Elayne's reply history at Help.com

I wish you the best-i really hope it works out. I know after being badly hurt myself that when i got into a good relationship -i just couldny believe that it was for real-i even thought that it was all a set up by my ex!!! How paranoid was i???
Anyhow i know that back then i cudnt deal with being happy and being treated right so i freaked out- she might be too-? maybe
Fingers crossed all will go well for you-try to be patient & wait for her to get her head together

Thats a good point…Its always good to get someone elses take on things! Broadens the mind! I cant see myself cosying up to people i see knowingly neglecting their kids or hurting animals but maybe i can hold my temper…for now anyway! HA ha

Hey although i’m a vegetarian i dont have a problem with animals bein killed for food..its mindless cruelty i dont get!
And yes i do agree that there mostly are no bad kids just bad parents -its just winds me up how little sense some people seem to have when it comes to their children! When you bring them into this world surely you should watch over them!
Yeah i see your point also abt the fashion industry -i kinda got carried away mid rant there… i dont mean the fashion industry is wholly responsible although i feel that there is a huge pressure to conform to the ideal…or what we believe is the ideal
Cheers for the response!

Hang in there-whats meant for you wont go by you.
Best of luck from another young mum
Elayne

Hey it kinda sounds to me like she may have been hurt in the past & has just realised how easily she could be hurt again so his trying to pull back (pretty much carrying out the worst thing that can happen before it happens) or perhaps her kids dont want someone coming in trying to replace (as they mite see it) their dad. Either way i think best thing to do is give her a little space , offer your support and hope for the best :)
Best of luck

yeah i’m worried abt that too-Feel like a real cow. but i did tell him to go after abt 5 mins

You know in this world its almost rare to find- people are scared to help -in Dublin last wk a man was stabbed to death for trying to help a young woman who was fighting with her boyfriend

I wanted him to stay in coz i was wrking tonight & tomoro and wanted to make the most of a night together when i had a little energy. I even asked could he not meet mate tonight instead of last night..which obviously he has done anyway…