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hey rebel, sorry i was not online last week, hence couldnt reply your msg. Let me know when you are back.

whoa, i also just got back to help.com after being away for months - so what have u been doin? im lookin to talk n listen - thats me i guess - hope u r doin good…im just hangin out whats in your thot’s? :)

Then just let her have her tantrum.
She may just want to back off a little or she may just be wanting to see how much you grovel.
Either way, if she wants to be your friend then she will soon come back.

Yeah, but you have to remember that not everyone is in the same mood as you all of the time.
Sometimes people just need personal space no matter who wants to get in it.
I mean I have at times told my kids to back off when they cling all over me all the time, it doesn’t mean I love them any less, just means I need a little space of my own.
Try to understand that and not attack someone for it.

mmm well it’s hard to say any more like what to do or not to do…I mean if you plan things and then things don’t go according to plan then you get upset or mad or sad because it didn’t…sometimes it’s better to set an over all idea of what you might want to do so you stay away from anarchy but also that thing uhhh too much organization you know?

i already added you :) xx

yeah oh well just gotta stay chill and stay up =)

now check invites, you should find one from me. It is just below notices link.

lets be friends, check my invite.

hey i saw your post the economy is fairly hard but i mean you gotta start small end these days if your going to get a job and it sucks unless you have a degree or experience where you can apply to other jobs.

hey, rebelgirl, how r u? just sending u a shout to say hi - hope your day is good!…Will :)

HI’s

you look a little like Avril Lavene

If that’s you.

just sent you a friend request.

Reb, I’m hoping you’ll understand…
My friend cried off going driving Tues evening - said she was too tired. We kinda arranged to go next day. But next day she was off to her sisters for the evening. And today she hasn’t texted me at all…
Last time she was like this she’d rowed with the bf. I’m scared she’s done the same.
But I really miss her. I’m feeling :o(
I’m trying to be really chilled about it…
But I dont feel that way, I feel thoroughly fed up. :o((
:o|
Sorry to rant! You’re the person i thought most likely to understand. :o)
How’re you doin?

Everyone deserves their dream, but not everyone gets it. The world isn’t fair.
:o(
But I haven’t given up yet. I’m stubborn like that. :o)

How’s things with you?

Well, tis a bit of a risk, but you could try amused honesty. If my friend said that to me, I’d prob say something like ‘haha, hard not to be jealous when my friend is as fab as you are! :o) Why, did I look grumpy?’ and see what happens.
That might just be the worst piece of advice you’ve ever read tho!
:o)
How’s things with your Mum?
I’m really sad. I applied to be put on the approved list for something political. It’s been a dream - sometimes a pipedream and sometimes a plan - for twenty years now. They turned me down. I’m sore all over. :o( I have to leave it a month and then they’ll give me detailed feedback.
And this is election time here, and I have to do all the electiony work for Barry without the dream to keep me going.
:o(

hey girl…whats p

But that’s what sisters are supposed to do, look out for each other!
:o)
Dunno. Absolutely no notion.
Hugs back back is the best I can manage!
:o)
How’s today going for you? Hope you’re ok.

Hi donna,
Your life seems so complicated. Why’s your mum kicking you out? :o( Any ideas?
I really, really don’t know what to say, except *hugs*.
:(
James

How’d it go? The funeral home?

The story?? Well…
Started giving a lift into work to a friend as I passed near her house. Then she was off for some weeks with an op. And while she was off I thought, as she was 17 and that’s the age you can learn to drive, wouldn’t it be cool if she was on the insurance of my car and learnt to drive in that. But bcos I knew she’s be really pleased, I wanted to be sure that it was possible before I said anything. So while I waited for her to get well, I checked it out. So first I checked with a friend at work what she thought, what people would say, and she thought it was a fab idea. Then I checked with my wife, and she was fine with it. Then I checked that the insurance was affordable. And last I checked that you could drive from hers to work without using the motorway, cos learners aren’t allowed on it.
She told me she was going to be back in a few days, so I tried a few last routes to see what worked.
And it turned out she knew I’d driven past her house.
She didn’t think ’stalker’, but she was very very uneasy about it. And so she didn’t want me to give her a lift in anymore. And I found that hard and we had a row, and then I found out that she knew I’d driven past her house, and I was hurt that she didn’t just ask…
Anyway, we carried on the argument on our mobiles and on something at work that is almost the equivalent of IM. And one particularly bad message was just before her appraisal.
Now bless her, she was only 17… When they got to the bit in her appraisal when her manager, who was the HR manager, said ‘Is there anything that concerns you, any worries you’d like to raise’, she told her about me driving past her house, and about the texts and IMs. Next thing, I was in before her and the big boss. I thought, and I think my boss thought, that I was up for sexual harrassment!! Which I wasn’t. But I didn’t know what she’d said… But I just said ‘yes, sir’, and ‘no, sir’. I wasn’t washing our dirty laundry in public!!
Anyway, we’re friends now, and she is on the insurance and I am teaching her to drive. But there were times when I despaired of it ever being set right…
:o)

Hi Reb!
:o(
Awh! Of course, your dream is prob just what your subconscious is scared of.
I once dreamt that I shot one of my boys. Waking up and finding that was a dream was one of the best moments of my life!! :o)
You poor thing! It’s awful waiting for a friend to come to her senses…
Gosh, I’ve a story to tell along those lines but it’s too long for now! :o)
Take care! :o)
James

:o(
I don’t really have anything very helpful to say. :o( In some ways it was easier for me bcos we’d had a row and I just had to grovel and wait and wait and wait until she forgave me. It was only a silly misunderstanding anyway.
It’s much harder for you, with everything supposedly okay.
Do you get on with the bf? He’s very old for her… Not that that necessarily matters. I wonder how things are with him? She may just be avoiding you so as not to have to admit that things aren’t so hot for her.

Awh! Sounds hard. Blowing hot and cold, we used to call it when I was a kid. At least you are still talking and hugging, so it’ll prob work out okay. In the end. But the waiting is sooo hard.
I once offended my friend, and we didn’t speak for 3 months. For some of that she wouldn’t even look at me. We got thru it in the end, but it used to hurt so much every day.
:o( How long’s it been like this for? The whole time she’s had a bf?

How’s it going Reb? Hope you’re well.
Did you and your friend click? Or did you argue?
:o)

yah, I passed over it today…thanks to you too for the post and happy easter.
Nice to hear from you..it’s been a whiiile!

yeah totally know wot you mean :) encourage good happy thous. Lots is going to change for the better. You should start seeing a more positive help from now on

Thank you for the report on the post http://help.com/post/142720-why-does-… I have deleted all the inappropriate and hurtful responses. Keep up the good work :) Ditzy

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Thats good. Just try to keep being happy and you’ll make it.

Hey, thanks :) I feel much more supported here than by my friends too. I hope you and your friend sort it out some time!

I know it will be okay in the long run.

I’m sorry. I think it was for the better that I lost my friend. It sucks I know. I went for like 6 months without friends because of her.

I’m sure you’re a nice person and could easily find some new friends and could even become best friends, if the one’s you thought were friends are going to act like they are, when you’ve done nothing wrong. Maybe that’s the best thing for you until they decide to wake up and realise that you’ve done nothing worng and it’s just them being silly :D I’ll be you’re friend but maybe not as close or as good as the one’s you could get or find around where you live :) xxx

Hello!
I’m replying to your changed friend post, as it kind of made me think about myself and the people I’ve known. I can honestly say that I’ve always been myself and only changed my clothes in my life and not how I am. Others that I’ve let close to me have changed, I’ve even told them to their face, and they just say that everyone goes through change in their life and this is their change. As much as I don’t like it, I would have to agree, the majority of people do at least have one change in their life, even if you don’t notice it yourself.

im good nm hello

hi

well now I’m part of stage crue and the musical

actually it’s kinda boring because we go from 2:45 till 6:30 and theres like no braks

hey not much. so bored. u?

I’m part of the musical at the high school

good, normal, and kinda boring, but It was fine none the less