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Thanks for your offering. Can you complete the email address for me please, is it .com .co.uk?

Well, it looks like your husband is really afraid of that conversation. I think you need to be very tactful about it. Maybe the key is to make him reflect as to whether he is truly happy with you (he will say yes in order not to lose you). Start the conversation on those lines and let him have a couple of days to think about it. Then when the conversation is re-taken that’s when you must show humility and explain that the kind of love you have for him is different to he one you need and altough you do think the world of him is not making you happy.

Obviously, I would be able to give you a better approach to the situation if knew him, but that’s probably how I would like to be told. All the best

In my opinion and experience you have to grab love when you get the chance. As painful as it may be you have to tell your husband the truth. By your posting this is not a feeling that turned up when you met your ex, you more likely have been looking for a reason to do it.

That answers my the main question I had in my head. Would you rather be on your own than with him? I think the answer is yes. Real hurt to his feelings will be telling him after 10 years that you never loved him, when he has lost his youth (and you wasted yours) and things may become very bitter between you. That would definitely affect your child’s growing up experience.

Be prepared for things not to work out with your ex but go ahead if you are really in love. Good luck

I think the best you can do is to make her face her own gossip lines with the people she has talked to. Make sure you find someone who he has gossiped to about you and when the three of you are in the same room, or even better amongst other people ask why she said it. If she denies it, she will making the other girl a liar, if she accepts it, she has to explain herself.

Golden rule though, control your anger, the coolest and in control you appear the best the results. Don’t let her wind you up at no cost. These kind of people hate confrontation, and if her gossip is based on thin air, it will evaporate sooner than you think.

Next gossip going round will be, what a bitchy queen she is.
Good luck.