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• Investigate “Codependency” to see if you might have a problem! posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
  Do you deal with your problems by avoiding them and, instead, investing yourself in other people…

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• I am currently married,but have fallen in love with
  

  Fall out of love.
  
  LOVE IS A CHOICE. It’s not JUST a feeling. If you let this happen now - this is going to be a pattern in your life. When you get married - you make the committment to LOVE somebody even when you’re having a bad “season” - or when times are hard.
  
  You need to protect your marriage. DISTANCE yourself from your other “love” at all costs. Break off the friendship. Do what you have to do. It’s necessary.
  
  Don’t let this go any further than it’s already gone. If you’re not as attracted to your husband anymore - find out WHY. Talk to him about what you discover, and seek advice from wise people on those things.
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

• Hey guys, I’m a 25 year old male and this is my problem and I NEED help.
  

  No man… I’m sorry. She deserves to move on. You crossed the line and maybe you’re in denial about that. For SURE she should forgive you - but your actions have consequences, and her forgiveness doesn’t mean she should get back together with you.
  
  You need to start by forgiving YOURSELF for what you’ve done - and accept the consequences. I’m sorry things turned out the way they did. Just don’t make these mistakes again in your next relationship. Now, she might have been the right person for you - but just look back at your relationship — were you really the right person for HER? And are you the right person for her NOW??? If you believe you ARE the right person for you now - I have to ask you: what is the PROOF of that? Are you making more responsible decisions now? What path are you on?
  
  You dont have to answer that - just think about it. Take care, I’ll be praying for you.
  
  ~Chris
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

• Can somone really love you if they have kissed somone else..?
  

  Everyone makes mistakes. That’s a question each person needs to ask themselves. It’s a great thing to be forgiving… but there is a fine line and you always need to hear and consider both sides of the story - then go with your gut and that’s all there is to it. GO WITH YOUR GUT. It’ll serve you best. And make sure you’re not being unrealistic with yourself.
  
  Peace
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

• I have a relationship question.
  

  Unfortunately there is no easy answer to this. But I’ll try and give you some noteworthy tips based on my experience.
  
  1. Be social. Surround yourself with you best friends (assuming you have some still and did not alienate them while you were in a relationship)
  
  2. Be social. Don’t spend extended periods of time alone.
  
  3. Do NOT keep things that remind you of her! And if you don’t want to get rid of them, at LEAST hide them away for a year or more.
  
  4. Stay away from alcohal and other depresants.
  
  5. DO NOT CALL HER OR INITIATE CONTACT WITH HER - not right away. It will be tempting. But set yourself a SOLD goal, no less than 2 weeks!
  
  6. Exercise. Physically and chemically, exercise is not only healthy but it is proven to have a positive impact on happiness.
  
  Hmmm… that’s all I got for now… but think twice before you decide to disregard one of these tips — save yourself some pain.
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

• I am computer literate,and I need a laptop.Anybody
  

  Do you have ANY money to spend? You can do one of those rewards programs if you’re desperate - but you’ll have to pay some money to do it.
  
  Example: www.laptop4free.com
  
  And these websites aren’t scams. Responsible people CAN get the items. I’ve done two - one of them was a laptop. One of my best friends did one and got a big screen TV. But you have to be very responsible and pay attention to the DETAILS and record EVERY SINGLE offer you participate in - keep a calendar - and make sure you CANCEL before the trial date ends!!!
  
  Other than that? Try e-bay for a cheap laptop.
  
  Other than that? You could look on craigs list (type “craigs list” into google) and check their free section… but GOOD LUCK finding a laptop there.
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago

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