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I remember reading some quote somewhere about life being a series of peaks and troughs or hills and valleys or something and it’s true. Nothing lasts forever - not even bad times. Do what is necessary to solve your problems of the moment and look to the future when things are bound to be better.

Sounds as though she has an inaccurate self-image. Many of us can’t see who we really are because the mental “picture” we have of ourselves bears no resemblance to how others see us. Have a look at:
www.ultimate-self.com/self-image/

Your mother does sound annoying but also very well meaning. There doesn’t seem to be any doubt that she loves you and is concerned for your welfare. My mother used to annoy me to the point that I couldn’t even be in the same room with her at times so you can understand I have a lot of guilt since she died.

I really think motherhood stresses some women out so much that they go a little crazy. I don’t know what you do. See less of her? tell her less about your life? be more tolerant?

Alcoholism creates a kind of insanity - not only for the alcoholic but for everyone around him and especially for those who love him. You are exhibiting all the symptoms of co-dependency. I suggest you join Al-Anon for the family and friends of alcoholics and read the book “Co-dependency” by Pia Melody. But above all examine whether the “good times” balance the bad. Many of us have wasted our lives loving an alcoholic. Believe me it is not worth it.

Call me cynical but $15 per form sounds a bit too good to be true. I’d search the site for terms of service/use, conditions, etc, then print the pages out and read thoroughly. There are also sites online that review money making schemes. I’ve come across a few but can’t remember them offhand. A Google search will probably come up with them.

You may have found something really good but from my experience the best way to make money is in the real world. Good luck with it all but be careful there are so many scammers around.

If you are a beginner why don’t you start with a blogging program. There are many free ones available, they are easy to use, you can make them look like a regular website if you choose the right theme, and you can sell stuff from them if you want to get into e-commerce. You can also learn a lot about web design and programming as you go.

It sounds a bit suss to me. What sort of rebates?

No. No one can be so busy that they can’t spare some time for someone they care about.

I have the same problem. My doctor told me it is due to the sensitivity of… some medical name I can’t remember… but the solution is not to go to the toilet when you feel the first urge to pee but to hang on for awhile. If you go every time you feel the slightest urge it makes it much worse. It sounds strange but it works for me (took a couple of weeks to improve).

Another cause of a weak bladder is urine that is too acidic. I’ve used Ural, which is a fizzy alkaline drink that neutralizes the acid.

If it persists after that see your doctor because it could be an infection or something.

Yeah, I think earning anything more than a pittance online is almost impossible. I know someone who is trying to make money writing online and for hours of work makes just a few dollars. So, a few ideas:
Can you cut back on expenses? Or luxuries? Or things you want but don’t really need?
Have you stuff you don’t want and can sell? - Maybe on Ebay, or at a garage sale, or local market.
Can you make or cook something to sell(at above outlets)?
Can you get a part time job (stocking supermarket shelves, at Maccers etc)?
Could you start a small, part time business, such as car detailing, gardening etc.

I’m running out of ideas but I’m sure if you put your mind to it you can think of heaps more.

I’d be inclined to tell her that you are taking a step back until she is free to be with you. I don’t want to be down on her but surely she can see how hard it is for you? Just explain how you feel.

I think the answer to your question is what type of person are you?

The army is not for everyone. A guy I went to school with joined the Australian army and it nearly wrecked him (emotionally). It’s hard to imagine the reality of something we have never experienced. There are many pros but many cons (discipline, lack of freedom, being forced to do things you don’t want to do, taking orders from people you don’t like, the possibility of killing others or being killed yourself, fitting into a non compromising macho culture etc). Give it careful thought.

Ah, love does that to us all. But try not to get obsessed (difficult I know). If you can take a step back for awhile and distract yourself with other activities and people until your girlfriend breaks from her other relationship it will help your sanity.

It’s hard I know. You are very sensible though to realize he won’t change. Many people live in hope that their loved one will give up drink/drugs/violence etc and waste their lives waiting.

You need to expand your life. Take up new interests, make new friends, do things and go places you don’t normally. You might also like to check out:
www.ultimate-self.com/letting-go/

If other people tell you that you are not fat they are probably right. You need one of those charts that shows the recommended range of weights for your height.
It seems as if you might be obsessing about weight loss when you are already a normal weight. If that’s the case it’s probably a symptom of low self-esteem and lack of self-acceptance.