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• Goodbye to all and to our special Friends on this site posted (4 months, 2 weeks) ago
  Allen has begun to seriously disassociate again, sometimes he is not sure who he is, and often times…

• I (ALLEN) have been so busy lately that posting to help.com has become a difficult thing to do. posted (4 months, 3 weeks) ago
  The business start-up got into some problems, and was considered by our local to be a religious site…

• What do you do when you can’t afford to stay in a job you really like, and yet, while being bought out pays enough debt that taking a lower paying posted (7 months) ago
  do you do when you can’t afford to stay in a job you really like, and yet, while being bought…

• Just something to ponder. posted (7 months, 1 week) ago
  Who really has the English accent. I have always been told it was the British that had accents. So a…

• I remembered an anniversary a few days ago. posted (8 months, 1 week) ago
  It was the 10 year passing of my MPD councilor. She actually was a professional psychiatrist, and di…

• Is it all right to get drunk every once in a while just to relieve some of life’s tensions and stress. posted (8 months, 3 weeks) ago
  it all right to get drunk every once in a while just to relieve some of life’s tensions and s…

• Object to refer to “Nine’s” post - Calling all Multiples” posted (8 months, 3 weeks) ago
  http://help.com/post/124651-calling-all-multiples Object to refer to “Nine’s” post - Calling…

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allengraihcompany's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) Wot do you do if a homeless person is sleeping on your door step?
  

  You call the police, and ask them to take him to a homeless shelter. As for your fiance, i’m there with that, never invite a stranger into your home, especially if thier on something. Call the police, they are trained to deal with this.
  
  - written 7 months ago – voted for by Puck You

• (1 vote) are you a loser
  

  Question - Are you a loser. Let’s take this in a different perspective.
  
  Are you not a winner?
  
  Do you see how the question asks the same thing, but takes on a whole new meaning.
  If you continue to say or think that you are a loser you become one. So why not do it this way -
  
  1) What is it that motivates me?
  2) What is it that makes me want things?
  3) What would it take to get me off my A** to go and get those things?
  4) What exactly am I waiting for!??
  
  I am not a loser, although most of the time I am not a winner either.
  But that will never stop me from continuing to try.
  When you win at some things focus on those things, and let go of the losses
  Personally I still have issues with things I wanted so badly and couldn’t acquire, and know I never will.
  Yet I continue to focus on the things I know I can get, do, or own, so that the losses become experience, and the wins become motivation to continue trying.
  
  It has been said that success happens once after you fail 99 times. Focus on the one time that you succeed, it makes the 99 times you didn’t worth the chase.
  
  - written 7 months ago – voted for by Gael Jones

• (1 vote) The only thing that has been keeping me from killing
  

  Wow. how is taking a life ever the right thing to do. Especially if it your own. You have no idea what is on the “other side”. Do you really want to risk going there. Take it from someone with ghosts on the brain - Life in that ambient space you exist in after you die is no picnic. Your better off here. Settle your issues in this world. Live. Laugh Love. Once your dead the time for this is over, you become a slave to your surroundings, and trapped withing a place of death, darkness and sorrow. Do you really want to go there??
  
  I would think not.
  
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago – voted for by jsmrunne

• (1 vote) I noticed because of my fear of men, I try to escape reality by dreaming to feel safe and secure.
  

  You just need to find the right man, someone loving and respectful to your needs.
  This always has risks, if your not afraid to get hurt go for it.
  
  As for being afraid of all men you have to realize how silly this is, as you are grown up now and know that all men can’t be bad. Swallow your fear, but not your common sense, look for a guy that will love you for who you are, that you feel comfortable enough with to trust with your love.
  
  - written 1 year ago – voted for by fighterdo

• (1 vote) Nevermore.
  

  Well well now arn’t we in a tiff!! Allow me to let you in on what you seem to deem a secret. Multiples will never be accepted wherever we go, will never be understood and will never for the most part be believed. Imagine if you will complete silence in your mind. You can’t can you. It has become normal for you to hear voices. No turn that around. For someone that has silence in thier mind to imagine you hear voice becomes quite the science fiction story. We have all, as multiples all been through this, and your others are just jealous that you have found a venue other than them to talk to. I’ve just been told(and once again) that I should stop posting here by my “Kaili” because Help.com does not know me like “they” do.
  
  That is the point to this. To get an outsiders point of view. Don’t leave us just yet. Your other personalities will try to convince you to. You have to listen to what is within you, not within them.
  
  I am fortunate to have such spiritually motivated pesonalities, it makes them easier to deal with. You haven’t elaborated upon what any of your other personalities are like, nor weather they are sperate and distinct or a part of you.
  I suspect they are a part of your greater psycological makeup, and therefor you believe them to be fractions of your higher mind. You must ultimately make this decision on your own.
  But - If you need help, you need help. Help is just advice, to be heeded or not.
  
  Your personalities control you to the greater extent right now and that is how they like it. So you have to decide weather or not to accept it, and if that’s how you wish it then so be it.
  
  I have only been here for a couple of weeks, and my other personalities are dumping on me already for asking for help from an outside source. They want to be our only friends. I am in my mid 40’s now, and have had over 30 years of experience dealing with my multiples. You may have to make some deals with them to get them to comply more to what you want. It’s like living in a big house filled with other people. You will need to have certain rights and they will have to make compromises. Keep you feet on the ground. Don’t let them pull you away from what is likely to be a good place to talk.
  
  OK that said - Why are you sacrificing your sleep for this!? You have a most tremendous asset. More than one mind working on things at the same time. I suspect it is them that is bored and not you.
  
  As for getting into a relationship, there is always a risk that it won’t work out. At age 14 there is a tremendous risk it won’t work out.
  
  But then why do we fall Sevenfold.
  It is so that we can learn to pick ourselves up.
  
  You are old enough to know if you want to start dating
  Only your parents/gaurdians can make any other determination
  
  Incidentally I have a daughter. She is 10. As a father I am not so concerned as to that she goes out when she’s 14, but reather who she is with.
  
  Good luck and may God bless
  Allen Graih and company
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by PersonalPandaParty

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• Is forgiveness really necessary in order for healing to take place?
  

  That was the right thing to do. Just to let it go. When you can’t forgive you must let go of the rage and anger - surrender it.
  
  The post in question was not really about forgiving, it was about trusting.
  Would you trust the person that sexually abused you to babysit your daughter unattended?
  
  You can forgive him all you want. Your question is do you need to trust him to really forgive.
  
  I wouldn’t.
  - written 6 months ago

• Is porn bad?
  

  Stop watching.
  - written 6 months ago

• My 11 year old likes Anime cartoons and books.
  

  Yu-Gi-Oh!, Sailor Moon, Card Captors, Hamtaro
  
  Castle in the sky - Anime Movie
  - written 6 months ago

• what is it word for when u have missed out on something that u want to relive?
  

  bitterness
  misgiving
  lamentation
  - written 6 months ago

• Has anyone been sexually abused?
  

  Your hubby is right. Your dad can’t be trusted. You do not have to justify this to your mom - just say no.
  - written 6 months ago

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