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Did Jim Henson write your life?

I hope you have a delicious hat.

Ergo, no. Not a fact, although I can see how one might beget the other.

So I guess what I’m saying here, is that eating pot noodles whilst hungry does not guarantee face noodlage.

Try eating the noodles with your hands. Facial noodling can thus be avoided.

That’s somethig that will take some research. My recommendation is to go to the police station in person, and ask someone there what county services would be appropriate. Obviously, if there are family members you can trust, that would be the very first stop!

Also, you’ll get a lot more help if you post this as your own question, so people visiting the site can see it. Click where it says “help.com” at the top, and type it in o the front page. Lots of people will be there to help you.

I recommend finding friends and family who will not mind supporting you through a difficult transition, and leaving once and for all. Just go, and tell him or leave a note - but only once. There is no need to open the door for getting back together. The only way to help him is ot show him once and for all that people will never tolerate his behavior. Staying with him, or getting back together with him, only teaches him that you like being hit. I promise you this. Leave before you get killed, and never go back - not to show him, but for yourself.

Do they have fuji apples in Sweden? They’re my favorite. I’m also partial to the braeburns and the honey crisps, when it comes to straight-up eating them.

You know, I’m just playing catchup here, but keeping a sense of humor about things and keeping your chin up doesn’t make you a fraud, it makes you brave. It helps you keep thinking and dreaming bigger than people around you might be comfortable with, and it keeps the process of making those dreams into truth more fun for you than it is for the suckers who don’t know how it’s done.

It’s okay to demand respect, and it’s ok to demand a laugh, love. In fact, it’s such a rare and useful skill, folks have built careers on it. whatever you decide to do, keep your laughter and your moxie right there with you. And keep them fart jokes a-comin’!

Jasper and Jim!

I guess you can’t keep a good New Zealander down!

One thing at a time, I say. The friendship issue can confuse people who don’t want to hear it’s over. Start with simply breaking up, and let him soak that up - and while I have no doubt you care, you can’t be accountable for his fears. Just let all that go. Tell him it’s over, and don’t ask him to like it or be okay with it. Don’t ask for permission.

If he’s mature enough to get over it, work on the friendship then. Right now the best thing you can do for him is get him to understand that it’s over and done, so say that and be done with it.

You mentioned that you haven’t cut in a long time, and that’s awesome - but the real question is what ARE you doing? It’s a poor analogy, but bear with me. I recently became a raw vegan, after a lifetime of meat and potatoes. The trick was finding foods I liked way better than the garbage i used to eat. Quitting meat didn’t work. Giving myself better food to eat did. And I’d definitely suggest losing the therapists that abused you, if you haven’t already. Stick to the ones that help you feel better!

I actually know people who have built financial empires in horses…

That being said, if you don’t feel compelled to follow that side of your passion professionally, then I guess the question is how does one parlay your experience in law and a passion for elevating the underrepresented into a high-paying job that addresses the disease, rather than the symptoms, right? It seems like you’re chasing symptomatic problems, and you’re noticing that everyone else who’s followed that path before you has wound up shriveled up, crazy, or both…

So attack the disease instead. Help these people before they need a lawyer.

My first impulse is to suggest writing a book - or finding some way to educate as many as people to address the issues you happen to be an expert in - before they become a matter for the courts. Keep your hands on the equity and get it out there, and all of a sudden you’re in control of everything. Then again, I work in the media. It’s one idea, anyhow. Maybe there’s something in the “system” that can be tweaked to help these people. There’s another idea. And who’s to say the two are mutually exclusive?

If you’re looking for a more one-on-one approach, I suppose one could set their sights on becoming a judge - I’m sure that’s something you’ve already made some kind of decision about, come to think of it. But that’s the way to control how the individual symptoms get treated, if you want that control.

If I were to ask you exactly what the problem is, and why these people you were helping were in a fix ot begin with, what would you say?

And if you find you’re chasing more than one disease, it just means you’ve got a long career ahead of you. Does that make any sense?

For the record, Shadylane, I like your style.