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I like that. Very sad, but a beautiful idea that what doesn’t exist may be more important than the material object.

[quote “Quintessential]Are you an Emo or Goth or something?[/quote]

You’re deep. (Sarcasm, thank you.) You look at a problem such as cutting, and you automatically question the cultural significance as if that is the issue here. Cutting is an issue deeper than “goth or emo”, than the music you listen to or the clothing you wear. It is an issue of mental health and a drastically important one.

To the writer, please do not blame yourself. You cannot stop your girlfriend from hurting yourself, but you can make sure her family and friends are there to support her through this. And surround yourself with support as well, call help lines if you feel the urge to hurt yourself.

In Canada we can get the cold fx over the counter, but I am not sure about anywhere else sorry.

Go to a CD store, and buy the album….

So there is no hope for a long distance relationship? I mean… anything worth having is also worth waiting for.

From my experiences, most medication do not work very well. One that my dad swears by is called Cold FX. It can also be used to treat the flu. It hasn’t worked well for my colds in the past, but like I said, other family members have found releif. It comes in capsule form, and basically the first day you take three capsules three times a day, the second day you take two capsules three times a day and the third you take one capsule three times a day.

If you like the smell of camphor, that works well to decongest the chest area. This is pretty much the same as Vics Vapour Rub. After you take a nice hot bath (like the one suggested above with epson salts) rub some into the skin on your chest and back around the lung area. I also put some around my neck and nose if the cold or flu is affecting these areas as well. If you have trouble breathing, this really helps to open up the airway.

And I guess the only other advice is the “mom” type stuff. Drink plenty of fluids. Hot tea such as Echinecea is good. Or if you can get your hands on it, homemade apple juice warmed up. Sweeten with honey if desired. Get alot of sleep. Cozy up to warm blankets and try to read a nice book or watch a movie, just because it is nice.

Good luck.

You know, aside from all the stuff about sex, this is exactly how I feel. Exactly. Thank you for that.

Be reflective. Ask yourself some questions.
The girl that you go to school with: Do you talk to each other often at school? How do you know she likes you? What kind of signs has she given you? Do you share similar interersts?

The girl you met once: Do you actually like her, or just find her attractive? There is a difference. Ask the same questions as before, ie. what signs has she given you, common interests, etc. Do you really know that much about her? Maybe she is worth getting to know better before attempting anything other than a friendship?

I agree.

As much as it hurts to watch this happen to your family member, it is probably better to respect his wishes. If he doesn’t want you involved he may only grow to resent you later on if you try to push this.

You’re going through the grieving process and have alot of stress. Please please do not be ashamed. And don’t let your feelings stop you from seeking professional help. They are not there to belittle you or make you feel wrong or bad or anything like that. They are there to help you find the tools you need to get back on with your life. If you can, try to take a break from as much as possible. Maybe you need relection time. Let the greiving happen. Then you can get back into your life at your own pace. Everyone needs a different amount of time, and everyone has different methods of doing it. I can’t tell you what would be right for you. But good luck, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. There are always people there willing to do so.

I know I do not know you, but one thing struck me as I read your post. You were bothered by the fact that you have gained “only two pounds”. Does that mean you are ready to gain more? That’s how it sounds. The hardest part of mental illness is changing your thought pattern from unhealthy to healthy. If you are concentrating on weight gain again, then you’re on the right track. So, two pounds. That’s an accomplishment, because that’s two pounds in the right direction. Forget about losing more because of your current illness. That wasn’t your choice. But the remaining two pounds are a reminder of what your choice was, and is. There is so much good advice on this thread, and I hope you consider it. But I think you already know what you have to do. So good luck, and congradulations on getting this far.

Now that the concensus shows you should give yourself time to rest, do you have much else besides work to keep your mind off things? Make sure you go out with friends, maybe take up a hobby you enjoy and just become involved in stuff that interests you. (Like kickboxing or an art class, I don’t know what you like though) The good part about this, is while getting out into the world again, while getting over something that really really sucks, you could also be meeting new people and who knows who you might about around you after that year and a half of you time. Plus, both things I mentioned are good for venting unwanted emotions.

And if you already go out and have fun, well ignore me then. :) I just wasn’t sure.

Just because, I looked up twitching in wikipedia. It doesn’t know much either, but see if this helps a bit. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twitching It suggests that twitching may just develop and could be unrelated to anything else. It also suggests that twitching is a symptom of something more serious and so if not sure, maybe your girlfriend should go to the doctor?

My boyfriend has weird twitches or spasms too, but I don’t think it is as frequent as your problem. I got used to it, I hardly notice it anymore. Or maybe it just stopped… Hmm..

[quote hwk]thanks for the help and the little side track about alan alda. It’s probably a toss up between him and alice cooper[/quote]
Yes!

Treat her the same as you would treat a guy that liked who, of whome you did not share the same feelings. It’s no different really. She’s your friend, so let her down easy and if you want to continue the friendship, make sure that she understands this. But that it is just that, a friendship.