briliantdisguis's reply history at Help.com

Thank you so much for all of your help.

OccultPizz, well actually he was legitimately drunk. He drove himself off the road and crashed. but thats beside the point. Your reply made me smile. Its been a while since ive done that. and for that i thank you. I often wonder whether I will have a future with him. I wonder whether he will be able to raise a family and stay clean. I didnt think that was possible. Your post told me otherwise. He was clean for a short period..when i met him and a few months after that he began using again. (I worked a lot and when i was at work, he was using. I didn’t know for a while. Then i caught on.) Did your wife benefit from those meetings? I think Im going to go to both the narc anon and al anon meetings.

inter-wenc, he is trying. He is trying very hard and im trying to support him but i feel the wieght of the world at this moment. i know that sounds cliche but its true. I have two friends who are in florida who i talk to via email and they are my support system. They are very helpful but when i dont have those emails i still need guidiance or rather, someone to listen. These forums have been a way for me to deal with depression and guilt. Thank you so much for your post. It really helped.

Silverwings, Thank you for taking time out of your day to help with my issue. the second link was most helpful.

Ive never been religious either. Sometimes I wish that i did believe that someone was watching out for me, but theres so much doubt in my mind that I cant.

I think you should consider why you werent religious in the first place. Faith is a powerful thing. If you belive in something so fully it doesnt matter if its true or not. No one will be able to tell you something different.

You can believe in a power greater than man, not necessarily a god or a certain religion. You can practice your own religion. Being religious doesnt mean you have to attend mass or church services. You can believe and pray and meditate on your own and still have that faith that can help you get through the day.

i hope that helped a little.

Im so very sorry. I know what is’s like to love someone so deeply that you forgive and forget over and over. But what I have learned is that everyone has a breaking point and a responsibility to themselves. She is hurting you. Its evident in your post.
You cant keep taking her back. Its only hurting you. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to break ties with her completely. She obviously does respect you if she “made a mistake” and continues to make it over and over again. You deserve better.