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Thanks for the advice. I know it is up to me to change my own life. No body to blame but myself for misery. Our marriage was great till this came into his life. Now it’s hell, but when you live with an addict, you soon forget the good times. I thank you for the ear.

I just wanted to let you know that YOU are worth living, sending hugs.

Sending hugs….

Well your not in this one alone, I just took out my first payday loan…Mistake, I only work part time from home and I really needed the money so I took out a payday loan..I wished I wouldn’t have. But I had no other choice. Best of luck, and send some luck my way.

I agree with everyone to wait till the end of year, and provideing he is not married…. I would persue it. Best of luck

Please try to get yourself into rehab, although that is much easier said then done. After a month we are still waiting for a bed for my husband. My heart goes out to you and I in no way judge you. I don’t understand the addiction. My husband went through treatment 11 years ago for alchol and relapsed after 11 years only to turn to shooting cocaine. I am so upset and hurt that I can’t even stomach him anymore, but I hang on till he gets a spot in rehab, we have been married for 16 years. His sponsor told me he will use till he gets into rehab, and he is right. I hate to see the night fall. I know what is ahead. The first step is admitting the problem and then doing something about it. You are headed in the right direction, don’t give up you and your body is worth the fight.

Check with your local salvation army, they usually help each year. Best wishes to ya

I hope she understands and values your friendship enough to understand and rather keep you as a friend rather than lose you all together. But I don’t think you should feel guilty either. Your feelings are just that YOURS. I will keep in my thoughts.

My heart aches for you and your family. Have you also tried for government assistance? I shake my head in shame that our nation could treat a vet this way.

I would go with happiness. I have never had much money, in fact struggled most of my life. Was a young mother and lived with them after my divorce in the projects(2 months) I eventually found my way out of the projects and found that when I did have a little extra money to do something with my kids, there was no better kind of happiness in the world. Not that the extra money brought my happiness, in fact I bought a bag of apples and we made baked apples sat around the kitchen table eating them and had the best time. Go with happiness…

If your a high school drop out, how are you attending college?

I watched the video, rather interesting, I actually liked it. Thanks for posting the link.

I think it depends on if the friend makes sure you are ok and happy as well, make sense? Ya know kind of like it has to be a two way street and not always a one way.

Hello HiGuy, just curious on how things are going on this issue for you?

So your saying you have not shared your feelings with the best friend?