BaconByAnyOtherName's shout trail with [think peace] - Help.com

:] thank you.

rightly so.

yeah, i agree. I feel good about this acutally. I’ve now got the skills to help others the way he helped me. I’m proud of who i’ve became.

like i said..Everything changes

No it doesn’t…but it does mean that I’m going to have to let go somewhat. I actually met him on help two years ago…and without him there’s no way i’d be able to help people like i do.

it makes plenty of sense. everyone grows beyond their teachers at some point. though that never necessitates their disposal.

thanks. It’s funny, the friend that I was talking about he’s my hero…he’s helped me grow into the person I am…and well I just realized that I don’t need him anymore. I knew it’d eventually come, the day when I could stand up without him…and i know this will make no sense when you read it…but it does to me.

youre doing well so far.

You’re right. I overthink way too much. It’s my biggest problem. I’m trying to work on it though.

i learned a while ago that you cant second guess yourself.

thank you. I needed someone to tell me that.

sorry, that was a bit verbose.

your sister-in-law is a different story, however. In the coming months, the likely scenario is that her condition will worsen. Its important that you keep yourself updated on her situation. If the situation goes south, youll need to be there with her. Ultimately, this may end up being less of a comfort to her than it will be a comforting memory for you. You cant…absolutely CAN NOT let the fear of her loss get in the way of you getting closer to her. If you let that happen, youll regret all the time you couldve spent with her but didnt. Spend every minute with her you can, no matter how uneasy it makes you feel. And when the time finally comes, and shes about to pass, make sure youre there for her then, too. After the end, youll be torn up. It may take weeks, months….years, but eventually youll recover. Youll never quite get over the loss, nobody ever does, but youll be able to look back on the happy memories with her. youll be able to remember not with regret or with remorse, but with happiness.

We’re closer than I’ve ever been with someone my brother has been with. She’s a lot closer to my age than his ex’s…but she wants me to spend time with her this weekend, which i’m scared of…as selfish as it is i don’t want to get closer to her, cause then it’ll hurt more, but I’m going to anyways.

how close are you with your Sis in law?

in that case, i cant see anything going badly other than a surgical catastrophe, which is highly unlikely. Hell recover.

Thanks and I know. I know that everything in the end will work out for the best. Its just the journey getting there is tough, but hey it’ll just make me that much stronger. I’ll be fine :] and he had emergency colon(sp?) surgery. There going back to fix it completely if eveything goes right.

nobody likes change, but, better or worse, everything changes. Soon youll settle into your new life. Youll find a way to communicate with your old friends, and youll find a way to make some good new ones. Your mother will either get over herself, or she wont, in either case she needn’t continue to be your burden. Your father is going into surgery for a second time, thankfully enough, surgery implies that its fixable. I cant say anything definitive without actually knowing whats wrong with him, of course, and its none of my business if you dont care to divulge that.

Yeah you’re probably right. I know that I’m handling it well, and it proves how much I’ve grown…if this was just a couple of months ago I’d be having a mental breakdown.

youre doing well if its just “getting to you”. lesser people would be in a state nothing short of mental breakdown.

excatly. I’m trying to be strong and all like everyone thinks I always am, but to be honest it’s getting to me.

ill say. Jesus, when it rains it pours.

Well I’m 18 so yeah just graduated and starting college, which is enough to stress me out…cause i honestly don’t do so well with change…i’ve lost my best friend and I miss him like crazy…my mom keeps attacking me for things I don’t understand telling me how horrible i am…my step father who i’m very close to is very sick and is about to go in for his 2nd surgry in the last month…and on top of that my sister-in-law just found out she has cervical cancer and they caught it late so she doesn’t have a high chance of making it through the next two months…it’s just a lot.

its what i do.

sigh. you really sure about that? cause if you are i’ma let it out and vent like crazy…

thats no good. Im here if you want to talk.

who me? wow been awhile since anyones asked that. heh. Hmm…I’m just kinda emotionally exhausted to be honest. I’m annoyed with a lot…very stressed, which is why i’m freaking out on people a lot more often than normally.

whats on your mind?

no it’s fine, no reason to be sorry. I do care, a lot…and thank you for apologizing even though it wasn’t your post that bothered me.

sorry for anything insulting i said to you in my Mikey post. you genuinely care, which isnt a bad thing, and you dont deserve to be berated for it.