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anybody else have any experiences ?

well im 30 male and my doctor wants to try it. she says she has had a lot of success with it and she is watching the levels very closely

you have to a little more specific ? what kind of error message ? what are you trying to do ?

and fyi with compulsive eating disorders etc you dont stop cause your full thats what makes them so dangerous

look for resources in your area . you need help there is no ? about that. this site looks promising to at least push you in the proper direction http://www.shopliftingprevention.org/…
good luck hopefully this site can help and possibly point you in the direction of local help to help you with it.

just use your anitivrus which I assume you have to scan your entire pc and remove it . I also suggest downloading freeware spybot search and destroy (google it and get it from the safer networking source ) it will help you remove minor trojans and spyware browser hijackers etc. just from personal experience dont use the system setting protecter its more trouble than its worth but the the browser helper is great ! fyi why didnt your antivirus not automaticly (sp.) detect and remove it ? I havent met a antivirus that did noy have real time scanning that catches that stuff. might be time to get a new antivirus….

i usually just use what I use for my computer monitor which are electronic cleaning anti static wipes. i use those on anything I cant just spray with windex or something

I have been looking for one too. im not sure how to join and would like too cause it ticks me that some stuff you cant get anymore cause they stopped printing it or cause its an import you pay like 4 times whats its worth and I hate getting ripped off like that.

[quote Da⌐11]I would agree its a gamble; she could instead loss him if he does not try to get her back. But than perhaps the relationship should have been ended.

“messing with peoples heads” is not always an inherently bad thing. Psychologists and physicists routinely “mess with peoples heads” to get their clients to see an issue from a new perspective.

Leaders “mess with peoples heads” of there followers in order to motivate them.

Negotiators some times “mess with peoples heads” of the person they are negotiating with for mutual benefit.

And in so many ways people “mess with the heads” of the people they are in a relationship with. To boost their ego; My wife is applying for a this new job, truthfully I have my doubts about it, but its what makes her happy. So instead of telling her I have doubts I tell her everything is going to be ok and not to worry. That’s messing with her head.

This guy needs to get over the fact that he feels like a victim, that he feels helpless to the whims of a woman he can’t trust. Two very powerful things for people to get over. My suggested plan helps him get over those feelings.

By creating a situation where he needs to win her back; he is now in control. He gets to decided if he wants to be with her or if he wants to move on.

I know he gets to decided that now, but now there are two many strings attached. Its hard reclosing the idea “should I stay or show I go”; change is frightening and fear of losing something is overwhelming. Why do you think so many battered woman stay with the person hurting them? Because change is frightening and fear of losing something is overwhelming even to the point where the beatings seem like the beater choice.

But if that fear where taken away by making him live through it than he is in a better position to take charge of his life. He no longer has to decided he should stay or go, he doesn’t have to worry about losing her, he doesn’t have to fear the change; because all of those things have come to pass. Now he has to decided if he wants to win her back or just move on.

If he is too hurt to want to be with her he will move on. If he realizes that his love for her is stronger than infidelity than he will try to win her back.

He is no longer the victim of fate; he gets to decided his fate. He is no longer a guy who is with a girl that cheated on him; he is a guy who decided to be chivalries and claim the hart of the woman he loves.[/quote]

i dont entirely agree with your methods but i do see your point. its a valid argument.

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link to the video for tha king nothing song

[quote Dr. Ralph]He who laughs last laughs best…[/quote]

the statement of ignorance. and somethings are just sad and pathetic and not funny at all when your in them. I suggest listening to song by metallica its called “king nothing ” off the 1996 album load. what good is the last laugh if their is nobody there to have that laugh with you. its sad lonely and pathetic is what it is. good luck to you.

[quote theresape]Ignore is better. Revenge and anger just take too much out of you. And they give the other person too much power.

Ever heard the saying, “Living well is the best revenge?”

It’s a powerful concept.[/quote]

thank you somebody with a brain stem !!

[quote Da⌐11][quote venomsblade][quote Da⌐11]Well there is one think you can do; but it is a bit wrong. So do so at the risk of your own morals.You could leave him; tell him you can’t be with him if he can’t forgive you; that you wished it was another way but its not because you can’t change the past. And than you leave and don’t speak to him again for a while. He may find that he can’t live with out you and try to win you back. If he does that will be his choice to do so; he will have chosen to win you back despite your issues. In his mind he wont be the victim anymore he will have willingly chosen his fate. Some times that is easier to live with.[/quote]

I realize you do give a disclaimer saying its wrong but these ideas should not even be entertained at all ever. the desparte mind in love will do whatever it takes sometimes blinded with emotion . and all you are doing is adding insult to injury by even entertaing this notion. it will not be if the it will fail it would just be a matter of when .[/quote]

I would have to disagree; the plan I outlined is very short on the way of deception. Nothing I suggested would have been a lie at all.

The feelings between them caused by the infidelity quite possible is to much for the relationship to work. She would not at all be lying telling him she could not be in a relationship with those emotions involved. I know I couldn’t, one can not live in a constant state of remorse and regret. There comes a time when one just needs to stop saying they are sorry and move forward. At such times the relationship would need to end if the other party is not willing to stop looking for the remorse.

So her part in the suggestion is very light on deception. The only deception I could see is that while braking up with him she was secretly hoping things would improve because of her actions. But that’s not really lie ether; because she would have said “I wish things where different”.

The reason I said that it was wrong from a moral stand point was because she will have put the punishment of her own misdeeds on the person she loved. Making him pay for them and not her.[/quote]

I see your point I do but whenever you try to pull a power play like that and force the blame to shift by basically saying well if cant get over what I did im gone you are decieving and messing with peoples heads. he already is pretty messed up with all of this to begin with and this is essentially trying to take an easy way out , shift blame , and force him to make a decision instead of doing the right thing and trying to let him heal and be the best she can be and hope he canforgive and forget.
your point of view is a very big gamble and prolly wouldnt pay off or do more damage in the long run. somethings need to run their course. I’m not saying she has to spend the rest of their relationship bowing and scraping but that she needs to take ownership of what was done and make ammends or move on but do it in a way that is healthy and not by trying to manipulate the situation and have an alterior motive. not roll the dice and see what happens.
fyi these are my views please dont take them as a personal attack.

[quote Wendor]Just follow your heart, jeez.[/quote]

[quote Dr. Ralph]I was born to answer this one… out slick him. Do something worse and don’t let him know until you want to stick it in his face!!![/quote]

wow just wow and thats were all the drama comes from. nobody wants drama but everybody is busy creating it with these kind of views. why cant anyone just be smart take the high road and let the rest just wallow in their own filth and be the pigs they are. make a better choice.

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