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I was really mistaken……..
I feel bad when he shows up cause he hasn’t called me to even talk about what happend. I asked him to chat about it ..he said he’d call me …7 weeks ago……
A real jerk as it turns out…..
Even when carefull and serious we can still run into poeple who tak eadvantage of us..
Feel bad about it even though ‘nothing happened’ as he said when I tried to bring it up…

A pitty ..When she ’s out of town it will be easier to forget her.

In my case , i think you are right, he never called me again, I sometimes see him at work but I feel very bad when I see him cause I thought he really liked me and we had a chance to start a relationship. Apparently he just wanted to flirt , I did not allow him to go further and from then he stopped contacting me, so I guess he was just looking for fun as you mentioned here..I feel bad about it but I can not change they way some people act…

Untill now he hasn’t called me to chat about it……It’s been almost a month ..Guess he won’t anymore…
I wonder how I could have been so mistaken about a college.

I can understand you feel helpless and think in a negetive way . It is you who decides what you believe, what you think. Instead of being a loser and killing yourself and giving those around you a bad feeling you can start to change the way you think.
Your mind controls your actions !!
Start to be confident and something good will come your way !!!!!!
Have faith in your self , instead of seeing yourself as a victim start feeling okay, be okay ..
You will see you will feel better and eventually will DO better !!!!

Suicide is no solution cause all the difficulties you went through in this life will repeat themselves in another life. Then you will have to go through all this again …You have come this far already so please continue.

Have faith and see that you are not that bad off…You ahve actually a chance to turn around your life from NOW on !! Don’t waiste that chance .
Start changing the way you think and the rest will follow !!!!!
Good luck !!

It’s probably those days, Christmas and New Year….I’ve felt a bit strange aswell since about a week. Let’s hope those holidays are over soon…
Wish you lots of Strenght!

How well do you know her/him? Do you meet each other outside of work? You can see this as a chance to ask her out for a talk. Does she/he still work with you or have they changed jobs?

Thank you so much for the reply Tjwoods. It does take a very long time indeed to let go of someone emotionally .
In this case it looks like he is willing to give it another try with his wife..which I understand cause I’ve been there myself:I had lots of trouble letting go of my ex boyfriend and tried over and over again without result.
That’s why I think it won’t work out for them anymore..which is sad for them but maybe better in the end for both of them.
I will give him time and be a friend , I will see what happens later on.
He said he didn’t know what to say to me..he doesn’t want to fool around with me either. I don’t know if I should see that as s good sign, I guess so.
I can’t hold up my life cause of his not knowing so I wil just live on and see what happens between them (and us maybe).

Thanks again for your wise words !
Enjoy these last days of the year !!

I didn’t see him on wednesday but left a message on his phone. He called back and we will have a talk about it soon. It seems like he’s still emotionally involved with his wife..which is normal.
I feel better now cause at least we still talk and will see what the future brings.

It’s so hard to finally step out of a relationship after years..I can’t blame him for loving a person he was married to for 6 years.

[quote SuperEggplan]Did you know him/ have any sort of relation w/ him before last Saturday?[/quote]
See above..a couple of months via work. We just talked but there was a tension there ..I felt an attraction towards him and he towards me (as he said saturday)

Thank you again, it takes time to heal from a broken heart and its consequences.
I will talk about oi and post the answers here.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas !!

Well a very nice post indeed and a partly answer to mine. As you say the pertner can not know or guess what you want..we musttalka bout it and act. Go for it. Only that can hurt a lot sometimes..it can even bring you donw when you give too much….I Guess we must know when to stop when we feel the other one is not at all co-operating.
But yeah…LOVE is a great power, it has the power to transform .

Thank you tjwoods, I am a bit careful cause I had my heart broken in my last relationship , my ex kept on pushing me away..that’s why I am a bit afraid to make too many moves towards him .
You are right, guessing doesn’t help any of us. I will talk to him on wednesday when I will (hopefully ) see him at work or ask him if he wants to see me again.

Maybe I worry too much..It is better to see this from a guy’s point of view sometimes.
Thank you !!

Just try to be you , connect to your inner self and what people say or think will become less important. YOu will feel at ease with yourself.

Thanks all of you for you replies .
Actually he is a collegue at work, he started to give me extra attention a few months ago. We talked now and then and he passed by to see me at my desk now and then. He works on the other side of the building so we have to really pass by each other to see one another. After talking and talking he finaly called me up one day and I invited him over to have a chat. Nothing happened , then we saw each other again at work and we set a date for last saturday . Saturday something did happen , we kissed and held each other but did not have sex.When he left he said , see you on monday.
He came by on monday to say hi for a couple of minutes, I send him a thank you sms with a kiss which he preplied the day after . Then I went to see him at his office. In between he worked 4 nights. On wednesday we are supposed to have one shift together..so we haven’t really made plans. Since I made the last move I feel like it’s up to him…I do not want to force myself into his life.
I would like him to take action .
I’ve been alone for 8 months, his wife has left only about two months ago after a year of trouble.
That is how it really is..

Dear Chrisw79, I hope that more than a year later you have moved on and have found a way to deal with your lost love.
Sending you lots of blessings !