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just think about what he likes. you must know him well enough by now..gotta pay attention;)

My guy, i’m getting him a zippo lighter with his name engraved on it, because he lost his zippo. a band shirt, for a band i know he loves. and a WWII airplane calendar..because he loves aviation and military history..especially WWII.

And i thought all that up and found it online to order in 20 minutes.

you can do it!

it doesn’t have to be something expensive..just thoughtful. show you’re listening, you know?

you just know.

[quote Anonymous]Things that would be profoundly insane under other circumstances suddenly seem like a good idea.[/quote]

thats a good characteristic..i’ve first hand experience.

in him*

just say you’re not interested in them in that way.better to possibly hurt their feelings now than make them think they have a chance..and THEN dash their hopes.

i would say guys have it rough with the random moments of “sexual arrousal” during the day..it isn’t always even because they are thinking of something sexual..

a while back i went on a second date with a guy, i got out of the car, walked over to him, gave him a little hug, and he popped one… and tried to hide it making it even more obvious to me. this isn’t an example of non sexual thought though haha

i didn’t say anything.

I didn’t want him to be embarassed..because he would have been. painfully so.

But he ended up telling me weeks later anyway :P

very true littlenick.

by the way, you are one of my most favorite people on here lol

i agree with SensiblyCommon..

and maybe you should look at exactly why you are jealous? perhaps its a self esteem issue? i don’t know, i don’t know the specifics..but perhaps you should start looking at yourself instead of the other person.

what do you mean, exactly??

i find that unconditional love is not only something that develops with, lets say, a father to daughter, etc.

love can grow to become unconditional with anyone..if its meant to be. I have a couple close friends whom i love that way.
and i think that any true, lasting love, must be unconditional.
i mean, say it the other way, conditional love, it sounds awful..

well h1n1 is the flu. so you’d have flu like symptoms.
and if you went to a doctor now they would probably either say, wait it out and if it gets worse come back or go to the hospital, and/or give you the option to take Tamiflu, which is the medicine they have come up with to combat it.but it only lessens the the sickness by about a day.they would tell you to treat the individual symptoms with tylonol and such.

as far as i know the only test takes about a week to get the results and is not very accurate. most places they only give it to you if you are hospitalized.

nah, you’re fine to be kissing.
heck, my first kiss was in the 3rd grade :Pok it was more cute and sweet because we didn’t know anything at all and didn’t think of things that way..but you know.

Your age, you’re fine. go, give a boy a big ol’ smackeroo haha

yes, looking friendly helps lol. and that just what i said, talk to people, communicate!!

And drowning is still a bad idea. you seem sweet, i don’t want you to drown. :)

i know its hard to make friends. i moved recently, in augst, and i just have a few aquantances.
do you live in the dorms??? no excuse lol just start talking to people. are there clubs? do you have any special interests? find people with the same. get involved. do you sing or play an instrument or write? go to an open mic night at a coffee house, and talk to people.or even if you don’t and just enjoy that kind of thing, go and talk to people. tell someone what a great job they did.
Complements are great conversation starters.
Go to the caffeteria to eat and sit down by someone else eating alone, or a small group of people.
Just put yourself out there and things will just happen.
Just worry about being you, thats it, just be you. if you start to worry about everything else then you’ll end up sabotaging yourself.

you’re not a failure. just, you need to stop worry about how people percieve you and just be YOU. once you do that, new and old friends will gravitate towards you. and i bet that what you think is going on in their heads about you is wayyyyy off or wayyyy more exaggerated than what they are actually thinking.
Even your house, you’re going to notice way more things that they won’t even percieve! lol i’m sure it is FINE. and you’re a mum? kids running about? well, thats going to add to things and people understand that. if you spend ages cleaning i bet they are in wonders as to how you do it when you have kids lol
your father would not want you treading on eggshells, he’d want you to be happy. if you need someone to talk to, and can’t think of anyone you know, or if you just want someone who is totally removed from the situation, you can always go to a therapist. i went to one for 7 sessions after my grandmother died years ago..i swear i was feeling very similarly to what you have described, and after that, well, things got a lot better.
you do need to remember to be you and relax. you are totally worth liking just how you are. stop agonizing.

nope it doesn’t have to end up as a fight. just make sure to keep your voice even and nice. if you want a relationship with this person you’re going to have to be honest about how you feel.
If you don’t want to have a sit down chat perhaps next time he asks you last minute like that you can decline, saying you already have plans and say “babe, i’m sorry, next time let me know more ahead of time.” and see how that goes.
with other things like you don’t think he spends enough time with you or doesn’t seem to look at you when he speaks to you, you’re going to have to bring it to his attention. and hey, if things just don’t improve, perhaps he’s not the one for you. the relationship shouldn’t make you miserable, it should make you happy.

no, drowning won’t help anything at all sweetie lol