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you’re right. maybe i am just his girlfriend… but if he is online chatting and hooking up with other people i will be out of the picture and it’s as simple as that. i need to know what i am opening myself up to.

Keep up the good work, good luck with your new job. I hope you had a great Labor day:)

Your profile sounds like Jeff.
He’s likes bf2 as well.
Is this really chuy??? nah just joking

you bother me? NEVER hehe, i quite enjoy ur alledged bothering of myself. that makes no sense typed but it did in my head
im sure ill see u on the next post, and stop out typing me lol

well thank you for the compliment that i interest you… well i hope at least its a good interest and not like wow your crazy lol. and would u mind telling me what got out of hand? you lost me on that hun
take care, im sure ill see u posting stuff

ok now your starting to sound like me just kidding k if you really want my advice i dont think you want to hear cuz its only going to help you when you are ready to hear it honestly i think this guy is just playing with you it doesnt sound like hes over this other girl yet and any relationship without trust is not going to be a good one i know cause its been 1 and half since my girls last lied to me and i still dont think i can trust her and if you cant trust him then believe me your going to go through hell with all the what if and whats he really doing thats all going to be going on inside your head i know because ive been down this rode with my girl and i still am having serious problems with her and honestly i think im just wasting my time with her because really i think shes just stringing me along and that sounds like what your guy is doing to you i dont think he really loves you i think he mostly just doesnt want to be alone and maybe even using you to get this other girl to be more interested in him i think you should break up with him and move on i know this is not what you want to hear and i know its hard i only wish i could take my own advice and as well my fathers advice and do the same but i think in your situation where hes still talking to her is bullshit cause hes not showing any true feelings for you other than he just wants you around so you can fill in for this other girl and you cant do this anymore you need to start thinking about yourself and not him start thinking about what you need and want and not about him there are lots of guys out there like me that would want to actually be with a girl like you and please continue to talk to me i want to hear more from you and maybe i can be more help to you if you need it sorry if i took too long to get back to you

Thanks for the reply I do need help. I just don’t understand it…why does this so called boyfriend of mind keep telling me that he’s “in love with me” and wants to marry me? He told me that he only talked to her because she made contact with him & he admits being selfish. He said this time it was partly to make me mad & because he wanted to screw her. I cut him off sexually 2 months ago because of our arguing. Since he told me that we probably won’t be together period but I am really hurt over how he did me.This girl actually left her cel number with no name stuck to the front door of his house telling him to call asap. This is true because his mom found it. He was not there at the time because he was with me. Though, he did not mention this to me for the 2 weeks they were talking. I found out that he was communicating with her this time because I do have the phone records. She is the only chic that he has communicated with according to his phone records. I want to know why? What is your opinion on this issue?

Did you ever alk to her?

Talk to her and tell her what you just told me. Be open. Ask her to marry you. Can you move where she is? If you love her so so much be with her please. Find a cheap place where she lives and set up camp there for a while until she is ready to move back home. Please talk to her and ask her what she wants. Do it right now. Call her up!

i dont know what to do anymore i really love her all i ever wanted was to go to work and be able to come home to her every night just to be with her and now that shes away its driving me crazy i miss her so much and she hasnt even been gone that long ive always none that i wanted to be with ive dated other girls and none of them ever made me feel the way this one does i was going through girls a differant one every week people have differant dreams ive had only two in my life and one was to be a pilot and be in the airforce the other one was to go through the temple with her and be zealed for eternity does that give you an insight into how much i love this girl and want to be with her i can imagine living my life with out her like i cant even picture what it would be like to not be with her and the thought of it scares me

If you love her and really want to be with her. Then love and be with her. Love is a crazy feeling. It tends to make us think badly in my eyes. Not that love is bad or wrong it just can be hurtful sometimes.

You’re not taking my time, trust me I’m on here all day. You’re young, I would just have fun and play for a while. Getting in a real relationship at 21 is hard because when you turn 25 you will look up and say dang I was way to young to love. Just have fun worry about love later when you are more ready.

im sorry i appreciate your help and im not trying to dominate your time i just wanted to get a womens point of view on the whole thing
i welcome your knowledge and wisdom i am only 21 and am just looking for guidance thank you for your time and patience

yeah but i cant just turn my back on her weve been through alot together and i cant just ignore here knowing that it will cause here lots of pain and suffering i love her i mean truly love her i dont know why i just know that i do and life without her just doesnt seem like anything i know there are other women out there but i dont want any of them cuz there is only one of her and i want to be with her if i didnt i wouldnt have stayed with her for 3 years knowing full well that she would most likely go to colleage

Turn off your phone and do not talk to her. She will get the hint. It may take a week but she will back off. Once she gets over the main hurt she will be fine as well as you. It takes about a week for the crying and deep pain to go away. Yes she will have anger and she will cry that’s normal. You must stay strong and keep fighting.