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• what makes unkempt, scruffy, highly unattractive men want or feel they deserve pristine, perfect ten, well established women. posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  I guess this is more of a rant, because this guy I knew for quite a while that was as messed up as t…

• What about me keeps attracting gold toothed, jerry curl old pervs? posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  They like to say the same line heyyyy der gal? Or how about the ones who been to jail, with tattoos…

• My dog keeps waking me up really early to take him for a walk by barking really loud. posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  How do I get him to sleep till 9 or so?…

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• (1 vote) I need help supporting my husband as he is a cocaine addict.
  

  I don’t see this mentioned here but your husband needs your prayer and so do you. Let me explain, when a spouse acquires an addiction believe it or not they become “two” people metaphorically speaking. One is the person you knew and fell in love with and the other is an alter ego, some call it a spirit, but to put it in simpler terms an altered version of the original personality. The more dominant personality or the personality he stays in the most is the one that will decide what he does and how he reacts in different situations. This is the addictive personality, if at all we can separate the two and suppress the second in order to allow the first to surface (also called detox) and have him start a regimen of being in the original one just for an hour to start then increase it as you go along until he can go a whole day then go from there along with therapy of course. The prayer comes in because it will help with this process what ever you guys decide to do. But some people hear prayer and they say “yeah OK” but here is what to pray for and trust me it works and quicker than anything else you could try. Pray for strength, peace, wisdom, for his freedom of addiction, for a quick recovery, for healing for you and him. Then try to put some outside activities together like long walks after dinner or anything to take both your minds off of the situation so you are not constantly battling this, that can be exhausting. Next and this is going to sound funny, see him healed and well in your mind, if you do it right you could pull that dream into the present. People call this the law of attraction and it has worked for so many years, I’m sure you guys have heard of it it’s called “The Secret” look it up on the Internet, I’m sure there is some information about it. Now this is not a religion even though it derived from the old testament in the bible but what the authors of this book has done was took God out of HIS laws but all you need to know is that it works, I say this to let you know “every disaster can be traced back to a bad decision” and because we have free will we are free to make bad or good decisions. But as the best selling book says MANY are the afflictions of the richeous BUT HE SHALL DELIVER THEM OUT OF THEM ALL. Isn’t that good news? Who is the righteous you may ask? Any who believes on him.
  
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago – voted for by lena g

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• what makes unkempt, scruffy, highly unattractive men want or feel they deserve pristine, perfect ten, well established women.
  

  If this is the case notice different races look at “pretty” in a different way. i.e. whoopi and that guy she was married to Lyle Trachtenberg, and the guy she is with now David Claessen. Not that she is unattractive but her beauty is not obvious.
  - written 2 years ago

• What about me keeps attracting gold toothed, jerry curl old pervs?
  

  yes! And I tried to make him think he had the wrong number and it didn’t work so I had to just get on the phone and tell him I’m not interested while he was begging and stuff, scared the mess out of me. He wouldn’t take no for an answer.
  - written 2 years ago

• what makes unkempt, scruffy, highly unattractive men want or feel they deserve pristine, perfect ten, well established women.
  

  but you gotta admit, you see MORE women with ugly men then the other way around.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• Here’s a rant for you all.
  

  I agree with you.
  and you look like my cousin!
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• My dog keeps waking me up really early to take him for a walk by barking really loud.
  

  I have taken him out 4 times per day, I have cut off his water at 6pm, I have sat with him, and played with him for 2 hours, and he still goes outside at 3 or 5 AM and does a dime size pee and no poop till 6pm.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

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