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• I am alomost 50 yr sold…lonely and depressed.
  

  Studies suggest that voluntary work consisting in helping others in an area you consider important is a very strong life improvement tool. It is a natural antidepressant and health improver, proven to change vital functions. We are actually hardwired to create social structures and assit people. Our individualistic society is somehow counter nature, therefore the success of blogs or sites like this one. Your tiredness and feelings are connected to the fact that your role in life seems to have finished… we then cease to see the point to go on, but it is not necessary that it has to be so. At 50 you have still a lot of strenght left for many things and you have an encyclopedia of wise knowledge about life. They say that while we are less able to learn new things after 35 we are able to link events and needs faster… we are wiser.
  
  I find the story of a millionaire that lost everything, became alcoholic and then actually recovered and started helping others with alcohol problems interesting. He at the end just earned enough to live with basics but he said he never remembers being as happy, not even when he was very rich and he had a family (probably a money based relationship, the wife run when he lost the money).
  
  His feeling is because we are made to socialise, out nervous system needs contact and to feel useful. Just think what is that you like, type of action, problems that are at your hart, and where to start. Then useful people attract friends automatically. Why am I here at www.help.com, not because I have a problem (I have them like everybody but I don’t feel the need not posting… yet), but because I feel an innate need to try to be useful to share the things I learned from life. I sponsor a child in Africa, I hepl a ruined student pay his fees, etc. I just get so much back just by giving without asking. Just the feeling alone is worth a lot.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• So I’m really depressed and I think I’m about to start cutting my wrists.
  

  Interesting that in such a post the helpbot automatic info for suicidal people does not come up.
  
  Get out in and start looking around you. Life, sea, sun… Start paying attention to other people instead of yourself. Forget yourself for a while and I believe you will discover some other way of living things. I think we are all too self obsessed, and suicidal people top the group, so the opposite is the medicine.
  
  But do not go around thinking about your miseries, concentrate on all the rest, look and think about the increadible complexity and beauty of the world. Be just happy you are allowed to be here for some years. I am not suicidal, because life is short, and whatever the pain an trouble I know is finite, so 20, 30, 40, 50 years are just like a day. Every day is a day of the rest of my life says the song.
  
  It is funny, but the les important you consider your feelings and your situation, the happier you are. Just enjoy every moment, even the bad ones are just life.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• please help…im so confused…i have a girlfriend
  

  hayjhay is right, you cannot keep living out a lie that is a foundation of your personal reality.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• I don’t love my girlfriend any more.
  

  Just consider carefully what you do. No realtionship lasts in the romantic sense of the adrenalyn rush.
  
  You can discuss and develop some spice between you two.
  
  I just feel that if she is dear to you and a friend, this are the things that make relatioships great later in life. It is the foundation of a relationship, does not matter if romatic or friendly.
  
  Today we all want that romaticism, fire and passion every time and to stay always flaming. People change and relationships always settle down somewhat. That is why we have 50% divorce rate and many more not marrying. We are addicted to hollywood style ideals, to the pursuit of emotions. Remember high emotions are peaks, these always come down again.
  
  You may need to add something to the relationship, we need always to reinvent our relationships. The more you look and crave other things, the worse it will get. You will end out there, but I am not certain that in the end with a better relationship.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• Hi I work my butt off but feel i’m getting no where.
  

  Xbox is probably right. I said it is very difficult to do it through a blog, a few have managed. A blog can be fun though.
  
  But again check other the opportunities of web based jobs, but I have no direct experience.
  
  I know some people started buyinh wholesale wooden toys and started selling them on ebay as a side job… now they live from this. But it is a hard and disciplined way in any case… but rewarding, and at least we try.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

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