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Hi everybody, it has been a while since I have been here, but it order to answer your comment, I will do the best I can. Ames has a good start. ” Actions do speak louder than words. ” Showing Love is something that comes from the heart and let it do the talking. Do not let you hormones get in the way which sometimes does. Sex is not always the answer the first. It is part of it. To show Love start slow and do little things, go for walks, go hand in hand, push each other in a swing, go swiming together, go to a movie, out to dinner, make each other a card or you make that person a card. If you have trouble saying your feelings then say them to the person you love in poem form. It does not have to ryme. All these things I have mentioned some are free and most are very cheap to do. You can start out small and go the sky is the limit if you want to. You did not say if you male or female so I went general and this would work with either sex. I hope this helps. If need any more help let me know.

Rider

Hi I have been gone for a while. Your question on marriage is very complicated and it is not one to be taken lightly. I will be the first to tell you if you are not ready to be ready to be ready do not make the jump. A lot people do it for the reasons you mentioned, and some for just the sex, which in itself is wrong cause that will lead to a divorce too. Marriage is not just saying I am going to be with you cause I love you. Marriage is a comittment. A very big one, yes you are telling your companion that you are going to be with them cause you love them,, but that you are going to be with them for everything both good and bad. That includes making the big deceisions that come with them. Yes there is going to be surprises that are going to be very nice that are going to make everything all worth it. Hopefully the good out ways the bad. But there are no guarentees in life, and if you are not ready to make this big of committment stay single, to many jump in a marriage not realizeing what they are getting into, there is more but I tried to make as simple as I could. If have any more questions I will be glad to answer them

always remember which alot of people forget money can not buy love no matter how rich one is

Do not give up on trying to get help for you mom she will not like it but do it any way. She will be very angry at first but later once she sobers up she will thank you for it. It will be rough at first but if you get the right help they will help you also along the way. Merry Christmas Rider

you need to reread what i posted before the only other advice I can give you is to contact a church pastor, clergy, bishop of some type or the salvation army they specialize in this sort of thing to help with this, that is the only other options I think of right now to help you and the best of Luck to you sweetie, I know right now everything seems very down but I think some how with a lot prayers you will pull through and if I do not talk to you before then Merry Christmas. Rider

go to the salvation army in your area they may be able to help you with your current crisis plus refer you to organizations that can help you with what other needs you may have /also try the cathlic charities in your area they should be in your phone book they sometimes help when its is medical and health related go from there and then start phoning the other churches that are in your phone book to see if they will help this will take some work but at this point you have no choice

exercising helps

I really wish I did I have wrote to over 70 of them myself with no response. What I suggest you do is go to the web and put in foundations and get a list of them and start writing to them and see what happens.

keep me posted on how things are working

I so glad that everything has worked out for you, sometimes things are always as bad as they seem. Things have are on the up for you. I am here when I can be just holler I am about to go back into the hospital.

Now you should be free of mind. I am sure we are all very proud of you. You do not have to worry about going to jail. Sweet Dreams always.

Hey shout me any time you want and I hope things are stopped for your sake.

I do not understand this either. I wish there was a way to stop it. I am with you I hate the F word with a passion. But everyone seems to use it so freely now and I do not know why. The only thing I could suggest is that you start a club a school to try to show a way to end to thing of stuff. See if you can get your principals help. All you can do is try and start the ball rolling and see what kind of snow ball effect you can have. Every little bit helps,

When one wears there emotions on their sleeves;
they are usually left open for;

Friends coming and talking to them about their problems and expecting
you to kept them secrete. Without any concern about your own problems

Yet we tend to hide our problems as much as possible from everyone else
so friends look to us as very good listeners.

We expected to be exceptional problem solvers and when we can not come up with an answer for something then it seems the world is going to fall apart as if its our
fault

Anytime anyone is in trouble for any reason no matter how big or how small we are
the first to run to and last to be thank and/have noses shoved down at us

If we can not be there then the world is going to fall apart and it our fault and
we need to change things to fit their schedule guess what we do not

We say yes 99% of the time when most of those should be no’s

We need to start saying no more a lot more and start putting things back
where they should be

We need time for us too

just popped in to say hi and see how you are doing and hoped you are doing okay. wishing you the best. Rider