about your father are do to his mental illness. Ask youself:

What normal person would attack a women and try to strangle her? And what normal person has voices in his head trying to manipulate those around him? What normal person seeks or threatens to commit suicide?

You can forgive your father or anyone for that matter once you believe that mental illness is the cause of their actions. Mental illness is a state where a person doesn’t have a conscious awareness of those around them and/or their feelings. Their bazarre reactions are so out of the realm of reality to what has taken place. They see others as a threat to their personal wellbeing.

I would not visit your father alone. In his state of mind he is not trustworthy. So be careful and I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

]]> Genesis721 Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:29:19 +0100 Reply from ni /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109447 [quote Blodwen Lilith]This is very difficult to answer because, the answer would obviously be, “NO!”

But, he is your father. He should see a Psychiatrist, try to help.[/quote]

If it’s very difficult to answer then the answer cannot be obvious.

And if you can’t forgive then you will never become whole. The ability to forgive is an advanced feature of the human mind. In order to accept that life is not written in a perfect script, forgiveness is a necessary feature for human kind.

]]> ni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:06:25 +0100 Reply from Dead By New Years /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109446 This is very difficult to answer because, the answer would obviously be, “NO!”

But, he is your father. He should see a Psychiatrist, try to help.

]]> Dead By New Years Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:04:11 +0100 Reply from ni /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109442 Who do you think is in the best position to help him out?

]]> ni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:01:55 +0100 Reply from maveric112 /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109433 he has been to see a Phychiatrist who said that he attempted to kill himself over the shock of loosing my mum and me, he said besides of that he all he has is depression for which he has anti-depressents. This was back in 2003 but i personally believe that he uses the voices in his head as a way of making people do what he wants and to be the centre of attention, i’ve noticed he only seems to mention it when no-one is talking to him

]]> maveric112 Thu, 02 Jul 2009 08:55:37 +0100 Reply from ni /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109417 And yes you should forgive him…nothing was done that caused irreversible harm as ‘hop’ mentioned. You may not like him as much as you want to for a father figure, but it appears that he isn’t quite right upstairs.

]]> ni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 08:47:44 +0100 Reply from hop /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109416 Talk with a Psychiatric. He is obviously sick, mental sick and cannot see or admit it. No point to talk with him about. Waste of time and counter productive.

Ask a Spy, he may need to be treated before something irreversible would happen. Not really his fault, he is just sick.

]]> hop Thu, 02 Jul 2009 08:46:01 +0100 Reply from ni /post/290897-should-i-forgive-him#reply-5109412 Has he ever visited a professional for help?

]]> ni Thu, 02 Jul 2009 08:43:16 +0100