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All the support and advice has kept me strong and going through this hard time. I just wanted to let everyone know how great GOD has been to me in answering my prayers and touching her heart. She stopped and talked to me 45 minutes or so yesterday on her way to work. We hugged and our eyes meet where we could only stare looking deep and frozen in what I know could only be true love, then she kissed me and it took 10 minutes, her being late for work and everything in our power to break the kiss. Around 9pm she called me from Griffin Hospital and said she had to transport a prisoner there and was going to be late getting home, she was upset because the girl I was telling you all about that is living with her and watching the kids, anyway her phone is out of time and she could not reach her to let her know. I was use to the late nights but the other girl was use to her being home at 10 on the dot everynight and had not seen these nights. She asked me if I would ride out there and let her know what was going on, she said she almost called the law to me in town and was still upset to be careful. She said if the girl got real upset to tell her and then go to the store down the road and wait for her, she would stop and talk and tell me goodnight. I prayed and went there. Yes she was upset at first and I asked her for 10 minutes to explain my feelings and side she said ok. So we went inside and talked. In 10 minutes time I poured my thoughts and feelings out and she understood and forgave me and told me she wanted Tonya happy and not hurt, wanted her to stop waking up 3-4 times a night crying her eyes out and talking about how much she loved me and missed my arms around her. She told me the guy friend who she had been talking to tried to make an advance at her and she rejected him for me and made him mad. She said he has texted her and called her cussing and telling her she owed him for his friendship and was irate when she told him she was talking to me and loved me. To make this a little shorter, the girl let me wait for her, she got home about midnight and was shocked to see me there, but happy to. I fixed her a plate, made sure she ate and got her night clothes on. The other girl went to bed and she wanted me to come in the bedroom and hold her, I held her tight telling her how much she ment to me and how I wanted to be nowhere else in the world but right there. I looked at her and asked her if I needed to leave, she grabbed me and said no but I could make love to her. I thought it was to soon and didnt want to hurt her, but would never leave her wanting me that way and turning her down, so carefully we did. I got up this morning and let her lay there and rest, Told her I was taking Zeb(my 8yo stepson) to school. She smiled kissed me and said please come home after work. I wanted to stop here at moms and post this before heading home. I have been blessed by Gods very hand and I will never let her go, and will die before I see her hurt again. God bless you all, you are in my prayers, I am off home to be with my family. God what a intervention I have my family back. He can truely do ANYTHING.

Thank you Heather, I believe so also. I could feel the love she still has for me in her eyes when she kissed me then looked at me. I told her when she was leaving, because she was now late for work, that I hoped she would call and I hoped to talk to her tonight when she got off, She said I will see you when I get off. I have hope more then ever now and faith that continues to unfold.
God Bless

Just to let everyone know, my 1st two marriages did end with them both cheating on me, I don’t feel guilt about re-marriage to Tonya because she is a believer and I am more then 99% sure she has not and would not cheat on our relationship. I have backed off, put it in Gods hands and gave her space to think and heal. I want all to know she has called me out of the blue for the last two nights stright. Last night she was worried because it has got a little cold down here and she wanted to make sure I had enough cover and was not cold. She still will not say I love you, but its a start just calling me. God is moving I can feel it. Please continue to pray for us and I will still give her space, and just let her know I am there if she and the boys need me. God Bless you all and thank you for your advice.

1st off, you tell your mom it is not her fault. Read my post, I am helping others so I can hopefully lessen the pain I feel now. Your dad is an adult with a mind of his own and HE and HE alone made a decision to do what he did. No one held a gun to his head and no one can go back and change it. I assure you though, someone will come along and show your mom just how speicial she is and wipe the tears away. Then he will want her back and like me it will be to late, then he will have to live with this horrible pain that will seem like only death can relief. I will keep you all in my prayers and wish you the best.

Trust me I know how it feels to be at the end of the rope, but if you do have faith in the lord remember he says, I am never late and will never put on you more then you can bear. It may seem like it but this test of faith will also pass and you WILL make it through. Never talk down like this, but show your lord you are trying through your actions and be in good spirits. I will keep you in my prayers and may your actions prevail. A friend in christ.