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I wish I knew how to do this… I know only a little about computers. Sorry!

I truly believe that EARTH is a school and we are in training for a better place once we die. I believe that God created the world and everything in it. I believe our purpose on earth is to learn how to love in spite of all we face here. If you see a stray cat it will try to scratch you and bite you if you try to pet it. If you give that stray cat love over and over and over no matter how many times it tries to scratch or bite you or hiss at you and push you away it will eventually stop trying to do those things and allow you to pet it. Once the cat understands that you are trying to pet it and give it love it will start to love you in return. I feel that everything is like that in the world including people. We on earth are suppose to love and do what is right even if we get scratched, hurt or turned away because if you keep doing it over and over with patience you will only then know true love in return.

Sorry but I never even read your flower idea…. Besides everyone gives their date a flower or corsage before going to a dance…

You can dress up in a suit and tie and have a flower in your hand and ask her. That would be really funny and cute.

I agree that some posts seem pointless but maybe they are just lonely people wanting a friend somewhere….. Who knows…. but I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. This website is HELP.COM so if they come here they may be here because they may just need someone to talk about nothing with… BUT I DO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE SAYING….

Sometimes it is hard to break from the FRIEND ZONE into the GIRLFRIEND BOYFRIEND ZONE. Have you told her how you feel? If you are afraid to do that do something small and see how she reacts to it. Pick a flower and give it to her. Drop small hints that you want to be more than friends and see if she responds. If she does not respond the way you want… sometimes being friends is more important than having a relationship that can end and change everything.

I know you want to fit in and wear the cool clothes like the populars do…. Everyone wants to feel like they fit in. In your case you have to just do the best you can with what you have and be confident with who you are as a person. Clothes do not define who you are and how cool you are. You need to be happy with yourself and find the GREAT things in yourself. If you are low on money you can go to THRIFT STORES and find great things when you really really look for really inexpensive prices. Anyway, clothes ARE NOT WHO YOU ARE and BEING HAPPY WITH WHO YOU ARE and BEING YOURSELF is always most important.

Have you ever tried to find out WHY people tell you he is a player? Do you know any of his old girlfriends? Did they get mistreated by him? The fact of the matter is that MAYBE HE IS A PLAYER…. OR MAYBE HE IS NOT. Sometimes people like to start rumors because they are jealous you have a boyfriend and they don’t. Sometimes they want things to stay the same… THE WAY IT WAS WHEN YOU WERE SINGLE so they say things like that to make you want to break up with him. Sometimes people say things like that BECAUSE THEY ARE TELLING THE TRUTH and WANT TO WARN YOU. How do you know? You have to be smart. You can continue going with him but don’t let him USE you. You are in charge of yourself. As long as you are in charge of yourself then you won’t have any problems EVEN if HE IS a player. You only get played if you allow it. Go out with him and really be honest with how you feel around him. If you use your head and are in charge of yourself when you are around him… you will be able to see if he is player for yourself. You don’t need people telling you what you can find out on your own if you are smart and honest about how things are when you are with him. SO USE YOUR HEAD AND BE SMART and you will figure it out.

I wish there was something I could do for you but I am also in need of money and seeking someone to possibly help me in some way. Please know my prayers are with you and I hope you find a solution soon.

I know that life really sucks. I have had bad things happen to me too from sucky people. Sometimes it feels like I should be on the PLANET MARS because I don’t fit in on PLANET EARTH. I understand how you feel and what you mean but there are GOOD PEOPLE out there somewhere. You only need ONE GOOD person in your life to have a reason to be here. They are hard to find amongst all the negativity but THEY ARE OUT THERE. Try to let one in. Until then… I hope that you know that you can talk to me. I hope you know that I am here and understand what you feel like right now.

Only you can put an END TO ALL OF THIS. Be strong and take a stand. Make sure you are never alone and if you happen to be with him and he tries something when someone is not looking…. SAY SOMETHING OUT LOUD for the adult to hear you. For example… shout STOP THAT RIGHT NOW! This way maybe the adult will turn around and ask you what happened and you can give the adult the idea of what just happened just with the look that is on your face. Sometimes one look can say it all. DON’T BE SCARED WHEN SOMEONE ELSE IS THERE! Let this guy know that HE CAN’T DO THIS ANYMORE because you have a voice.

You are truly someone that knows what is important. Thank you for sharing such word of wisdom with others.

You have to CHANGE your phone number and try to block his emails. There is usually a way to BLOCK emails if you look into it. Try to cut off all forms of communication AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. This guy is someone you should deal with only when you have to and that would be when you are in your classroom with a teacher there.

You still have to try to make sure that you ARE NEVER ALONE. This guy sounds really pushy and like he won’t take no for an answer. Guys like this are unpredictable and you may not be able to do this by yourself. If it gets really bad you have to tell a teacher or an authority figure. I know it is scary to tell someone but it is more scary to have this guy bother you and follow you. Please be careful.

Thanks for writing me as I am still learning how to use this website. I am just very scared for my brother and I. We don’t have our mother or father anymore and we are having trouble with paying our mortgage on our house. We both just got great jobs but just got a letter in the mail saying that we are going to lose our house since we are 6 months behind in payments. It just seems so unfair that right when we get jobs and can maybe turn this around that this has to happen. We need a little financial help to save our house. We can start paying in DEC 2007 since we both just got work at an insurance company and will be able to afford the payments now but it is not going to be in time. All we want is a chance to make it and we are soooo close. I hope someone out there that has the means can help us. I am really scared and feel like we are so close but yet so far to being o.k. with the roof over our head. Thanks for asking and for reading this. I just found this website today as I have no place else to turn.